Show Your Marriage Premarital Experiences Offer No Reason for Justification By Samuel 0 o. and Esther B. B Kling Q Should premarital sex experience experience experience be condoned as a help in establishing good relations after marriage A A. No it should not There is evidence that such experiences are area a handicap rather than a help One survey for example studied the between premarital experience experience ex ex- ex- ex and degree of satisfaction in n marriage It found that a greater great great- er percentage of or persons without previous experience had made a better adjustment than those with such a background Premarital experience is undesirable undesirable unde unde- as well as actually harmful harm harm- ful To begin with real affection regard for the others other's personality and unselfish consideration arc are either cither entirely absent or reduced to toa a 3 minimum Indeed the crudest technique serves the purpose and Is all that thatis is b practiced for or the most part Physical ical Level Le Again the entire experience is isI I usually self-centered self and on a purely physical level This leads to toa a false conception of or what relations relations relations rela rela- should be What is equally bad is that such habits attitudes and selfishness are arc then carried earned over into marriage mar mar- often often with unfortunate re result rev re- suits sult In marriage the whole atmosphere atmosphere atmosphere atmos atmos- phere is different The relation becomes becomes becomes be be- comes the most intimate expression expression expression sion of the genuine affection felt by both partners on all aU levels It involves regard for the others other's personality and the unselfish seeking of oC the others other's highest satIsfaction satisfaction satisfaction sat sat- and happiness It is part part- ner-centered ner rather than self cen And to be able to give the greatest great great- est pleasure it requires a study and mastery of the technique which will prove most effective in that particular case Understanding Needed A knowledge of anatomy and technique an understanding of their own and each others other's sexual nature and a willingness to adjust will do far more to achieve satisfactory satisfactory satisfactory satis satis- factory relations In marriage than any premarital experience ever can Q Should you marry when you are in debt A A. Its It's not the best way to begin begina a marriage There are arc enough problems Involved in making a satisfactory adjustment without the extra burden of or indebtedness Certainly the fact that you owe considerable money should be re revealed revealed revealed re- re before marriage To enter into it without disclosing this fact is Js dishonest and deceitful Tomorrow What does a woman have a right to expect from marriage Released by The Register and Tribune Syndicate 1949 |