Show I Double Standard of Morals Actuates j S Life of Man Who Sees Himself Cheated i i of What hat Picture of Marriage Promised i j r s Pours Tea and Serves erves Accessories I Girl Avers Nice Boys P Pet t but f. f Nice Girls Gills Wont Won't S By BETTY BLAIR BLAIRS S Where a wom woman n has been leen most deeply affected she can also be the most profoundly hurt by the break of ot a mans man's passing to another In terms of sheer suffering men pay little of the penalty endured by the woman of whom It Is expected that she give her all when she gives her person Dear Miss Blair I am writing to your column for 1 the first time in response to Dot and Dash I am 24 years old I have hilve my own business busi busi- t ness place and the theS S finest car in town I married a ret ref refined re re- re- re t f S fined girl from a ac wealthy f family just justS S c to please my mother and her folks My 11 NIl girl thought it ft was wasa a crime to pet and 1 she wouldn't associate asso asso- I t elate with anyone one l j who did She t claimed It cheapened cheapened cheap cheap- ened a person After I X married this girl her heri i Ideas didn't change Every time timeS S I came home from work ark and wanted a little caressing she claimed that all an I wanted to do was t to neck her It made milde me hate hateS S herI her I We have been married five years ears years and the last five years I II I have been out with dozens of wo- wo men men Some of them work for me so so o I see them every day I pay two women's rent and I drop In as asI asI I 1 feel like it This Isn't an unS unusual un un- S usual crise case as some of you girls will think because I have several several sev sev- eral oral friends in the same fix There is as much difference in men and women as there is in day and rind night When a woman turns on on cn her charms for me rae the only thing I r can give back is petting If she refuses my offerings I never call callan on her again because that Is all aU I have to offer that will keep me interested Some of you ou women women will think I am a dirty dog for cheating on my wife who is so pure accordIng accordIng accord accord- Ing to some Hearts Heart's Haven writ writ- ers I am only tr trying ing to play the part God gave me to pIa play If II some of at you ou and are saving your charms S for potters potter's field that Is your but dont don't think that because because be be- cause a girl necks and shows a aman aman man a good time she is no good It takes a good necker to keep her herman 5 man at home and I am with them per cent CHEATED AND CHEATING I While our current on necking has to do with young girls and boys giving demonstrations of love before love has bas really come to Letters questions and requests requests re re requests quests for advice should be bead bead- addressed ad dressed to MISS BET BETTY T Y BLAIR BLAm HEARTS HEART'S HAVEN TELEGRAM SALT LA LAKE K E. E Write legibly upon only one side of the paper It is necessary that you append append ap pend the rig right rigi name and address address ad ad- dress but these will b be held in strict confidence and will vill m t appear in print Questions involving involving in in- in- in advertising Information cannot be answered them your own case ase throws a a good deal of at light on the aftermath ath of such problems No normal person will deny the right of at engaged and married persons to to the demonstrations that are the natural expressions of love But your own confession leads us us strongly to suspect ct that love did not exist between be be- tween you ou and your wife before you Olt married her You say you married her just to please my mother and her folks and in doing so sowe we claim you did her a great wrong wrong at the outset And a greater one in taking your own pleasure where you find tind it and leaving leav- leav ing her bereft Women are arc far more susceptible to the he delicacies of the love situation than are men Mans love is of itself a thing apart us womans woman's whole ex- ex stence But when a woman so socon constituted con con- as your wife Is is made to feel that she is loved only for lor the physical response she is able to give to o a mans man's love while the spiritual side of her love remains untouched she recoils and turns to stone l If on the other hand you had been capable of wooing your wife first for her beauty auty of soul and ideals she could have been taught the way to toIve give Ive response to physical love Many women have to be taught this And using their energies when they arc are gIrls in necking with every boy who comes their way Is the worst crime they hey can commit against themselves if f they value the spiritual and nd intellectual Intel Intel- side of love l If you have been cheated so has your wife Cheated of the love that belongs to her because she was left untaught by the only one who could rightfully have taught her Yes and you have been cheated too more than thanin thann in n the way you think for while you may be a past master in the art of loving oving there is so much of love con concerning concerning con coil which you know nothing at atall atall atall all and that your wife may have taught aught you could she only have found the way You should have annexed a harem not married a wife AT A TEA Dear Miss Blair At a tea docs does the One brie ne who po pours rs also serve the cream and sugar or at lemon to each person person Thank you MINA On or near the tray in front of the person pouring tea are the necessary accessories As the guest comes up for fora a cup of tea the asks How do you like your tea strong medium or weak After it has has been been poured she then asks or is told about the guests guest's preference for cream or lemon and how much sugar The host hostess ss serving coffee asks about these preferences preferences preferences beforehand since the accompaniments accompaniments for coffee are usually placed in the cup before the coffee is poured i THE GIRLS GIRL'S VERSION Dear Miss Miss' Blair Here's Heres the girls girl's side of the theold old old story Im I'm 17 years old as pretty as the average high school girl Boys seem to like me but 1 I still haven't a date for the biggest school dance of the year Why Because I dont don't pet Yes its it's true A few weeks ago at a party about six of the boys agreed that my friend and ana I were the nicest girls there Later in the evening someone suggested pl playing ying a kiss ing game My friend and andl I refused to play Those boys were the first ones to say Poor sports It It wasn wasn't t that we thought the games were ere bad ad they're j just t silly But they always always' develop into something mushy and petting betting parties parties' are disgusting stIng Im I'm not a goody-goody goody but I just have Ideas of right and wrong It It seems that even nice boys like to pet They dont don't like the girls but they just seem to leave the good girls at home And it hurts But Id I'd rather stay home than pet so I guess Ill I'll stay home and hope W WALL LL FLOWER LOWER Dont Don't worry W F. F your day will come When these same boys begin to think hink seriously of girls and marriage they hey will look over over all aU the girls with whom they have gone And one by byone byone byone one the girls who have been common petters with every boy in the will be eliminated and the girls who saved their love and affection for the husband to will be chosen Youth is the time tIm to grow physically physically physically physic physic- ally and mentally into mature stature And you you may may be sure you need all aU the energy you you can muster to do both not be afraid that you will wil choose choos a man whose ideal of woman womankind kind doesn't reach reach beyond beyond physical greed if you stand by your ideals |