Salt Lake Telegram | 1935-09-10 | Page 18 | Flattery Inspires Small Child to Make New Effort

FLATTERY INSPIRES SMALL CHILD TO MAKEN EW MAKE NEW f B By MYRTLE l l MEYER lEYER ELDRED Mrs 1 Eldred's leaflet What the Normal Year Two-Year-Old Can CanDo CanDo Do flo will al' al assist id mothers to understand understand under under- stand tand their children Send your our request for It to together together- with a a. self-addressed self S 3 stamped en envelope en- en elope to Myrtle l Meyer Elderd of the Your Tour Baby and Mine de- de department of ot this thi newspaper We Ve are quite nat naturally rally given to flattering small children for their efforts along most lines of development develop develop- ment Especially do wo do this when the child chUd Is young Tommy smart we wo say unctuous unctuous- ly Just think he can put on and take off his own own clothes The praised Tommy hunts up new clothes to conquer new attainments attainment which he can hear broadcast with praise The small child learning how to dress or fc feed d to help with the Housework to be re responsible responsible re- re for tor some some younger child the beginning piano plana student or painter or the year two-year-old picker- picker upper in the household one and andall andall all find their tasks oiled by judicious judicious judicious judi judi- cious flattery and their efforts Increased Increased in increased In- In creased by attention and praise Child Needs Explained Such flattery is an inspiration toward further lurther effort The child needs it because he is so often I balked by his own sense of at impotence impotence impotence im im- im- im and failure He wants so badly to do so many things which he cannot do A little help a little praise and he is spurred to new effort He sees something estimable estima estima- ble in the little he has accomplished accomplished accomplished and the road ahead seems seem clearer It is stupid and valueless though to praise a child for what he cannot cannot can can- not do This quite quito as as surely suffocates suf nut all aJr further effort Why attempt attempt attempt at at- tempt to dress himself when his fruitless efforts are arc rewarded with praise The child luxuriates in inthe the flattery and lets someone else do dothe dothe dothe the work Dont Don't Overload It is unwise also to flatter a child into assuming for which he is unfitted an and u tl equal Brother may love loye to be t iii guardian of small sister and nd ind parental praise will be ea eager er to to left in charge of of her But he hebe m be too young Tactful as is his mothers mother's super Ii vision it should be- be bethere there there to gu against accident The child tj m. m t bl blossom under praise for lor his car carl of oC baby sister Bister but crumple d dJ if the mother takes take takes takes' 1 vantage of this atU attitude ude to load lii hr hla too heavily it Flattery Flatter I h Fi a s Goad Likewise it is 15 well to remember c the promises which small childr given so lightly in answer t to th mothers mother's praise for lor being good staying at home playing alos alo lo leaving things untouched cam can bear too strong a a str strain ln Th Thy They y i iso so often meaningless for tor while while-t child Is momentarily inspired by praise he may be unable unable- b beca ca of youth and forgetfulness th toJ up to his promise It This This' matter of flattery is a acate d 4 cate lone ione It ha has to be earned must not be insincere and it shou hou be wed used only as as' and tion for the acts which the chI chU chUcan can perform not tho those thoe despite all effort eUort are be beyond hirn