| Show q w V J c fi I IF F kM s' s 4 p 4 s 's v. v Make sure that your nails are well-groomed well and properly characterize you Dont Don't Worry Time Will Solve Many Problems for Parents By MYRTLE MEYER ELDRED It is human nature to want to do something to end a disagreeable disagreeable disagreeable dis dis- dis- dis agreeable situation rather than to sit tight and let it work itself it itself itself it- it self out A good parent has the feeling that every problem which confronts her every behavior behavior behavior be be- havior the child displays should be dealt with and solved imme immediately imme- imme Unfortunately there are problems problems problems lems for which there is no Immediate immediate immediate im im- Im- Im mediate solution If the problem is one related to growth the only answer is further growth Many a parent has written saying saying saying say say- ing that she started a letter several weeks before but didn't send it and now she doesn't want an answer to that problem it lem lem it has disappeared she disappeared she has another one which worries her Dont Don't ont Make an an Issue of Rudeness A teacher confirmed this statement Mothers come com to her so she says ask her how ho hoto to todeal todeal todeal deal with specific behavior She asks them to wait while she phe thinks it over Later when she has worked out an answer t they ey undesirable situation keeps on fighting et eternally Her problems never end Mother Is Not Interested Much of a childs child's behavior has no specific cause and therefore no specific antidote Rudeness and profanity seem to please and satisfy the child for a time and if no great issue is made of them the satisfaction evaporates rates Some children find satisfaction satisfaction satisfaction tion in being bad because badness badness badness bad bad- ness is a way to get attention so they jump from one misbehavior misbehavior havior to another sure of plenty of parental fireworks directed their way This does not mean that all situ situations can be ignored But they can s seem em to be ignored while the parent works to discover dis dis- dis- dis cover why the child acts as he does and if there is anything she can do to change the environment environment en en- and the i influences which are controlling it That's the hard and not the dramatic way to deal with behavior behavior behavior be be- havior but it is also the right way It allows for time to do its its stuff as well as preventing the child from adopting the misbehavior permanently because because because be be- cause it has so much to commend commend commend com com- mend it from his standpoint 4 I ar are not interested the problem is no longer present One mother said and truly I just forgot about it after I talked to you and I guess guess- my boy did too Problems evaporate because the growth situation which inspired inspired in inspired in- in them has been succeeded by a different one Negativism is a passing phase of behavior the the childs child's tendency to say no noto noto noto to everything unless everything unless parents harp upon it and are determined to conquer the child By such action they impress him with the desirability of continuing to say so Children discover very quickly when they have a weapon weapon weapon wea wea- pon a parent cannot parry The placid mother who can cansay cansay cansay say Oh shell she'll stop saying no if we stop noticing it has time on her side The agitated mother who must act to combat every |
