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Show T7TT THE - Queries submitted to thle department sfioold t sddreosed to VTif- Kathleen Kaye, rleanllorlum department. Salt La Telegram, Salt Lake CTtr Utah. Queries ere limited to en oueetlon each and muet be written In Ink and on ana alda of the paper only, ltb full nam and address of writer appended: also name or Inltlala to be used for Identification la column. All names and addrssses ar held In strictest confidence. For epecial service, phone Wasatch 7M between li and o'clock, or between I and 4 clock. When neceasary. please phone for the location of an? commodity mentioned la this department. age, my dear. It la not a question of ona year or tw. or three r perhaps not so much years at all but the difference that makes the difference in interests. There Is a daring one here . and there across ths sum of history, and that have come under our own observation, ob-servation, who married a man many years younger than herself, never to regret her choice. And If HE did. he played his part well, and aha never knew, and to all Intents and purposes they went down through the vistas of time to ths vary end. happy In ths Joy of each other's companionship. But where we can cite one case of that kind, there are pitifully many of those that hare ended In tragedy. I'.ut In . deciding, one has to consider con-sider the personal element. Borne are younger or older at a given aae than others. It la strictly, an Individual matter and each must cbme ta her own decision I to mine, you to yours with only Mstory and the repetition thereof to guide If we would be guided. If ona would rather retain a beautiful beau-tiful friendship keep It sweet and beautiful and untarnished to the end. then to chance having something more than that for a time, to be followed fol-lowed only by that dread nothingness that Indescribable hurt which sets Itself up. once a thing of beauty proves not to he a Joy forever, then that Is her privilege and may be her choice. If, on the other hand, shs la the typo that, knowing all, would still rather go In and try for what aha wanta could go In that way, feeling feel-ing that aha would be willing to pay the price of whatever should result that It would he easier and better to pay then. In that way. than to re-! re-! Ilnquleh all but an ennobling friend-Ishlp friend-Ishlp at the outset, and In relinquishing relinquish-ing strengthen the one tie left If It is worth Jt .to hrr to take ther.hance to win or to lose then that Is her portion, and her choice. Some would not play the game with such odds; others would. Each to her own decision. Dear Mlas Kayst Like thousands of other unfortunates I am coming to you with my troubles, not In tha'sxpsctstion of eympathy possibly I do not dsserve that---but In ths hope that your snswsr msy save some little family sven a part ef ths missry that is mine. Possibly It msy i seem silly for a man to corns to you with his woes, for the troubles of our own little world thst seem so vitsl to us msy sppear as rathsr trivial to others. My excuee for doing so, however, how-ever, is that I think the snd will Justify the mesne. f Aa briefly ss posible I am a ctssn- cut. wsll brsd young men, snd if not s mstinse idol (movie hero), om of good personslity, soVcstion snd refinement. refine-ment. Ten yesrs ago I msrrisd a poor girl for ons reason onljr becsuss I csrsd for hsr. Ons .of the joys, or should I In visw of ths eircumstancss. 1 say "two of the joys of the said union ware two of the grandsst ehildrsn thst ths Lord svsr put brssth in. All wsnt wsll until sur prospsrlty wsnsd. with its waning, o waned our ha pal-nsss. pal-nsss. First on one prtext and then in. otruir, I csught my wife in indisora-tisnsl indisora-tisnsl smslt St first, St Isst Isrgsr snd Isrgsr. I could hsvs overlooked slmost . .. L. n m " m A r r. A m u u. i f m mwA thm under the spell of Its disgusting nasaeau. might ba only too happy to have an Invitation to return Ilka a stray lamb to ths fold. Perhaps It would taks only a little effort on your part now to break down the wall of pride that surrounds her, and have her confess frankly that It was all a terrible mistake; that shs longs for the place that was hers In your hearts and your Uvea Let us not go on our way not knowing. Tou are willing and ready to be big and fine about the whole matter, and for the saks of ths wee ones, let's try even for the Isst hope. Go to her and lay ths whole matter before her In its cold, cruel facta and then know from her just what part shs will be willing to play with you, should you sponge the slate clean and start anew. If she convinces you that she is earnest In her plan to go on with you, then let the paet be dimmed from your memoriae by Time and live again In domeatlo harmony. If she would come to you now, only to fall you again If there has been no real "'""S- h-, I.. ,h. .h..a .be has set up remain unbroken. Aud know then that you have done all you could. I'm glad for the sort of sal', of the earth which you prove to be.' f'u-milltatlon. f'u-milltatlon. I'm nroud that In an enter- ssd part of it is. I do still; and in the aseond, she is the mothsr of my two children. At Isst with ms tsmporsrily out sf amploymsnt csms ths insvitsbls sso-srstion. sso-srstion. but strsngs to rslsts ths chil. dren's mothsr dsssrtsd thsm, toot sn set so unususl. so unnstursl, thst it was bsyond my limited comprehension. comprehen-sion. Ths scsns chsngesi I hsve s good position snd I sm psying n hsslthy portion of my sslsry to msintsin my youngsters s horns in sn sxcsllsnt pri-vsts pri-vsts fsmily. Aa smsli ss the Isttsr sra, thsy realize their mother's defsc-tion. defsc-tion. Ths question now thst srisss snd perplexes ms is. whst shsll I dot bs-smirch bs-smirch the chsrsctsr of thsir mothsr by gstting a divorcs snd sscuring thsir . permsnent cuetody, or refuss to do so st sll timss snd thus prsvsnt her from possibly dsnying some othsr msn's children whst hsr own havs evsry right to axpsct a mother's lovs and cere something that nothing alee in the world can rsplscs? Plssss do not misundsrstand ms, - Miss Ksye, snd think thst I sm posing - ss ths posssssor of sll ths virtues, for I am not., For your information I might eay Mths mistskss of my Jifat hsvs bssn msny,' but notwithstsnding, my wife hss not ons iots of avidsncs en which to sscurs s divorce, whils sgsinst hsr I hsvs smpls Isgsl proof. Sines our sspsration shs smokss cig-f cig-f srettes like a man and curses like a ' trooper, and aeems to be proud of both achisvemsnts. And now to cap the climax, she claims thst shs is In lovs with snothsr man a married man. Poeeibly thsre msy be soma affinity bstwaen thsm, slthough I doubt thnt tho psrty in question svsn knows thst shs is msrrisd. ss hs sddrsssss sll of hsr msil ss "Miss' Whsrs snd how csn it sll end I Believe I hsve gency you prove yourself equal to cuth fathering and mothering the babes. And since the law of balance ever dors apply. It Is In keeping, that regardless of seeming stress Just now, the glory of the home you hive so nobly championed cham-pioned will one day more than repay you for the heartaches of today. IK not falter. I'm going to hold for you and yours my very best wish. Humiliation, and extend this invitation: If there Is any part of this plan or any phae of yoir problem with which I can help you. please do not be abashed to Cume to me In porson. There's one touch of nature na-ture that truly makes the whole world kin, and my hand la out to you. Dear Mies Ksysi Wilt- you plesss tsll me from whst thsss lines corns! "This sbovs sll, to thins own self bs true, and It must follow as ths dsy ths night, thou esn'st not then be fslse to sny msnl" Thsnk you very much. LITERARY, Sslt Laks. Olad to help you. Literary. Your quotation la from Bhakespir-re's Hamlet. Act 1, SceneIIL and Is as fol-lowa: fol-lowa: "Neither a borrower nor lender be; For loan oft loses buth Itself and friend. And borrowing dulls ths edge of husbandry: hus-bandry: This above all: to thine own i-'f be true And It must follow, as the night the day. Thou can'st not then be fals to any man." Tou are most welcome. Dear Miss Kayo: '. I read in your Heartitorium that ycu would not marry a man younger k. vsureelf..- Mies Kays, do you Dsar Miss Ksyst I hsve enjsysd very much rssdlng from your wonderful pen. Would you plesss give me a littls informstien In ths Sundsy psper? I sm s girl 1S yesrs old snd I hsve rons with a fellow for two yeera. but do net seem to be' modsrn enough for him, or maybe I am not common enough. I like to have a good time in ths right sort of wsy, snd I liks dsncing. From ths opinion of other people, I sm not ugly. Not long ago I read In the Heartitorium where a fellow had written you to say that flappers disgustsd him. I do not remember re-member whst his nsms was, but if you esn remember or find who hs wss, would there be sny wsy of us meeting meet-ing through sn introduction! Hoping I have not troubled you and thsnking you very much, I sm, BLUE EYES, Sslt Lsks. The fact that the chap you seek does not like flappers would really not Identify him. my dear, for I know of almost no man who truly does like flappers. But. In any event I could not Introduce In-troduce you. This department has Its limitations and that is one of them. I am not so sKuated that It Is possible pos-sible to conduct a social club. But, honey, don't you grieve. Keep right on being right. Be modern If you wish, hut never, never common. If there are those whose standards are not such that they can appreciate you, then Just know that to be proof that you'll bs ths more appreciated by the higher and better class of men, and that all tn good tims and way, you'll be claimed by one of your own kind. Until then, keep happy, and keep sweet, and all good things enough sense not to do anything rash, although ono can novsr tsll, for it sometimes angsrs ms to see her with ethers when her kiddies srs slons. I esn only ses ons place though that she csn snd. snd thst is in ths guttsr. I must ssvs hsr, but how csn I? Possibly Pos-sibly you esn hslp me, for truly it is sll one of life's torry messss. In ths sunshins snd glory ef my youngstsrs snd ths hops thst I msy receive some smsli grsin of comfort in your reply, for psrehsnes, she, too, msy read ths ssms, I sm, with, sll best wishes for your own hsppinsss snd sll thst is swset snd good, HUMILIATION, Salt Lsks. Save for Just one phrase of nil this It would be easy for us to eay "finis" to append that and put all the whole dreary episode behind us. That something some-thing that makes us turn hack acain and again through the paces of your letter is the motherhood that la set forth there. MOTHERHOOD. While there is thst It makes any frsredy a living one; It can never die. Willie there is that it makes us feel that surety all cannot be lost, and makes us loth to turn back even In the face of all this, without trying gsln. Ro, poor tired soul, won't you listen a while I suggest that perhaps there's one hope left us yet; that perhaps It ia not forever too late to try again? That one hope Is this: That the little lit-tle woman' who has wrecked your home .nd fairly your .lives, has drunk her cup to the hitter dregs, and now, still mesn to aay you would not marry a msn younger then yourself if you know you oould never be hsppy with snyons slss if you loved him bettor thsn lifef Plesss sdviss me, ss I hsvs no ens to ask. I am trusting you. Thank you very much. Please answer in a Sundsy psper. C. X., Sslt Laks. When I consider marriage from any angle. I take for granted LOVE, for without the love that pasaeth all understanding un-derstanding there could bo no argument argu-ment for It. regerdlees of how favorable favor-able was all else. So, when I referred to marrlaxe with a younger man, I was naturally assuming that we were considering a mstch the conditions of which were otherwise promising. Likely at the time I would be making that decision, lovs would not be permitted to enter In. I would be asking myself: WouM it be wise? Is It logical that a companionship like this would endure? And finally, perhaps, per-haps, my answer to myself would be something that Is expressed In a sln-gls sln-gls little verss that comes to my mind Just here emd the greater my love, the more apt I would he to arrive at such . conclusion. I think: "And loving Mm so, I'd rather bs Tho one he let go and then fondly desired. Than winning htm, once In hit .face to eee The look of . love frown tired. But when we dlecusa diaparlty of think there'll be a way when you come In to see me. Dear Miss Ksysi- Ones mors I am earning to ysu for your wonderful help, and hope you are sbis to s'v it. Some time sgo I read an article In ths paper called "A Remsrksbls Story of s Deck of Csrds." It wss about a soldier whs wss arrested for playing cards In church, and hs told ths Judge this rsmsrksbls story of whst ssch csrd representsd with reference ts ths Bible. And now here is whst I wsnt you to pisses do for ms. Give ms ths srticls sgsin if posslbls. With beet wiehes snd a prsysr for your evsrlssting hsppinsss, I sm TINKER, Sslt Lsks. It ts my pleasure to be able to locate this story for you. Tinker. It may be had In a collection entitled "Comic Songs, Funny Stories and Redtattone." w hich Is to bs had for -S cents at Was. 9417. I thank you for you sweetly-put good wishes. Dssr Miss Ksysi Hers I sm to bother you sgsin, you blessed Answer Women, but dsn't be too hsrd on me, will you? Miss Kayo, I am a working girl, but ' I don't cars much for tho work I sm I doing. Miss Ksys, dont think me fcolish, but I hsvs slwsys wsntod ts be o tonserisl srtist. I can't Issvs hsms, nor hsvs I very much money, so I wsnt ts know, dssr Ksthleen, if there is sny wsy I could losrn it st hems, snd how much it will cost mo. I'm sn swful pest. Miss Ksys, but I just csnnot think of snyons slss I could sok, so plssss snswsr ms snd obligs, PE8TY, Sslt Lsks. Testy, dear. I'm sorry, but this ia not an art which msy he acquired at home, for the reason that you must have subjects upon which to practice. I Isn't there something else something I that perhaps you could study In a night I class that would Interest youT Al- ways I'm glad to help you In anything. so write again about this If you think I I could help you. Dssr Miss Ksysi Will you plssss tsll me In a Sundsy tssus of The Tslegrsm juet how to eers for my skin 7 I hsvs poros thst srs rsthsr snlsrged snd blsckhosds around my nose and chin. I am not sxsetiy satisfisd with ths wsy I sm csrlng for my skin snd I would like to hove your opinion. Thsnk you. VEC, Lewlston. I would suggest that you get the Marinello creams acne, lettuce and tlssus builder, and use according to Instructions with them. L. T. Salt Lake: I remember answering this letter for you before. I hsve nothing more to offer now than I had then. Tho situation situ-ation remains unchsnged. Sorry. will corns to you while, you wait and work. Desr Miss Ksysi Will you plesss tsll me whst it mssns to dreem of elephsnte by drovssf Thsnk you. E, Sslt Lsks. According to dream superstition, to see elephsnts signifies fear and d.in-ger; d.in-ger; to give them food, the meeting of some great person; to mount one, good fortune. But you do not bellevs in any of that, do you, E.? Desr Miss Ksysi I sm a newcomer In your wonting fsmily, but I hsvs rssd your snswsrs to othsr snd thought msybs I could got some sdvics to sooths my troubles swsy. I sm sn smstsur itlustrstor snd csrtsonist snd dssigner, . but don't know where to sell my work. I sm studying with ths School of Applisd Art, Bsttls Creek, Mich. Could yeu tell me of some Wsstsrn picture buyers and whsrs ths Weetern Newepsper Union isf, I would bs flsd to ssnd soms of my work to hs Tslsgrsm to show whst I csn do. Thsnking you, I rsmsin, M. E, Santaquln. It hurts tn be put to It. Mr. M. E.. but ths truth is there's practically no market at all for amateur art work. The Telegram does not purchase anything any-thing of that nature, so It would be s waste of your good tlms to show your efforts. The Western Newspaper Union la located at -41 South West Temple, Salt Lake. Wish I could help you, but there's Just nothing lo offer. After you finish your course with the Applied Arts, couldn't you skip off to an Eastern school for a little tlms? Then perhaps you might get a position aa a stsff man on some newepsper or magazine. Can't you try for that? My Dear Miss Ksysi I sm not going to repsst sll ths nice compliments thst yeu deserve fsr your work, but sm going to ssk you strsightwsy for your advice. I sm s widow of 60 years, sm sctivs snd ehserful. I hsvs two shildren ons 13 snd ths other t to ' cere for,' snd I find it s struggls ts maks snds meet on tho limited income I receive from my son of 1S yesrs, whs hss done all he could to hslp me ths Isst ! tws yssrs. I wondsr if thsrs would be some kind of employment st ths ststs fsir which, if posslbls, would eiot deprive my shildrsn too much sf my soeisty after school hours. I hsvs ns tslsphone, but feel thst I would liks to tslk this matter over with you. Could you plesss snswsr this in . Sundsy paper? It ia ths only ons ws tsks. A MOTHER, Sslt Lake. You may run In when you are uptown Some day, littls Mother. If I should be too busy to ses you at that time, you may take an appointment appoint-ment and come again. Phono tho State Fair association, i Wasatch 140, for Information con-' con-' eerning employment there, and about i the other we will talk when you come. I Meantime, be ol food courage. I |