Show i Busy Wives nd e V Ce ti i nV ns BY MARGARET E SANGSTER ER I HE LEAST exacting and andT most ng persons perso ns in to the community are as asa asa f T j a rule busy women in simple homes their hands occupied with multiform work that makes little show in the great t world I The wife is the main mainspring mainspring mainspring The household machinery spring of the smooth running of this depends upon her If I she break down things come to toa toa toa a sudden stop When she is at her best fhe the house moves on with the regularity of a star In its course without jar jat or commotion or apparent disturbance Nine husbands out of ten if it they hold the truth would confess to a vague ague sentiment with regard to the tho lives led by b their wives which almost approximates approximates approximates mates envy eny While John is t tailing downtown he fancies that Bess Is spending her days In luxury with complete command of her time tl e with little to do and that little com of agreeable things that any wo woman woman 0 man must enjoy en j 0 John does docs not say this but it is his impression deep in his subconscious mind Of or the grind and monotony and con confusion confusion confusion fusion the everlasting pressure of small cares out of which the beautiful well kept home is few husbands husban s know very much It is as well On the whole wives are fortunate in ill that hus husbands husbands husbands bands do go away In the morning and stay away awa through the day da leaving them a clear field My old fi friend lend So Sophie Sophie Sophie and wisdom phie a a woman whose years have kept pace advises girls never to marry either a cobbler or a minister A man mart she declares who stays at home mending shoes or making ser sermons sermons r mons Is terribly in the wa waIt way It seems indeed in the of ot na nature nature nature ture that a mans province should be beyond the doors door and a w womans omans with within within in A kind of or soft sort radiance invests the i wife ife and her husband though ever so weary wears begins to rest as often orten as hf hl enters her presence This is equally so whether she sh be of the vi vl vivacious vivacious and entertaining type tYDe or its Us opposite the quiet and receptive sort of woman A silent woman said an anold anold anold old Hebrew proverb Is a gift gUt from the Lord The chief thing wanted by a tired man is sympathy and this he re receives receives in unstinted measure from the wife who understands his every mood mod and responds to it as the key of ot the piano to the artists arti ts finger I said Mrs Irs Browning know Rob Roberts Roberts Roberts erts thoughts for I live inside him The subtle and marvelous in the blending of souls in a happy marriage is in a manner Independent of speech a athing athing thing most precious and most dear Yet insensibly it wears out the strength of woman and leaves her exhausted ex hausted hau ted Just because she does love and does understand her husband be because because cause she is continually giving him cheer solace and comradeship she should occasionally leave him for tor awhile and seek change and rest away way a from home Love is not killed by absences ab absences absences that are needed and planned pl nned for There are selfish and thoughtless absences such as those which leave a aman aman aman man to fend for himself In a hot city during three or four tour torrid summer months coming home at night to a n desolate house while hil wife wiCe and chil dren are arc ro at t some rrt pleasant resort Qi ci W cool cRol tUc ef and nd gay y These arc are not always wise or They are often ofte and unfortunate unfortunate unfortunate nate But there are little littfe breaks when for Cor a short time timo a tired wife goes away awa for refreshment and nd recuperation an anthey ant 3 they are ar beyond price For Instance a certainly happily mated couple have been living together er cr day da In and day da out for tor the last six or seven seen years If they have had an outing it has been b en together The wife has not been a day da from home except during her husbands short summer holiday y who wh 1 she has accompanied him to the woods and streams where he has gone pone Privately she loathes camping out and roughIng it but her inclination has led her to go with John and endure for his hi sake Why should not John have gone SOne one alone alene and allowed wed her to take that time for tor a visit home to her mother and amI the girls in a distant city The people p ople in the early spring days that make so many demands on depreciated ted vitality have haYe arranged a little run to the West Vest Indies or to Florida a matter of six weeks or so and they want her to accompany the party It could all be easily arranged as there Is 19 a maiden sister sufficiently detached from cares cres of 4 f her own to come and keep house for the interval but the ladys conscience does not suf suffer suffer suffer fer her to accept the proposition I cannot leave leac John is her ber conclusion and her state of mind is best described by bythe byth the famous line This rook reck shall fly from Its base ba s soon as I She is pale jaded nervous nervous worn out in the condition con when any an menacing m menacing na ing germ may pounce upon her with fiendish rage But she will not take talce a arest arest arest rest She cannot leave leae John With Witha Vitha a heroine she explains e I will never desert Mr Dir John who is not at all a but on the contrary a generous indulgent and American A husband begs his wife to go goon on He might as well beg beb Gibraltar to move moe She is 15 not to be persuaded Quite apart from other consider considerations considerations It is a good thing for people In Inthe inthe inthe the same family now and then to have haYe havea haYea a little change and separation They come ome back with renewed courage and renewed strength to t take up the ordinary ordinary ordinary nary duties of life A little whiff from outside tones up and enlivens one who has too long been enduring the continuous con continuous round of existing in the same place seeing the same faces and hear hearing hearing ing the samo sarno voices It Is even a good thing for children that their mothers should once in a while leave l ave them not notto notto notto to neglect but under proper supervision ion while the mothers go away awa and an play at childhoods games themselves One cannot loaf before ones children and loafing at times is a duty dut The one thing which love loe should sh uld dread ia is to become bec me so commonplace that its Sacrifices are taken for granted its gifts are arc cheapened and its gladness loses sparkle and effervescence Look around the homes you know Can you deny that the person who has the greatest need and the least opportunity opportunity opportunity of change Is very often the wife and mother I could much easier easier go goto goto goto to heaven wrote an old schoolmate of mine when invited to Join a pleasant company compan and go on a out outing outing ing than leave home hom for it a fortnight as yon you suggest su st She told the It ill rj ii gri q an Jl p in Ea r a T dout sal sofa t to slIp aW Q A is s not Hot always easy for her to a go o to to Old Point Comfort or Palm Paint Beach or orth th tb Bermudas although she may have haye fond husband grownup sons and daughters and nothing visible to an outsider Ou Id r to hold her fast She is teth tethered t tethered lh ered to h her r post by b the habits of ot a a life Ufe lifetime lifetime time and the tyranny of a morbid con conscience science As for the family they have havA been een used to seeing her in her own place and she l he is 1 to them like the at atmosphere atmosphere or the stars or the sun SUIl that r i irIses rises on schedule 1 time every morning m rt of their lives M Copyright 1905 Joseph Jpseph B |