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Show ' I ! Parents' ! Problems By DONALD M. MAYNARD This is another in a series or articles on Parent's Poblems. How can I help my daughter to be less generous without making mak-ing her selfish? She allows people peo-ple to impose upon her helps classmates with their work, lends books she needs herself, uses her time to do things for others that they should do themselves. Here we apparently have quite a different problem. In this case, we must discover the satisfaction satisfac-tion your daughter is getting out of letting people impose upon her. It may be that she lacks self-confidence, self-confidence, thinks she isn't attractive, at-tractive, especially to boys, isn't as popular as she would like to be, and in general feels inferior to those of her own age. . She has discovered that by putting put-ting herself out to help others she gains the attention and approval ap-proval she so desparately craves. If this is the situation, you need to be patient and understanding with her, Encourage her to develop dev-elop skills of her own that will secure se-cure the respect and admiration of her peers; help her make herself her-self more attractive; have young people frequently in your home so that she may have a wholesome whole-some social life; and in every possible pos-sible way strive to give her confidence con-fidence in herself. Fathers can be of help here by complimenting their daughters upon their appearance. ap-pearance. Suppose the above picture doesn't does-n't fit your daughter at all. What then? It may be that she is just one of the generous souls that, although often imposed upon, nevertheless brings much more happiness than gloom to the world. Do not be too disturbed about it. You may, however, want to help her see that it is not wise always to do for others that which they should do for themselves. By being too generous and helpful she can keep herxfriends from developing devel-oping the inner disciplines they so sorely need, way to help us |