Show vv vs V VY I 1 AGREEABLE il S Art o ci Being Agreeable ig T HERE Is a very el precious anti and happy THERE I faculty to be displayed ed in I lug Ing the graceful needful authority or of a chaperon She who exert exerts this au t to advantage knows more tha than thana a IUle little of the art arl of being E Every ry daughters rS motho mother should uld very ery I clearly to lerl understand the the role and the Way way 11 she Is not able to realize the pert I Iam pt I am more tha than willing t to undertake tie the not oot at I or unnecessary ts task or of soing showing her how bow t to the tor because I Am a an ardnt ardent be belieVer lieVer In 1 and aM bl because use I also hold It it precepts and and dutes duties cures rs a end lf obligations rightly fulfilled ad add to the wholesome charm barm or of polite society t tI I I than n this J I consider that I it itIs I is n ft sacred responsIbility for eelY every ma ins I tron to know how bow to act a as chaperon on uy ny ad and every occasion clon This i Is a asi asocial I si social a h that 10 no rightly ambitious woman cn can overlook overlook and if she d doe overlook I It thre there wI will sooner 01 or me a time when she he wl will have hap grave ru to regret t this Haw flaw In her I gY I education I I am not I 1 bOp hope an old fog hut but I Iam I 1 am ne nevertheless erU Ie p convinced that w wise fo na fn firm mid mild an and 1 discreet I I I duennas ar but but at prent present I Ither ther f a deplorable jack of gd good and nd I gifted ones na and this miste mistake I 1 unites I I a at the the dor door or of the date date m l r rs The ren reason for Cor the Dad I equate t supply or of graceful authoritative I chaperons 1 not tar far to sk seek Nine 1 J I tenths of oC h fm matrons whose wh se e I 1 enjO fail t to perceive that the of oC oCI flee or of ch i is an ancient iet and honor I oble and ta and In cease Ul thy is its Powers r anti and I leges and d no longer dispense nee I its bles bless I lags I II I I Its blessings I would like to have bave I t them kow knott are man many yarl varIed d The They I II I ought t to descend from mother to I It t r and thus into very pr generl general and make for rOI sw and I solidity for r comfort und and dignity I therein I Now lu Ut the good Old dl days s when hen tu there j wt were rc chaperons chaperone who had bad a pride 1 in inI I their and who attended strict strictly t I ly to business young oung ladles ladies dId rot rotI ilot find It necesSary to write to newspaper i I edItors ad and etiquette c columns r Or r In on delicate points or of social Those se questions were settled for them In their homes and In confer conter I 6 once with no less Impeachable author authorIties II than their moth In social U u Os drIE circles were their thi f infallible guides much or of the time their I companions and always their friends From the ls lips of Ute the mother fel fell wads words o of advise restraint and wisdom I am to sy say that the daughter was aL as the rule hap happler happier pier the more graceful and ml tIme the moe more tuly truly and charming In cn con t But the da day of chapero chaperon i is over she he la is a of the drawing rom room a a t itt dance dances a bor bore kt a a alid a at the theU theatre he le bas baa a a fg fig figurehead chiefly b by her ab absence sence nf and aU all betus herself has drifted nned Into Into tl the lA Itay and unwise cn con elusion t fiat at our ur young people dont need loner the In influence an any lor Ve Vert unwise conclusion I be beC because C cause us the chaperon must and wi will al alway 1 way dignity In Belet society and to young youn p people e ad Ine th the elimInation of the oh and a prent present mt rb duena duenna km nearly 01 al hut but the most for formal gather I ing tags our hiIs have havel lest not 1 Ute little or of their anSI repose that iv an t I I mark marks the f t ot of the finest t type ot of the highly bred nerle daughter I I sn shall 18 here poInt Int my mori moI nd adorn i m my tale wih with Rl 9 Inc nt It is not I unique the same frt crt ar are al all OV over l te the country but I this one is Illustrative and andI I it Is just takes at m at Ja t a dozen tt that eme came unde under m my notice when I stop stopped last summer at a very veo I famous a and crowded t seasIde resort Under the rf root or of m my hot hotel were I fre trod man many cl I gIs l Id and some me I equally nf nice young man and gayest yet I them Miss of I 1 among w was 11 NWe th curie cur I Mb Miss Nele NellIe wor wor enchanting little I white duck frocks on tie the beCh beach and be beI I becoming beribboned organ organdies I dies at the hotl hotel hals hails and she Was sup SUl posed t to be In the tare r or of th the mother or nf a young oung girl irI This ThiM mothr I I along along wih with a un nfl the Ule oUt oth oUter er r hole hote mother l left f and Miss 1 Nellie t to their own oung devices I Comfortably ad and she spent h hem 1 clay days on the shady end or of lh the piazza Immersed In gossip ci and wol wool work work and serenely to and ignorant fr of te the gings goings and comins alil anti the or other her tWo lovei and love loveable loveable able har Along wiTh the majority of the mat matrons rons Miss Nellies caperon chaperon elected us a rule to wander bedroom wards ward It 11 Mie li NellIe 1 and her daughter to seek their pillows at whatever hour the they pleased because a an she was in the habit of remarking she knew that the girls gIrl could take care or of themselves And they dId to the best of theIr youthful and unguided ability and al all went for a time as merrily as a mat bU bell Miss Nele Nellie and liar her friend sie sailed o on the by bay and nd st sat late on the rocks hd had divers flirtations of more or orle le lees Intent Intensity wIth the oung about the hIlll hotel and did as t they e Sv the other quie quite girls do then suddenly one day an ugly ode took Place Police cm came down from New NewYork ew York and arted arrested a a young joung man wih with whom I NeUe Nellie had danced ten times at the hop on the preceding nIght night with whom she ltd had sat t tl till midnight toe the week b before ore on tt the rocks wih with whom s hd daly daily and Intimately 1 fished oe romped and drIven and to whom oh sad to she had glen given a a curl 0 Cher hair NOv Nor this favored young man proved to b be a an impostor of ble ante antecedents cents possessing a deplorable past and his future is 15 now con to compulsory labor behind stone willis Miss 18 tte the hot t SUT da wih with a white little face fac eye eyes and and a little Ule bur burr of scandal sUck InK ing to her The mor moral of this incident is hi not mt oh ob scare Ure I recommend i it to the consideration ton tion of mother mothers who dont think the chaperonage or of their sweet young oung d so very essential MiEs Miss Ne Nd He was nt not to blae say I I If the mother had ball been up and doing I daily a chaperons ful full duty uty that sweet I goo good pretty a neglected girl would have gone ne bore home as smiling ns as heP she appeared at th the hotel The friends friend mothEr ul 81 have seen to i it had I 1 she ben been conscious of her te ties that Mi Miss Nellie eme ltd had ni ill the fiber Uber fiberS S ty and al all the times Slit needed yet In ha a perfectly safe dignified and agreeable tu fashion and the painful epi I would would never have have darkened her holiday and cast a tiny Sl shadow 0 on her I fair young name I IThe The who knows her A Aran ran can I 1 a a vast a deal doni to rend r her charge I haN as wel vell as aa s secure cure Is the moral amoral sie aide to the queston question but I can asur assure ay any mother who woul would like to arue argue the question with Ith me that I Is the purely mat rial side alre a ahI that thal has to 10 0 with ma Itt In her official capacity the has ha a It influence upon maners manners Her attitude tells for good or fOt for el evil and If she she is n a woman who realizes the of example she he ma may make society an tle the young oung people about her herte herthe te the more graceful and agreeable for her presence The very best fact fact the Ideal a pern person of prime Importance one worthy tim aim and in society Is to render herel herself to the tIte younger st set But i in order to make herself liked she nee need no not as most moat d enna ennas seem to believe it necessary mke herself Time cr correct ct tye type of chaperon is a lady who I is always always menty ardently welcomed by bythe bythe the young people of both sexes sexes Is a al always way ways as kInd a as she L is firm and as sweet street tempered as she ahe is f farseeing rs If you are Impre impressed wih with the necel necessity or of performing the tk task of chaperon dont let your our zel zeal for severity resolve you ou into a social dragon Obviously there is 18 no itO ned need for preaching ad and threatening and trying to l restore to the theold theold old reign of prune prunes prisms ad and prudery Wl we do wish and do not need such sucha su h ha a a as that In this coun country ry Qt of wholesome young folk folk To wield an influence 11 In the duennas r roe you must have havea K reb really kind heart a profound knowledge e of te the laws of etiquette and patience with young pe pee pie You mus must le be and dignified for bel bear in mind If you c can tat that your rests on the reverence that the younger element feel for your our su an superior knowledge your our and Your unfailing good humor I 1 have known the ideal chaperon I know her noo She Is a lad lady wih with a couple of pret pretty in society whose young oun friends are her friends nd too She knows ho bow to come Into the parlor where her daughters are their beaux without cst cast lag ing 0 a shadow by her presence Young men just out ot of college are flattered to claim the honor of bel her ac acquaintance She has a kind smiling wa way wih with 11 her she knows how to talk to them or of their law Jaw athletics ftc etc and il in spite or of her fifty years rea she als also knows how to Inspire their an and listen t to their con conversa versa ton She conduct conducts nu no system of espi espiOnage i onge but she Is wel well aware I who the young oung men are that her daugh daughters daughters meet ad and who their parent parents ae are areAt At the bals balls she s sits ts smiling pa patient tent against the wall l er gIrs girls dance holdin holding theIr wraps ps and looking out ut new and ageal agreeable partners for them She Is neter mr tn tired I j never peevishly clamoring to b go home never upset by frivolous young laugh augh laughter aughter ter and never neglectful To her own daughter daughters or to her friends daughters Such uch a genial thoughtful chaperon is an invaluable aly ally In 0 a social predicament the young lad lady In he her charge never coma comes to her herI herfor for helpful adYce advice She cn can accompany I a young oung woman to a bell and almot almost Insure her a happy time b because cus Ira Im Imbued hued with the due sense or of the of her she sho kows knows how howand howand and where to find te the mot most desirable for her Alert er and an thoughtful she she hu has not only te the guardianship guardianship but the justifiable pleas pleasures ures of her ber charge always at heart heart ad and she takes no smal small amot o of pains to see that the girl Is never a 8 Such 0 a as this ne needs s not notto notto to be tole told that a girl cn can be g gay at at th the same time the embodiment of sweet dignity and al all the more for her e She Is l well aware that the athletic maide maiden who Is a hale fellow elow well met wih with any and every even youn young mn man on th the hotel piazza Is not the masculine Idel Ideal or of feminine chan charm She is t therefore the frIen friend a at coutt o of an any for she such wise precept precepts anti Ito hito te the minds o of ler her charges without frowns and Sho ho doe does not permit her daughters to addres address newly made masculine acquaintances as Bob a and I Jimmie neither does she alf W lIr Mr Brown and l Mr Jone Jones to 0 gully hal bail her herI I girls as Jeannie and Sally She Slie do donot does I not sit on t the e end of pIazza Ia whispering criticisms of the behavIor I or of MIss Bak Blank as many dot doting ot ing mother do when al all the while theIr own fair girls are down upon te the beach in their bathing suits romping like lt lit littie tie tle children and rubbing sand Into the hall hair of the joly jolly young Jenow fellow who ar arrived arrived rived at the Pont night be before before fore Her confidence ta n the women of the the younger generation Is not lacking nor mIsplace misplaced because site e give gives them both her advice ani anti her companionship But her bele belief is strom strong nevertheless that an agreeable chaperon I is fOr any young people the mot most indispensable or of social institutions and that she Me can and shOuld a beautiful efficacious and from which so society clety at large caD can draw an infinite profit Cop Copyright rj ht by the New ew York So Society or of AU All rIghts re reserved served I IJ J |