Show OME IE TO I Ii i Hb HEARTS HEART'S RT'S HA VEN i iI I I II I With BETTY BLAIR Affairs of ot the heart end and l Kindred problems ONLY will wm be discussed In this department Letters questions nd I requests ts lor tor advice should bo addressed to MISS BETTY BLAIR HEARTS HEART'S HAVEN TELEGRAM SALT LAKE Write legibly upon only one si sIde do of ot the tho paper It Is necessary that you rou append the right lamo iamo and address but these will bo be held In strict confidence and will by no means appear In print Ed Ed TRUST IN FATHER BROKEN Dear Miss Blair I am a n boy 15 years of or ago age and in junior hl high h school My Iy mother died when I was as a baby and my father has has' been father mother brother and sister sis sis sis- ter to me He lie has hns done everything a father could do for his child About a year a ago o he be lost his Job and I 1 know ho he was worried about what to do Then suddenly he began to be pros again aln and when I 1 asked him if he had found work or where he had found it 14 he be would say y Oh just an odd job here bere and there I thought that was funny because his line lino of or work is the kind that isn't performed In odd jobs I didn't worry or think about it at atthe atthe the time as I have always thought my father was the best scout in the world Weve We've been pals ever since I Ican Ican Ican can remember and he has told me rae what hat was WIlS and wron Lately Ive I've found out something Gee 11 U sure makes nukes me feel tough louth and nd I don don't lon t know what to do about it I try to to act the same to my dad so he wont won't know I know but I must act queer because he is ii always alwa's saying the matter mat mat- ter with you ou kid I say Oh nothIng nothing noth noth- ing I guess And then he looks worried and changes es the subject Miss Blair I Ive I've found out that my dad is a bootlegger I know he never touches a 11 drop of or it himself and md J I know he is doln doing It to make money to keep me I haven't much education education tion and maybe I would be making a n mistake to stop school now and tE try to get a job Maybe it wouldn't be so easy sy for tor a bo boy like me mc to get a job either I dont don't want m my dad to keep on doing dolne this for me Id I'd like to do something so ho he wont won't have to Please tell me inc what to do TOM TOl SAWYER If It he were my father Tom and he ha had done as much for me rae as yours has for you and I cared as ns much for him as you ou do I would act very queer at the next opportunity and when my dad asked me what was the matter I should tell him exactly what you have told me mc It may mean sacrifice on your part perhaps of your education tion but youre you're equal to it arent aren't you ou Tom No father who loves his son on and who has taught him the difference between right and wrong could stand such an arraignment and md not take action to do something about it You know Tom every everyone one of us has in us the Dr and Mr Hyde tendencies Sometimes in desperation desperation despera despera- tion we think we are driven to play the part of bf Mr 1 H Hyde dc Of course it itIs itIs itis Is only that we give way to our weakness weakness weak weak- ness Instead of battling against it it We take the biggest chances with our most precious possessions and if we lose them we rail at an unkind fate for depriving ing us of them Your father has given way to the Mr Hyde nature in this particular and has kept it a secret from you ou in order that you might not be deprived of the material things of life of which he knew you to be in need He has hated hims himself for doing so you may maybe maybe maybe be sure yet has found himself between between be be- twe tween n th the devil and the deep sea sea sea- and has felt Celt there was' was no choice left for tor him But you two can pull together and get along without th the illegitimate business cant can't you Tom You are arc almost a man now yourself in years and you already are in prin prin- ciple You can sell magazines or papers or r run n errands You can do o any kind of work ork there is to be he done and not be ashamed of doing it il This with whatever work our father is isable isable isable able to get will wm help You will feel fee better too after your father has explained ex cx- h his s side of or the story to you Dont Don't be afraid of anything Tom except of or being afraid to do the right thing TIlE THE CLINGING VINE Dear Miss 1 Blair My wife Is the perfect type hpe of cling cling- ing lag vine I love her but she makes my life lite miserable I cant can't be he five minutes late getting home from wo work k that she doesn't hop all nil over me for forIt forit or It and accuse me of trying to stay awa away from her as much as possible It is an unheard of ot thing for me to have an evening away from rom her yet et if I ever mention going down to the corner dru drug store for a cigar she is afraid I am going out to meet some gang she has conjured up In her mind or else some girl r- r rL L Weve We've only been married two years but matters In this regard reg arc are getting worse instead of better I am perfectly per per- willing to tell her where I go o and what I do but when she grabs me the minute I 1 get In the house bouse and begins to question me I dont don't want ant antto to tell her ber anything I shut up like a n clam and of or course this this- creates a atense atense atense tense situation between us that makes our evenings c together ver very cold fly- fly I Ing lag What do you suggest as a n remedy ZERO WEATHER WEATHER- Say to your our wife You hung onto your mother when you ou were a little girl and wouldn't let her take a step without you you hung to your brother broth broth- er when you were an adolescent and he hc never had a chance to have a girl of his own on until you were safely off his liis hands you are hanging to me now like ike a leech and making both our ourives lives ives miserable and when I die first as I surely shall if you keep this up you will vIli hang to your child and be a killjoy to him Then after you ou have unburdened yourself of these cruel but doubtless true words words since a n clinging vine vino is made by just such degrees take degrees take herin herin her hern in n your arms and say Now look here little woman I love you very dearl dearly but there isn't a single thing in n my life me I couldn't tell you Ou all about if f there were necessity for doing so We dont don't own each cach other we arc still indivIduals in our own right even though we ve are married to each other and so long as we ie are arc both living livins up to the letter of our marriage contract what docs does it matter where I am if five iye ive minutes or an hour or a whole d day y of my time goes unaccounted for or Let her know that you trust her enough that you would want to tell her all about an anything thing interesting that might have happened to you OU in your day of business spent away from her and that you have no idea of conceal conceal- lag ng anything from her nor of aban aban- cloning her for another woman Lether Lether Let Lether her know that your our future happiness together depends upon the amount of or I trust rust you OU have for each other It may take her some time to lo learn Ita to change her point of view but your own sincerity and trustworthiness will help her to get rid of her foolish fears rears concerning you CHILD ETIQUETTE Dear Miss l Blair Will wm you ou please give ghe jour our advice ad on this question A thinks it Is all right for or children to ask each other personal personal per per- questions such as Who ho gave you Ou this Where did you jou OU get that and md so on B n disagrees and thinks they should shaDId be taught differently while thc they arc are young oune A says children will ill be afraid to sa say anything for fear it IL will be wrong If they arc are told to Dont say this or Dont say that Thank you rou for your advice A AND B B. B Children absorb rules of ethics and of etiquette while quite young without without with with- out any fears whatever i if the right method of teaching them is used They learn more b by example than by pre precept If It mother sa says s 's to lo them I r wouldn't ask Mrs Jones where she bought her hat or dress or how much she paid for them as that is none of my affair and the children never hear their thir mother do such a thing they soon learn that neither must they ask personal questions You wouldn't think of letting your our child ask for nor walk off with the neighbor child's childs tricycle or other toy Neither are arc they entitled to ask for Information to which they have no right It is true that often otten children are hedged about with too many don'ts about unimportant things but the particular matter about which you YOli ask is important and should be attended at at- tended to while the children arc still quite young oung I MARKS ON NAILS Dear Miss Blair Please tell teU me inc how to get rid of white marks that appear frequently on my nails Thank you yon OD ALICE Mako Make a paste of equal parts of turpentine turpentine tur tur- tur and myrrh and apply it before going to bed Remove the paste the next morning with the aid of a n little olive oil Manicure l and polish the nails as usuaL S |