| Show J MARRIAGE PLANNED iON ON FOUNDATION OF I ro COMMON INTERESTS S Snobbishness Blamed for Break in Friendship Sister t Ob t Family Pct Gifts Kittens for r f Ii a f By BETTY BLAIR w Marriage after the first romantic has faded resolves itself into into a partnership of mutual interests and respect Lacking these it lacks the Ingredients for marital M happiness M Dear Miss BlaIr I 1 have a problem starIng me In inthe the face that I must decide decIde within with with- in the next few weeks A thin tain boy and r who will be grad grad- 3 1 this June have had many in in- wt in common c and though t. t h 0 u J h r neither of us has d d the grand pas pas- sion fOr the oth w cr we have a deep m mutual tu l J We now v are are con p mar m r and a con con- con ot our scientific studies b back ck east together I am withholding a his h proposal until I can overcome over over- come a certain feeling that has been bred in me that two people peo- peo o. o pIe should never marry unless they are In love with each other I have seen many cases where two who had nothing noth- noth ing but this exuberant love as asa a reason for marriage faIl utter utter- iy in their marriage When theIr romance had fled they had nothing noth noth- ing in left to hold them together We both realize that it is our interest est in our work wok and imd the fact that we work so beautifully together to- to nether gether that create our main Interest Inter Inter- est in each other We do have other interests in common belides be be- Fides lides our passion for our work and there is never a dull moI mo mo- mo moment I ment in our association wIth each other PI Please are give me your opInion as asto asto to whether two people with so much In common yet lacking a Letters questions and re requests quests for advice should be addressed ad ad- dressed to MISS BET BETTY T Y BLAIR HEARTS HEART'S HA HAVEN VEN TELEGRAM SALT L A K E E. Write legibly upon only one side paper It 15 necessary that you append append ap- ap pend the right name and address ad ad- dress but these will be held in strict confidence and will nt appear in print Questions Question involvIng Involving in- in advertising information annot be answered great romantic love are justified in marrying ULTIMA ULTIMATUM your chances meas measure e S ure ot of happiness that keeps people contented and at peace with each other oth oth- er erand and the world about Pare are far above the average in the marriage you contemplate The tad fact that each completely understands the situation that your greatest happiness probably never would lie in the realm of romantic romantic ro- ro mantic love that you will find your greatest thrills and romance romance In the accomplishment of the work that lies before you le leads ds me strongly to suspect sus sus- poet that you are on yo your r way wayt to a special sort of happiness that people more self centered never achieve Your Interests will lie so far outside outside out out- side the ordinary r things that creep In to mar marital jealousy bliss possessiveness pos pos- that aggrandizement problems when they do arrive should be beso so impersonal as to be treated almost almost al- al most with that scientific aloofness that you put Into your our work Certainly there are arc many reasons other than the grand passion that make It perfectly rIght for two people to marry provided there is mutual respect respect re- re and that neither is being misled misled mis- mis led concerning the relationship that brought together to- to exists Many people are arc gether in mutual companionship that leads to marriage in the promotion ot of artistic social scientific and political po- po interests of society I SNO NEIGHBOR OR Dear Miss Blair I live next door to a girl with whom I have grown up When I Iwas Iwas was about 6 years old my father died and left my mother with a large famil family to support and with nothing but her hands and her determination de de- termination to do it with Life has been just one ha hard d struggle for all of us The only money I ever had to put me through high school was what I earned myself working after school until I was dead tired and then getting up at 5 o'clock in the mornings to get my lessons I always found work during the summer too as al did d my other sisters and brothers We would do anything we could got get getto gotto to do as we had to live But In spite of aU all these hard hardtimes hardtimes times we were a jolly family and had wonderful times er We could aU all see the funny side of life and when we would relate our oure experiences and the theU U things people we worked for tor would say to us we would eer- eer have fun This neighbor girl used to join us in our family circle and laugh and enjoy the fun as much as we did She was an only child and had nearly everything she wanted to tomake tomake make her happy She didn't seem to mind our beIng poor as we alwa always s had such good times together and she said sald she could never have any fun tun in her own hume home But lately she has changed so much she doesn't seem like the same girl Falls tn In Courtesy Her college girl friends come to see her and she seems to be ashamed of the fact that she even knows any of us I was over to her place one evening when some ot of her girl friends came She didn't even introduce me but excused ex ex- herself and went away with them Of course I got away home as fast as possible If it had been anybody else in inthe inthe the world I would have seen the funny side of this situation too but this hurt too much for me meto meto to even get a grin out of it il I wIll never JO go to her place again The thing that burns mel me up is that the very next day she came over to our place and palavered around trying to make a fuss over us as if nothing at all had hap hap- She made no apology whatever and I was very cooL She acted very foolish tryIng to tobe tobe be overly nice but when one of ofus ofus us is offended the whole family is in a case like thIS so we were polite but not friendly I If this had been the first time she had done things like this we might have thought she forgot to tobe tobe be courteous in her rush but it has happened to other members of the family too She highbrows my younger younger sisters when she meets them on the street and they know she saw them Do you think we should put ourselves out any longer to be nice to her or include include in in- clude her in any of our jolly fam fly ily affairs MEG bIEG No Meg Me g. g You haven't dropped her She has eliminated herself from your circle by her snobbishness When a friendship can be forgotten In the rush rush of newer acquaintanceships acquaintance acquaintance- ships all you can do is to feel teel mom momentarily momen- momen en sorry that the supposed friend was that kind of pe person on and to hope that the next friend you Include in your jolly circle will prove to have more loyal qualities It is my opinion that she is missing tar far more than you will ever miss in her herin in being thus excluded from the fine companionshIp of you and your cour courageous family amily And I hope that within a short time you will be able to smile over the situatIon ot of being embarrassed in the home of your onetime one one- time friend as you doubtless have smiled over far r more serious situa- situa FAMILY PET Dear Miss Blair My sister is the pet In our fam fam- ily She Is two y years rs younger than I and we have no brothers She always has her own way and my mother makes me do things that she cant can't get her to do 1 dont don't think It Is right to have a apet apet pet in the family when there are only two of us Do you Please e etell tell me how to get better treatment treat treat- ment TINY Arrange wIth your mother and its its- Is ter that there are certain tasks each has to perform Pia Play a game with the tasks and when one fails to do hers she gets a zero opposite her name written on n cardboard and tacked on the wall For every task well done place a red st star r opposite the name l If mother eo consents n to the game ask her cr to be the one ne to put the stars and the zeros by the names The Thc one who has the most stars at the end of the week should be permitted to take a vacation from one of her tasks for fora a 1 whole day which the other must do I dont don't think sister Is really the pet It Is only habit wIth her that she tries to escape her tasks arid and I probably habit that mother lets her do it The game should wake every ever everybody body up to the fact that bad habits habit should be broken KITTENS 1 Three kittens for gifts may be had at n. B. 1874 SIxth East street Call Urland Nyland |
