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Show Dorothy Dix Talks WHAT EVERY MARRIED WOMAN KNOWS ! By DOROTHY DIX, the World's Highest Paul Woman Writer A business girl who makes a good salary Is engaged to be married to a oung man who Is studying to be a doctor, and who Is working his way through school against many od.ls The young woman wants to help her fiancee financially, but he refuses to take money from her, nor dues he want to marry until be has completed complet-ed his education and has established himself as a physician. The girl thinks this Is a very foolish fool-ish position for the young man to lake, and wants to know what I think of it. I Ihink the young man's point of view is not only the honorable one, but the sensible one, and that youth who has the grit, and pluck, and Independence to tight his own way upward unaided is worth waiting for as long as Jacob waited for Rachel. i he man who will take money from a woman, and who will let his sweetheart sweet-heart work to support him Is a poor, weak, miserablo creature- who isn't worth his purchase price, even ln a matrimonial marked-down bargain sale. It Is natural that every woman should want to help the man she loves and when ahe sees that he needs money and the comforts and necessities that money buys, that she should yearn to give him everything In her pocketbook even to the last 1 pennj j Rut it is a dangerous thing to do Phen is something strange and sinister, sin-ister, und Inexplicable about the IdiKliI me rffi.-. l i hut a w omaii s mon- ley Be'ems to have on a man. and not once iii ;i thousand times can she give lit to him without ruining him, and slaying his affection for her. Whether it Is because It subverts the laws of nature and makes thb Weaker one tho stronger, and turns the one who should be the protector into the protected; or whether it kills a mans self-respect for him to be dependent on n woman, and he hates her because she visualizes his own .weakness to him, nobody knows. Rut certain it Is that a woman's .money almost Invariably kills a many j love for her. He may take it gladly, land eagerly. Ho may force her to Kie it to him. but almost Invariably , It turns him Into a cur w ho bites the hand that feeds him. You huve onlv to look about you i to see a hundred proofs of tills Think .Of thO Working girls you have known Who have lent money to iheir swect- hearts, and lost botli sweethearts and money. i,ook at the rich girls who marry poor men How few of such iparrlnges arc ever happy The women wo-men may be all that Is lovely and sweet Am, g.-nerous. Thov mav r-v.-n bo so insanely in love that they have turned over their fortunes to their husbands, but tb n.n are peevish disgruntled cynics who scoff at romance ro-mance and love and often-, I ha n nol are falthlegs to the women whose angel food they feast upon Think' of the poor hoarding house-keepers, house-keepers, and all the otherv-lpng array of women that you have I now n w , have supported worthless husbands ' lM remember a single man of ' r" . ' V" haa ' v"n 'reated his wife decently? Hosn t the man almost without exception been a rfurly brute before whom the poor drudge J. laved to earn the money i0 keep th.'m n food. un,i , lothes, and tobaj eo Lrsmbleo 1 Statlstl. a show that In he great majority of .'amines u, h , 1,2 uccomr a monev-eamer tht husband cease to bo one. and that Re immediately degenerates Alio .hey show that the ninn who becomes tBSSPiS!- hUwI Qlylwaysj This makes the problem of the woman wo-man who desires to help man one of the most difficult In the world Vo ft ) ... '"V she can onlv do t Indirectly. she ran do It if she ! "" JH by thrift, and economy" and byq making as raw demands upon hS purse as she ran. but she gives him the eontenls ,,f her own , , book at their peril. This makes u curious complication just now when so many women have provnd .such capable business women and such big money earners Thev I could so rasily and so effectually help the men they love by giving them fin-anciol fin-anciol aid if there wir. not this curse upon a woman's money. I'rrhaps when men Kt moro used to the altered state of affairs, and ome to look upon their wives as their equals, and their business partners, they Will talte another veW ,,f this matter, and react differently towards 1 v- sn's help. Now man's pride requires it of him that he should be ai least outwardly, ihe One-Who-Doea-It-AUt the Bonrce of Supply, the Hand From AA'hlch AH Bleslnys I'low So his wlfo must remain out of sight, and helj) him so secretly that ho can even hide from himself that she is doln it at all. In a more intelligent future he will share hi throno with his wife, they will work openly together, and then he will see no shame in having her Inves) her money in the firm of Ben edict &: Co., Just ns he does Then a woman may. perhaps, help ,i man 1m' lending or giving him money, mon-ey, and he may lie grateful to her as! he Is to a helpful man friend. But tli if millennium has not yet arrle, At present it hurts mans vanity to take a woman's money, and no man ever forgives tho hand that deals n blow at his self-love. Qspei tally when it Is a feminine hand. So If a woman wants to keep the man he loves, let her keep her money also. |