| Show c Come mG to- to VEN VE N HA H IEA EAR EART R T S 1 With Betty Blair Affairs of or the heart beart and kindred problems ONLY wilt will bo be discussed this department Letters Lettered questions and requests for tor advice should b be b. addressed address to MISS BETTTY BETTY BLAIR aLAmo HEARTS HEART'S HAVEN TELEGRAM SALT LAKE legibly upon only one side of or the th paper pl It is 15 necessary that you append the tho right name nama and address but these will bo be held In strict confidence and will by no mca means appear in Sn print Letters requiring personal reply must be accompanied by stamped at addressed self envelopes Ed BIG lUG LOAD OF BLUES Dear Miss Blair May I come to you yon oU with a bl big bl load of my blues I must tell you some of JIl my lay own history in order that you see sec seemore more more clearly our present problem Ny 1 father ather has bas always hated inc me He went on a mission when I was a baby not quite a year old and wrote JIl mother that he hated bated me lIe He my any didn't know why but he be said dd he I would try to overcome it This lee feeling ling for lor me mc has never changed chanced lIe He used to wait walt for lor me to come home from school when he would take me inc into the woodshed unknown unknown un nn- un- un known to mother and beat mc me until there were bruises all alt over o m my body He lie used to tell me if Ir I so much as made an outcry so mother would hear hearme hearme me he would beat me until I couldn't cry lie He never did treat my older sister or my younger brother In this manner Yet YeL when we C were growing up he hc always objected to our bringing Ing friends home to see us We Ve wanted to dance to have ve a good time so we would dance with ourselves After we e had danced through one or two records he lie would say that was enough of ot such foolishness One night when I was 16 I went to toa toa toa a show with a boy friend Then the thc shovel broke He Hc told mother if I didn't get out he would throw me out He lie told her a again aln that he hated haled me and couldn't stand to have m me in the house I was so hurt I couldn't think right I was working at the time for 6 56 a week I went to stay with a girl friend One day I met the man on the street who afterward bec became me my husband He said he be had been up to see me I thought I would be flip and tell him my my dad had kicked me mc out ba bag bap and baggage but bat instead I just broke down and sobbed and told him the whole story To make snake a long story short I was married when I was 18 I now have hare havea I a wonderful baby boy My Iy father likes to play with him and in fact treats my baby better than he does docs his own son 9 7 1 My Iy young brother is now 16 and my father will do absolutely nothing for him My l mother has continued to work all these years since my father father father fa fa- fa- fa ther went on his mission On Once co she had bd started start it he expected her to keep it up And he has continued ever since to take money from her The money he makes he spends on fishing and for himself My l father wouldn't even give m my brother money enough to get into the country to pick cherries Mother has been ill iii lately with a a. bad heart and had bad no money to give him so he started started start start- ed off without any This makes make my mother worry so much she will never get to feeling leeling better My 1 brother says he I is going with another boy to start to hitchhike hitch to Chicago He thinks he will find something something some some- thing to do there What can we do about him It will kill my mother if it he goes and yet you can caD see from the disposition I have painted of at my father that ho he will do nothing Please Ilease I help me BLUE Get a R few statistics of ot the gre great t number of unemployed men inca in Chicago Chicago Chi Chi- cago cage as compared to the few we have here in proportion to our population and show them to your brother You may write the chamber o of commerce I in Chica Chicago o for or these statistics Perhaps Perhaps Perhaps Per Per- haps this will impress your brother that he had better stay at home where whereat at least he has a roof roo-f over his he head d Then all o of you must do something for him Get him to cut your our lawns to build stakes and wooden racks for your flowers lowers to climb on to take special special special cial pains about the yards ards to make them look nice and pay him for or his labors Some boys will even do housework for pa pay if they have been taught in the home that this sort of labor is not a disgrace Let him paint the porch and the window frames Apprentice him out to an artisan without pay until he learns a trade as used to be done in the olden days das He can find enough to do about your place and his home to earn a little on the side to keep up his morale Ways and means can be found if you Ou but set your our mind to it ft and are arc willing to sacrifice something yourselves your your- yourselves selves for his welfare And it is very vary important that boys bors of this age find something to do They must overcome overcome over over- come their pride about the choice of work and be willing to do an anything that offers The rest of ot you should be willing willingto to make up to the boy what he lacks in understanding and companionship with his father Encourage him to attend attend attend at at- tend scout meetings He will learn lessons there of sell self Perhaps Perhaps Perhaps Per Per- haps the father can later he persuaded ed to accompany his sen on a fathers' fathers and sons' sons outing Perhaps he may come to understand the heart of his hisson hisson hisson son son better through this means There are hundreds of boys in this city of ot adolescent age out of employment employ employ- ment so so as far as that part of at your our problem goes you are arc not alone in your cause for feeling blue But you must come to the aid of your brother and when you ou haVe ha-c done so constructively constructively your our cause for feeling blue will have taken wings People Pe-ople must learn to give aid to each other not to expect some bolt boIt from the blue to suddenly strike and change things We cannot cannot cannot can can- not change your fathers father's disposition The fact that he can enjoy playing with your baby shows that he is not be beyond ond change once he makes up his mind to do so of his own accord ACTIONS BELIE WORDS Dear Miss 1155 Blair For some time I have been beer having havinga a aver very enjoyable time with a certain boy bor friend He De has been very courteous courteous cour cour- and treated me with high hJ re reo re- re Up to the vcr very last he told me mc how much he admired me lie He also said he wanted to continue to take t. me mc out and made a date dat-c for the following night But he didn't show up at all allon allon allon on that night for tor what reason I dont don't know Will WUI you please tell me what my re reaction to this should be I sup sup- pose I am foolish but I am In love lo with him hm INEZ So far as I know there have been no rules of behavior standardized for forthe forthe forthe the classification of reactions of this sort You would react of course according according according ac ac- ac- ac cording to the degree of love you felt for the boy according to your own temperament If you ou are quick to anger you would probably feel like snatching his eye balls baIls out the next time you ou saw sa him if slow you would probably feel like giving him a Scotch blessing and letting lettin it go at that But what really would be the use of doing anything He may have had hada a good reason for not coming Probably Probably Probably ably he couldn't even get to a telephone telephone tele tele- phone to let lct you know And if he feels remorse he be will tell you about It later and offer oHer an apology If not and the act was planned deliberately as a means of discontinuing his attentions attentions attentions atten atten- still what Is there you youcan youcan ou can do If he is the sort of ot boy who could take French leave in the wake of an appointment you should be glad you have found him out this early in the game and begin looking around for fora a boy friend whose actions will be in keeping with his words p IS IT PROPER Dear Miss 1 Blair lam I am to be married next month and andI I cannot afford to have engraved engra announcement announcement announcement an an- cards My Iy fiance thinks we should have these and he wants to provide them Shall I let him or would this be outside the proprieties Many l thanks for lor the information SUSAN It would be entirely outside the proprieties for you to permit your our fiance to pay for engraved announcement announcement announcement announce announce- ment cards But it is strictly good form for you OU and your mother to write on note paper in script the announcements announce announce- ments to be mailed as soon as the wedding is over Tell your fiance that he would be offending the best of good taste if he were to insist on his plan but that there is no stigma nor offense possible in the handwritten handwritten handwritten hand hand- written note plan It Isn't everybody who can afford engraved ved cards OVERWEIGHT Dear Miss 1 Blair I am 16 years ears old 5 S feet 1 Inch talland tall talland and weigh pounds Please tell I me how much I should weigh and I how to reduce MARIE l i You should weigh pounds Kindly send a stamped self ad I dressed envelope for our circular Dieting for Health I |
