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Show GOOD TASTE A TODAY lEMILY POSTt$ World'j Foremost Authority on Etiquette Emily Post. (ft Mixed Sets of Silver Are Often Attractive DEAR Mrs. Post: My husband's family has presented me with his deceased mother's flat silver. The pattern belongs to the mid-Victorian period and is not, at least In my eyes, at all attractive. How- , ever, my husband loves it and expects ex-pects me to use it with his same amount of joy. I shall of course do my best to conceal my dislike for it although I had so much wanted to add to my own silver where pieces were needed. What worries me is having to use together some silver of one kind and some of another decidedly de-cidedly ornate type. I suppose there is nothing for you to answer except that it will look pretty terrible, but it would be consoling to know that you have seen really attractive tables ta-bles where mixed patterns of this description were used. Frankly, have you? Answer: Yes, I have. I agree with you that if you were able to buy new silver it would be much better to have it match. But many, many tables in beautifully appointed ap-pointed houses are set with mixed silver, and the reason is obviously that very few can, or want to, discard dis-card inherited silver, especially that which has a sentimental association. Bride's Friends Seated With Parents at Left T EAR "Mrs. Post: On which side of the aisle do the bride's parents par-ents and friends sit? A friend tells me their correct places are on the left but does she mean left from the position of the pews or of the chancel? chan-cel? Answer: They sit on the left side entering the church and facing the chancel. Coming Out Party JEAR Mrs. Post: Does a form-S form-S ally worded invitation of a coming-out party require an answer of any kind, and who is expected to send the debutante flowers and what does one say to her in the receiving line? Answer: If the invitation includes no request for an answer, then none is expected. While leaving cards at the party or sending them if you can not go, is a formal exaction which, even in this day of informality, informal-ity, is still considered courteous, it is also one which most hostesses no longer expect except from strangers. stran-gers. Beaux and family friends usually send the debutante flowers although even they need not feel that their not being able to afford any should keep them from going to the party. When going down the receiving line, an intimate friend might tell the debutante how pretty she looked, but a stranger would merely say, "I hope you are going to have a wonderful time this winter," win-ter," or "... a happy time this winter." Or if the party comes at the end of several, she might say, "I hear that you are having a wonderful time this winter." Sent Hog Problem y0 YOU think it fair that the girls coming early to a school meeting keep best scats next to themselves for their particular friends who come in later? We feel that those who come first have a right to these best scats and we wish you would express your opinion opin-ion before we bring the matter up for discussion at the next meeting. Answer: This is one of the great abuses found in all assembly rooms where the audience is not given reserved re-served seats. For a fairly large group to keep one extra seat is perhaps per-haps not out of the way, but to send someone on ahead, as Is commonly com-monly done, who spreads a coat out in each direction for six or eight who come at their leisure is an evl- dence of extreme lack of appreciation apprecia-tion of the rights of others. We can all understand that people In one group like to sit together, since this is only natural. But either they should all come together and then take best available seals or else they should be satisfied with scats at the side or in the back. In short, they should keep scats that are not especially desirable. To Be Wed in Brown T EAR Mrs. Post: I am being married in a street dress In tho presence of only a dozen relatives rela-tives and friends. I Intended getting get-ting a brown dress since my traveling travel-ing coat Is of mixed browns with a beaver collar, but on second thoiiKht perhaps brown would bo as unsuitable, unsuit-able, on this occasion ns black. I am referring to the KiiiicrsUlion that black suggests bud ln,k for those in the wedding. Answer: The reason black is avoided at weddings is that it Is tho color of mournm,:. Thero is no such association with brown. Tho only possible criticism ot brown is that It mli:ht seem sombre unless lightened In sumo way by color nt your throat or by carrying bright colored flowers. WNU Service. |