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Show FRIENDLY GESTURE IS AIMED WRONG By BETTY BLAIR - Some mm still presume to be the lords of "creation, nd their wives re supposed to be blind, deaf and dumb, so far as having any human hu-man feelings is concerned. To rebel is to start a destructive revolution; revolu-tion; to employ passive resistance is to be turned to pillars of stone. Dear Mis BIsir: . May I enter your corner once more? But first let me tell you what a grand comfort you ara to -r- us human who seem in get the threads of life so badly tangled. Heart's Haveir In fact, I think there is a crying need for riore doctors of emotions emo-tions like yourself. I hope you will always be there when we need you with your helping hand and willing guidance. You are a true necessity, and to me your advice is invaluable. Now for my problem: Just how friendly should an employer be to hi stenographer, and how much should shs decently accept from him when both are married f Friendly Gesture? Is It unreasonable for the employer's em-ployer's wife to be angry when tier husband takes the stenographer stenogra-pher out in the evening under the guise of a friendly gesture? In r's wife wa out of town and the stenographer's husband was working work-ing at night I suppoee any wife must be Very unreasonabls and narrow minded not to think this Incident and many others similar to It okay. At least her husband says ahe is. I disagree with this husband, hus-band, but then I am only the wife. What do you think, Miss Blair? "A WIFE AND MOTHER." a a When "friendly gestures" step Into the roles of husband privileges, they are quite patently stepping far out of their own realm. Except with his own wife's consent could any husband presume that he could "hav a data" with any other woman, wo-man, office wife or not, and not . plant the seeds of discord that like most other noxious weeds would choke out the tender flower of domestic harmony. WIU A Is Pay The stenographer who presumes that she can accept such favors and go unscathed from the glare of public opinion, her own husband's lack of interest in her, and ths total loss of respect of her employer's wife, and finally of her employer, has her perspective wholly distorted. Her greed for attention la leading her to the kind of public attention from which she will one day cringe. It la not unreasonable to expect any wife to be emotionally upset when the relations between her husband hus-band and hi office employe step from the realm of the purely business busi-ness to that of more Intimate relationship. rela-tionship. Emotional Poise It la the emotionally poised woman wo-man who doe not let a situation of this kind upset her. Blessed be the on who ha attained that stats of composure that event that ordinarily ordi-narily wring a woman' heart leave her in possession of her reasoning faculties. Badly, they also Isav her cold. Perhapa only the woman who heart ha been wrung dry attains that emotional adulthood. It ha It advantage In that ah at last know peace. That nothing, not vn If the world fell down about her ears, could disturb her to violence vio-lence of tears, to agonised moaning aver her lot. She la at last rid of all self-pity. She pities only those whose emotions beat them down. Thanks for your beautiful faith In im ability to help you. Remember Remem-ber this, that In the long run only jrou can help yourself. words are like golden apples on a screen of silver. Thank you. "A. W. M." The words are, "A fool's tongue Is long enough to cut his throat, while worda fitly spoken are like apple of gold In pictures of silver." Confucius, like Another Great Teacher, had an economy of worda that produced powerful aptness. HOME CORRESPONDENCE Dear Miss Blair: I feel so despondent. I had planned on going to college this year, but wa unable to do so, aa I am the only one In the family without a Job who can stay at home to look after an invalid mother. I have a lot of time for (tudy, but without aome direction don't do much. Can you advise me about regular courses I could take so I can get credit? Thank you. "JANE." a a Write the University of Utah extension ex-tension division, "Jane," and ask for Information concerning the home correspondence course offered of-fered by which you may get credit. I'm wondering also If It Isn't possible pos-sible for you to take regular extension exten-sion work offered by the university in evening classes and by which you receive college credit. Surely those of your family who work during the day would be willing to do cheerful duty to the Invalid during the evenings eve-nings and let you off one or two evenings each week to obtain this kind of "first aid" for yourself. J |
