Show COME TO TO TO- Jf rJ HEARTS HEART'S HEA UP R R T W HA YEN VEN h 0 un j 1 BETTY nir BLAIR m Mt Attain thair of heart and and kindred problems ONLY will b be td 1 la Ja department question and requests for advice should be addressed to 1153 BETTY DErrY BLAIR HEARTS HEART'S HAVEN HAVEN- TELEGRAM S SALT T LAKE 4 f Writ legibly upon only ouo side Ilde or oZ the piper paper l It la Ia but t necessary tbt that you append the tho right name neme and anel address f these will bo be held betel In lu confidence and nd will by byno no meana means appear In print print Ed l A. A d PARENTS SEPARATED Dear Ilea Miss MIs Blair My father lather and mother have bave sepa ep rated For three years now m my father tather fa ta- ther has no not lived Jived at home although Jut he his hat been working right here i In Salt Bait t Lake lI lie Ilk used t to 5 come come home horn on once c In a while but bat he be always acted as ta if he couldn't wait walt to get id away I It seems 4 though he lie doesn't care car Whether we we have any anything to eat o or Got BOt He hasn't spoken to m me for e ever eve er 10 ao 0 long and then only In a cross crossI way I hv have had to quit school to go 0 to work I am the only one working now i w to suppo support a family of six and andI I z Jam a am Some people have even to me that my father may be living with another woman You dont don't know w how bow It hurts to have people think that Do you think he h Is Interested Inter Inter- ested rated In his family at all Do you think there another U-another woman In the cue case Mama Is always alway worrying and a al always al ways has the blu blues s. s I worry orry too boat bont her She cries so much I am afraid If things do no not change It will wll her mind I do all I can I Ibave have bave performed any kind of work 1 J could find to keep us as going olor If U daddy would only thank me once In a while for what I have done don I wouldn't feel feelo so c o bad but he never has r I hope you yon arent aren't bored with Uh this letter Zetter but that you can suggest something some something some some- thing to look forward to and anti not Just Eiore hard work Thank you yon OU so 50 much NEED A Is there a possibility that soon other members of your family may help to lift the burden that now Imposes on your shoulders alone This seems to tobe be the nearest thing the future offers offers of of- fers by way of monetary relief If there is a legal separation between your father and mother there should of course be a maintenance clause for support of his family which your father must observe according to state laws Has the case gone tp to court or has a lawyer been consulted in 11 the matter These are Important matters for you to consider Perhaps Perhaps Perhaps Per Per- haps you do not know that the statutes statutes statutes stat stat- utes demand that a father provide for his lila family And now aside from this legal as aspect as as- poet of the matter there is another and that is the moral side of the question for you You hadn't thought there w wa was one had you Leave the Incident of the other woman affair entirely alone Drive it from your mind After all nil it is your fathers father's affair You cannot help matters by worrying about it When others men men- Won Hon it let them know politely that tha you do not consider it concerns them Let them know too that yo you trust trus your father enough to feel sure sUIe he hea hean can an a manage his own affairs Let your father know that you still have con con- in him Mm It gives him something something something some some- thing to live up to Try to keep in mind that there are tw two sides to every story This does docs docs not imply any lack of allegiance to tal your our mother Perhaps your f father fathe ther has las felt a lack of love and trust and confidence in his own family You have not read his heart You do no not know enow what ma may have driven him from rom home The children arc are always the lie victims of these unfortunate af- af fairs airs but you must have courage to carry on like a valiant soldier and to enlist the remainder Q of your family inyo n your case u Is there a possibility that your mother too may find remunerative work or are arc there there- children still at home to be cared for tor Definite work of any kind will take her mind from her trouble and center it on an ivo tivo outside herself Try to make inake your mother feel teel that all that is good in n life need not be centered around one man even though that man maybe may maybe maybe be her husband and your father Think of him bin as an Individual outsIde outside out- out sIde ide your practical lives Jives other than that that hat he must live up to his maIntenance maintenance maintenance nance contract for the support of children hildren under underage age Encourage your mother to get away from the home and family as much as possible Let other members of the family assume home lome responsibilities Help her during during dur- dur ing ng this period of ot adjustment in her life ife to find rich Interests in club or church hurch in reading or creative work of f some kind if she is not able immediately immediately immediately im im- im- im mediately to do remunerative work Life must go on and it will begin begino to o take on a more cheerful outlook If you labor to put the hopeful side uppermost Life will mold you beautifully beau- beau if you will let it And the hardships you meet and overcome arc are the he chisels that pare away th the roughness roughness roughness rough rough- ness and make of Life Lle the sculptor incomparable and of ot the finished of forever product a thing beauty Will you let me mc hear from you again from rom time to time Do not for one moment think your story bores me rae lt It t is the kind of ot story that grips my heart icart and makes me want to help NOTE TO A MOTHER l Write M Mayor of Drummond Montana Montana Mon Mon- lana tana tana and ask him if he hc will help you locate ocate your ourson son He may have a noce notice notice no- no tice ce inserted to m the Drummond paper he ic may enlist the aid of the sheriff and nd police force to help him in his search earch At least I feel sure that this method will bring response WHAT THE TIlE USHERS WEAR WEAK Dear Miss Blair Is It necessary that the ushers at ata a church wedding all aU be dressed alike lIk a.-lIk like l Thank you for the Inform tl ti lon n. n MARTY The ushers are just as Important to the ic picture as a a whole as any other part art of ot the picture It is ab absolutely essential that they be un uniformly dressed The uniforms are usually the ic same as those worn by the groom croom and nd best man but they customarily adhere dhere strictly to the black single- single bre breasted waistcoat In order to attain uniformity it is advisable that the ushers be sent directions for the rehearsals at which they icy are requested request d to turn out in full ull dress It may then be seen how ow nearly uniform their dress is and nd if any differ from the rest they may be politely requested to change in n this or that respect FOUNDATION OF MAKEUP Dear Miss Blair Will you please tell me what foun foun- atlon dation to use for makeup for a thin dry ry skin akin I want ant something that will disguise the natural faults In my com corn Many In thanks MIN lN l N. N Makeup never was intended to be used as a disguise Min MiD but rather rath- rath er r to suggest beauty and to emphasize ones one's natural good points There are areas areas areas as many different foundations for makeup as there are arc types of skin For or the thin dry skin an oily f foundation foundation tion ion is used This offers protection to o the skin and is a preventive of the caking and flaking that occur when powder is applied over the wrong kind cind of foundation or or over none at alL Mineral oil is an excellent makeup makeup make make- up base for the dry skin This will doubtless surprise you Add a drop or two of geranium oil to a half halt pint of f the mineral oil to give it the necessary essary dressing table fragrance NOTE TO Y U Send a stamped self addressed en en- clope for our circular on games for children This includes a list of Fun Books to be had bad at the public library describing games for all aU occasions CORRECTION FOR IN DEEP The answer to your letter In Wednesdays Wednesday's column should read re And most Important of all sublimate sublimate mate your our energies instead of the thedo thedo do do not as M it appeared j |