Show b. b i. i HEART t BETTY O OS S Affairs of ot the heart and kindred problems ONLY ONIX will trill be bc disI discussed dis db- dis- dis I cussed In this department Letters questions ant anc r requests for lor should boWd be addressed I to MISS BETTY BLAIR HEARTS HEART'S HAVEN TELEGRAM M. SALT LAKE Write leibly upon anI- anI one ODO side of ot the paper 0 It Is 13 necessary ry that you append the rIght rl name and address bu but bat these thee win will be held in strict confidence and will wilf by no means mean appear in print print Ed FRIENDSHIP P NOT NOr PITY PITT Dear r Miss flair Blair One of oC my best best friends a a. boy need needs sympathy and encouragement II lie has bas been a a very dear friend for tor 12 years ears cars I hue have gone Jono out with him quite a a. few tew times but not steady except list winter inter for tor 3 months montIi He lie is my DIY ideal l. l He is 13 not this thia hot necking kind He d doesn't nt smoke nor go BO on 01 wild parties lie He h has a deep respect for foz girls curls almost I believe to the point of or revering them thew Five years ago his moth mother r died Since then his cider brother who is 8 28 8 hb himself and his younger brother have lived alone alono with rith their father hey arc are all wonderful boys R Recently Recent Recent- ly Iy their father lather died Now v they arc left jelL alone But they arc are made of the right kind of stuff and ami I J know v they will go Co on being as decent and lovable lova lova- ble ie as they Ulry have always b been n. n Tho The one in whom I J am most In Interested In- In eres d is fer very sensitive and quite thanked hanged since his fathers father's d death th He Heed used ed to b be so much t fun n and so peppy lie Mc Ic loves lores music as I do also He lie likes sports ports of or all kinds and dancing and parties Ho certainly Is my ideal Please tell me how I lean can be friendly gain aln his comp companionship nl without making l him m tl think I am doing things gs for him because e I 1 feel sorry for tor him bun I J Ido do not want him to feel ed that way I J Jam am ant interested in him bins and want to tobe tobe tobe be a real pal to him I am only 16 and he is 18 but please dont don't think I J am another Frankie or Dot as asI asI asI I know this isn't love lo and I wouldn't avant it to be PAL You have the right idea Pal in wishing h to show genuine friendship without making it appear that what you ou are doing is merely because you ou feel fecI for tor him This f sorry sorry feeling-sorry- racket Is one that sensitive c people and those who do not themselves in indulge indulge in- in in self pity cannot endure It implies on the part of or the one for whom hom such pity pUy is felt an inability to weather the storms of life for him him- self It Is an Insult t to his integrity and Is in most cases an offering of ot otso so much less value than anything that person already has that it is like giving a s stone to one who is in need of or bread I am glad that 3 at the outset you sense the distinction between pity for another and friendship And if you genuinely feel this difference it will be apparent in fri your our voice and ac ac- ac The mind controls both speech and action A genuinely friendly voice has an entirely different Inflection in inflection in- in from one controlled by the thought process of pU pity Tako Take the initiative for awhile while in issuing Invitations Dinners at your own homo honio with t tennis following A picnic hike including others An evening evening evening eve eve- ning with a s afew few friends in to dance to radio music You must not expect this sensitive boyto joy to shake off oft all aU at once the gloom that the loss of both parents has entailed d. d His entire mental and physical physical phys phys- ical leal makeup has received a terrific shock He has lias been suddenly thrust Into another world with all the re responsibilities re- re of life me thrown on his shoulders But even at that he doesn't want people feeling sorry for him He wants only I genuine friendship and love When you ou arc older cx- cx will teach you still sUll more I eX-I just how much this means I BRIDES BRIDE'S BOOK Dear Miss liss Blair I I am giving a a. shower for tor a friend During the thc afternoon we are arc going to o try to make a brides bride's book Can you youell tell ell mc me what the different cycles cycle's of ofa ofa a a. brides bride's life would be such as engagement engagement en en- I marriage school hool days MRS lURS G G. G B. B According to the poet a 1 man has seven ages But its it's different with a woman woman she she has only two The rhe one she he tells and the one on her birth certificate But for the purpose of making a brides bride's book Im I'm sure no offense will be taken to dividing these ages into as many cycles as you ou can find names for Birth in in- in fancy school pre-school da days s school days puppy Duppy love da days s adolescence the Blossoming of romance high hISh school schooldays schooldays schooldays days first love affair the second the third rc real l love comes engagement marriage first home first quarrel and how made up first baby social and ande civic life middle age growing gro old gracefully The These e are mere suggestions suggestions suggestions sug sug- to be sorted and rearranged according to your jour our own taste ENCOURAGES HIGH ROPES Dear Miss Blair I should like to let Jet High nop Hopes know that I surely agree with her point joint of or view I 1 too am a a. girl who ho hohas has las been around nien Dien men enough to be beable beable beable able to judge them p pretty tty well as most of or my life me has b been n spent In hi a a. boarding hous house home I certainly do agree that hat most girls at 15 are arc just plain goofy When I was 15 years of or age I had hadan hadan an affair just about like Uke But just as High Hopes did I kept It t to myself I soon grew out of or my childish fancies and although I am only 17 now I know just what kind of Df a a. man I want However I am ant not exp expecting Ung to find him until I am an older quite older a bit older I wonder Frankie If If when you arc are older you jou ou wont won't look back and laugh at yourself for falling talling In love lo at 15 1St I PLAIN ME NE Thank you ou for the comment Plain Me c. c And we hope that while you continue looking for the man of your our dreams you ou wont won't forget that there are arc re men looking for the girls of their dreams too With such a good start you ou should be able to make yourself Into nto that ideal girl SHOWER MENU Dear Miss Blair I 1 am giving a a. shower on very short notice Will you please tell teU mc me some nice alec simple refreshments to serve Many 1 thanks SPOOF Try any anyone one or a combination of the he following menus Spoor Spoof Congressional Con Con- gressional chicken salad diced chicken thicken mixed with apples celery blanched almonds and salad dress dress- nc ng cheese bars olives ice cream cakes cales and coffee corree Or toasted cheese squares orange marmalade sandwiches sand sand- salted nuts candles candies fruit cookies and tea lea Another chilled white cherries and pineapple chicken chick chick- en n and mushroom patties date Pudding pudding pud pud- ding with whipped cream and coffee coHee |