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Show EDGE OF ROMANCE IS DULLED BY-33ME- By BETTY BLAIR The belt help parents can give their children in their love affairs has been begun in earliest youth when they teach them to be responsible re-sponsible for their emotions and erotic passions, and that it takes much more than these for happiness in marriage. Dear MissBlair: I Since she was IB1 years old. my daughter has gone steadily w.th a young man who seemed to be as devoted to her "as she has been to him. Every Christmas he . has sent her flowers and gifts, ' Heart's Haven also for her birthdays, and he ' has taken her on nice dates when-' when-' ever be could afford to do so. 1 She has recently turned 20. Now, however, just before Christmas, they have broken up. I can't find out where the trou-i trou-i ble is, but she has other boys taking her out. and I have learned he Is going with other girls. Farsightrd ' I think mothers are more far-' far-' sighted than some daughters when ' It comes to a choice of fallows, and I think aha and this first boy ' mn eaaetly eulud seek albas, but I am ahushed If I try to say a word. Right down in her heart I think she la feeling very bad about i breaking up and that she is Just . trying to smother her own feelings feel-ings by going out with these other , boys. I know she has had a big , romantic passion for the first boy. , Is there anything a mother can do to belp make things come right , for her daughter who won't talk bout ber troubles? "Mother." e e Every mother would like to shoulder shoul-der the troubles of her children, but to do so would be to make them spineless and forever unable to solve their own problems. Young people learn much by the trial and error method. They feel eapable and strong and able to take care of themselves. Nerd Lave Make your daughter think that you have full confidence in her abil-- abil-- ity to solve her problems, but that if she needs you, you are right there with your love to sustain her. Young people don't want the un-asked-for advice of their parents. They do appreciate love and confidence confi-dence and the fact that you are within reach when in their weakest momenta they want to let down their back hair. And, "Mother," here is something I want to whisper In your ear: Not , until parents are able to teach their sons and daughters that romantic passion is not the omnipotent element ele-ment in marriage that we have ' been led to believe for so many gene rattens, will love and marriages turn out happily. Mora Than Romance When young people learn that to have much In common. Interests, tastes, activities, background, a common cause, together with mutual mu-tual love, then will they have the real basis for a happy marriage; not until they learn te know each ether as well as it Is possible for them to do so, and then make the beet of the knowledge they afterward after-ward gain of each other, will mar-riages mar-riages ever approximate hkppineaa. This much must be taught in the borne, then young people will look for something more than romance to guide them In their choice of companion. Te go steady for four years as your daughter haa done, Is to reach the stags often reached la marriage, when the faults loom above the romance. In courtship there are no Use to hold them. This Is one reason why I try to discourage discour-age young people from going steady when they are too young to analyse their choice. GOOD USAGE Dear Miss Blair: Please will you write another literary "hot-pot" as you did a few weeks ago or was it months and tell young people, and clubwomen, club-women, too, not to say they "feel badly" when they are ill, but that "feal had" ia correct- 1 leave it the difference between the expressions ex-pressions in a wedding invitation of "the honour of your presence" and "the pleasure of your company," com-pany," but I still don't quite understand, un-derstand, Will you explain? "Elaine." aee The first expression, "the honour of your presence," is used in an Invitation to a church wedding. The pleasure of your company" is used In the Invitation to tbe recaption. up to you. 1 think your bne ia been. More power to you. "Helen." That's telling them. "Helen," and gnaybe they'll remember to do as you say if they'll remember flret that only blind people "feel badly," as they speak. In a tactile sense. HONOls OP TOCB PRESENCE' Dear Miss Blair: The engraver tried te tell me |