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Show The Marriage Vow I -i i - r- n MANAGING TYRANNICAL HUSBAND 1 BY MR8. VIRGINIA VAN DE WATER. What about tho man who Is masterful master-ful and domineering? How Ib his wife to treat him? If Bho would not lose her own "rind her huBband'B respect, sho will not quarrel, will not scold, will not nag. Sho need not resort to means which aro beneath tho dignity of a refined woman. Lot tho wlfo npprcclnto thnt sho la hor husband's cqunl, hla friend, his partnor not hla alavo nor hlB toy. Tho main point la not what 1b naked by tho man, but how It la naked. Wo havo not ao much to do with tho mat-tor mat-tor of tho demand no with tho manner of It Every dutiful wlfo has a right to exact a courteous manner nnd gen-tlomanly gen-tlomanly speech from her husband. To nttnln this end sho will discourage discour-age at tho outset any rough language. Ono brldo, within n month of her marriage, mar-riage, showed with gcntlo dignity that Bho would allow nothing but courteous treatment from her llcgo lord. Thoy woro entertaining n few friends in tholr now homo. Tho brldo mndo n statement which tho husband contrndlctcd. Sho hesitated n minute, min-ute, then nald, gently: "John, I think that waa tho way that happened. I may, however, bo mlatnkon." Tho snvago, latent in every man sprang nB Ib frequently tho case, without sufficient cause to tho front "Mistaken! You aro not only mistaken, mis-taken, but you nro talking llko n fool!" Tho thoroughbred wlfo controlled all ovldonco of agitation except hor rising color. Tactfully changing tho aubject, sho chatted pleasantly on until un-til tho last guest had doparted. Then, nB her husband, forgetful of what had happened, nnd qulto hla usual good-natured good-natured self agnln, turned to her with a smiling remark, Bho Bald quietly: "John, denr, thoro is n llttlo matter I want to talk to you about. Sit down, plenso, hero on tho Bofn, by mo." And nB ho, wondering at her gravity, grav-ity, followed hor suggestion, sho continued: con-tinued: "Dear, you know that I lovo you, and that I would bear anything thnt waB necessary for you. Hut thoro la ono unnecessnry thing that I cannot promise to benr, and thnt Is rudeness. I am not usod to It I married n gen- M tleman, not a boor. So, John,, dear, you must not sponk to mo again na you did tonight, If I nm to contlnuo to lovo you and respect you. You nnd K I nro equals, husband nnd wlfo, not mnstor nnd slave. I know you did not mean wbnt you said. BuC you K, cannot say such thlnga to me. I could ' not resent It whoro our guests woro. H Hut It cut mo nnd, dear, It dlBapoint- ft cd mo. I nm sure, knowing this, you will not mnko thnt mistake ngnln." But Bupposo ho Is, at heart, tho beast above suggested. Only ono courao remains. Whon wifely tnct, love nnd pleading, followed by Judicious Judici-ous Bllence, havo availed nnught, lot tho wlfo systematically sot about learning not to enre. I see tho shudder or shocford dismay dis-may with which tho model matron meets thla suggestion. But I still maintain my stand. Whon a wlfo haa done hor duty toward her husband-falling husband-falling In nothing that can mnko him . happy nnd comfortnblc nnd ho still i treats hor brutally, complulns continually, continu-ally, Is perversely unjust to her, nnd eternally nags at her, let her summon nil her tnct to nvold occasions for "tho enemy to blaspheme," contlnuo to do hor duty, nnd then gathor up what is loft of her life, Thero m something In llfo besides n husband nud n husband's npprovnl. Let our dlsnppolnted wlfo llvo for thorn nnd In them. Let hor nllow tho Bldo of her henrt with which sho would grlovo over her husband's lnjustlco bo so full of that which Is worth nil of life thnt sho cannot tnko tlmo to brood over her great sorrow. Sho still owes tho mnn her duty, her fidelity, nnd, If she bo a good woman, sbo will pay what Bho owes. Can sho bo happy? That depends upon tho woman. If aho bo ono ol tho women of whom tho Irishman spoko as "three-halves mother," Bho will bo nlmost content. The part of her that longs for husbandly Bympn-thy, Bympn-thy, for the Ideal understanding that tuny and does exist in somo lives, will go to hor grave hungering. Mnny ' widows know tho Bamo longing, tho snmo henrt-hunger. To tho sensitive soul their lot may seem' ennlor thnn hers. Ah, well! for both thero is a world that acts this right! (Copyright, by Joseph B. Bowleg.) J |