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Show $be Balt falte fibunr Sunday, June 28, 1964 for and about the younger sot , Friends Takes Effort vcsEci&io - A ' ' . to Honesty, fact and loyalty are the key words, says actress Julie Andrews by Kitte Turmell T MAKE A FRIEND, give a flower, remember a face, forget yourself. Actress Julie Andrews was talking. I interviewed her at lunch. She was excited at starting work on her first film, after starring on the stage and in TV and was as gay as her summery print dress. "Isnt it awful to make a friend, then not remember his name? she said. "It happens to me. If youre lucky, you may have someone like my husband to nudge for help. But I find if I Cant remember a name, I may recall the face. So I take a good look at everyone the first time we meet "OF COURSE, you can always wait five minutes or so and iope memory will bring back the name you want But thats sort of cheating, really. So sometimes its easier just to say, Where did I see you before? Please remind me! Julie stopped to eat a bit of her salad. The In her dress matched her bright eyes. She wore a Victorian wig mouse brown, like my hair underneath for her picture role. HERES ANOTHER thing about first meetings, she continued. "Dont put too much trust in snap judgments. Once in a while you might regret them. Someone yon dont find much in common with at the start could turn sea-blu- e out to be your, best chum, or favorite date, or even your future mate. Julie Andrews, star of "Mary Poppins," looks around Making friends on the job is different from social Its harder, but important, too, Julie Andrews stressed. - You have to be realistic and remember that youre all together because you work there, not because you had wanted to be friends. So let friendships grow naturally and take time to be polite and interested in your fellow workers. friend-makin- KEEPING A FRIEND is as important as making one, Julie believes. "I once worked with a star wix wore a brooch I much admired, she recalled. "So she said shed get me one. A year went by, then one day she came up to me and said, Ive been hoping Id bump into you. Here ft Is! "I love that brooch, but she had given me something more important. She taught me that its truly friendly to keep a promise, even the smallest one. A' LITTLE RIVALRY among friends is like a little e spice. But Julie warns against overdoing it. Jealous efuse to grow up. They dont want to give up their is to stop placeto anybody. One way to avoid rivalryconcentrate worryrog about what others think of you and peo-pl- on beirig yourself. "You also have to remember that relations with your friends will always change. When I was a nobody and on my way to sing a solo in my first show in London, Mama and I stopped by a flower stand outside the theater. Mama. at other action in rehearsal. g. Ill buy you a bunch of flowers for luck, said "Luck for what a show? said the flower seller. You dont buy luck, dearie, but Til give it to you, with the flowers. "ALL WENT WELL. I was asked to sing one song more. The notices were fine. And when I still go by that stall, she always gives me a flower. "She taught me how important it is to remember people you are passing, as well as the people who are passing you, whether youre going up or down. For more Idekf on how to make a farorable, friendly write to Kitte Tnrmell, rare of The Salt Lake Tribune, P.O. Box 867 Salt Lake City, Utah. Ask for Kitted free leaflet: What They Mean and How Geetnres Social and to Control Them. AnU-Socl- al Salt Lake City, June 28, 1964 Kitte Turmell answers Letters From -- DEAR KITTE TURMELL: Where can I get facts about training for mental health work? Jim. - Dear Jim: Write to The National Association for Mental Health, Inc., 10 Columbus Circle, New York 19, N.Y. for d leaflets, including: "Choose a Career in Mental Health. This briefs: fact-packe- "The task is immense. The number of people in this country who are hospitalized with some degree of mental illness is more than the total hospitalized with heart and circulatory disease, cancer and polio combined. "This field is open to young men and women with opportunities about equal. Particularly needed are psychiatrists, psychiatric social workers, clinical psychologists, occupational and recreational therapists, psychiatric nurses and aides. The average state hospital has: Less than half the doctors it needs. One third the social workers it needs. One fourth the psychologists it needs. One fifth the nurses it needs. For facts about education and Teen-Age- rs training, check with your county hospital, medical and mental health associations. Visit a mental hospital nearby ; try tor a job e for pay or as a volunteer, or during vacation, to do some basic research on your career future. in Indiana For a program, a visiting "Career Day for young people is held at New Castle State Hospital in Indiana. This began, 13 years ago, as a "cola party for future nurses. Now it covers a wide range of or something. He is one of the biggest wheels around school and I am not and I guess that has something 'to do with it None of my friends go with the crowd in which he's a leader. I think he knows I like him. Please help me with this prob- part-tim- TraQ-BIazi- pace-settin- g fields, from Aero-Spac- e Medicine to therapy, with accent on mental health work. It starts with a tour; ends with refreshments and music by the patients band. High school students from five counties get answers to their questions about opportunities for college graduates; high school graduates with two or three years of technical traintraining. ing; or lem. "Misfit. Dear "Misfit: the friends with Stay with yon feel comfortable; don't play up to him or try to get into his crowd or youll feel more like a misfit. If and when he shows any special interest in yon invite him to join yonr friends, for activities yon all enjoy, and you may discover he doesnt fit in, and youd be happier with one with whom you dont feel inferior. health-care-er X-r- DEAR KITTE: I like a boy my age but I cant seem to get him interested in me. I guess he thinks he is too good for me k whom Confidential to Mixed-u- p You can still become a stewardess for an airline. Plastic surgery should eliminate those facial scars from the auto accident. But you must finish high school and some college training will be helpful. 31 r |