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Show Mother Fears Sympathy Act Is Overdone By BETTY BLAIR Perhaps tha greatest obstacle to human understanding, happinasa and paac of mind la self-pity. A child should not be given the Impression Im-pression that hit misfortune I' unique, but that hii la a part of Heart's Haven tha common human problem to be born courageously. Dear Miss Blair: I dont want to Interfere with the war my daughter la bringing ap her young children, but It aeema to me sh sympathises with (hem too much over every little bump they get and every little thing that happens to them. I think sometimes they cry Just to bear themselves and to get her sympathy and It is making big ary babies of them. Don't you think sympathy can be overdone when they are little? Thanks for your opinion. "Grandma." - - It Is a great temptation for moth-bra moth-bra to "baby" their babies, but as you suspect, it Isn't good for them to be encouraged in self-pity. Children Chil-dren soon get the habit of feeling very sorry for themselves. This Is th most widespread and crippling of aU th emotions. They soon begin be-gin thinking their hurts are th only hurts there are. Adults who are entirely self-centered can trace this condition back to their childhood days when they were taught to look In upon themaeivea by parents who sympathised too much. H who Is abaorbtd In self-pity baa no Umi to pity others, or to attempt to understand any trouble, problem or point of view except his awn. Teach th child that bumps are IK tie things to be laughed over, rather than big things to cry about and you hav given him the first lesson In human understanding for others. . UPPER AND LOWER Dear Miss Blari: I don't know how It began, but at our dinner party on Christmas Christ-mas day an argument started In fun but waged seriously before K ended with th decision of all that it be submitted to you. This i th problem: Why does a man loss th hair . from th top of hi head but pre-' pre-' serve his neckline, while a woman : saves her hair but grows a crop of double chins? This really Isn't meant to be funny or was It th Christmas cheer we drank that aud It seam so weighty to us? ' Anyway I was delegated to writ i th letter and here it ia, and we bop it isn't too trivial to deserve aa answer. -Secretary." a a a X wonder why you dldnt Include waistline In your argument aa you sat around the Christmas board, j Or was that really th way th argument argu-ment started? i rirst, let's seals th neckline: f Ever watch a man twisting his neck around while be shaved, and again ! whan he put in his collar buttons? Men gained on roll under their china when everyday shirts were 1 mad with collars attached. But th stretching and twisting they j give their necks when they shave ! . keeps their necklines sveht Women ' forget to exercise their necklines since they aren't required to do so ta th act of dressing. Fifty Stroke i But did you ever see a man brushing brush-ing his hair 50 strokes before he ! goes to bed? Well, If all woman j don't give themselves the full 60 every night at least from th time they were httl girls, their hair has been brushed and pulled, and exercised exer-cised during th process of arranging, arrang-ing, much more than that of their anal kin and friends. Men may perform th mechanics of hair brushing by fits and starts, but sever regularly enough to get remits. re-mits. Msa wear tight hats, too. This may not be th scientific answer an-swer as to why th upper half of a woman's head la younger than a man's and th lower half of a man's boad younger than a woman's, but I wonder if my guees is as good as war thou fiva at your Christmas PANCAKE BATTER Dear Miss Blair: I wonder if th new brides know this little hint about making pan-oak pan-oak batter, or batter for omelet and puddings: If they will add bait a teacup of cold water to th milk they use th product will be much lighter than If milk alone la axwd. A happy New Year to you and year host af readers. Mis Blair. "Mrs. J." a a Thank you for your timely hint "Tars. J." and we return your New Year's greeting. |