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Show j Dorothy Dix Talks J I By DOROTHY DIX. the World's Highest Paid Woman Write I ACQUIRES CHARMS ' '. There are times when I think that what the world needs more thun I anything else is a social Luther Bur-i Bur-i bank who can change a wall flow, i j into the sort of a rosebud that a J man Instinctively plucks, and pins on his breast. At any rate, there isn't a day In the year wtien I don't get from one to a dozen letters from Kirls asking how they can make themselves attractive to men, and secure the maseullno attention at-tention that is necessary to their having hav-ing a good time , "I am pretty I dress well. My mother entertains for me. I cannot see In what way I am Inferior to the girls that men flock around." wad these disconsolate on h, 'yet no man ever comes to our house, unless ho i specifically lnvltud thorn. When I go to a party, no man ever dances with me unless my hostess makes him, and when he does he looks like a lamb beins: lead to the slaughter. Whv am I what Is popularly called & "lemon?" "And is there any cure for ' lemoji-ness 7" Why some women attract men, while others repulse the.m is a mystery mys-tery that no one has ever been ablo to solve. It isn't the matter of beauty nor brains, nor any of the standaid-ized standaid-ized virtues that you can put your finger on, and say, "Acquire this,' or "do that," and you will appeal to men. For we all know living pictures that are reft hanging upon the home walls, and homely ladies who have had three husbands already, and still have a waiting list. We know viva-cloiw viva-cloiw ,"iHs who n.-i.r ha'., a h.-au and tongue tied ones that men swarm around like bees around a honey pot. We know viragos whose husband-j worship them, and household angelj who are deserted wives. And so it rocs, and the masculine fancy bloweth v here it listeth, and no woman knows which way to set her sails t- i itch It. For s woman to be really attractive attrac-tive to men to be the kind of a girl thnt nu n run rifti-r- -she has to be. born that way Nature must havo endowed her with the come-hither look in her t. which every son of Adam instinctively responds. but even when this has been denied a maiden, theie are a number df thina which she can do to camouflage her la. k of attractions for the opposite BOX and to prevent herself from having hav-ing to sit among the elrTtperones at parih s and acquire a face ache trying try-ing to look as if she liked It Then Is one thing about men for which women hae to be grateful o 0 merciful providence, and that is tha: they arc not analytical about women Their attitude is the Doctor Fell one. They either like you r they don't like you but the reason why they . annot tell, and they never seek to llnd out That Is why a girt vvlio lacks r.-al nttraetion for men can put over a side lino of make believe attraction at-traction if she is clever and energetic enough to di it So my advice to any girl who wants tu move herself out of the wall flower class is, first, to learn how to doll hi rscli up When our first mother was turned out of Eden. God gave her a dress as a consolation prize, and it still works. As long as there are chiffons, and hair dressers, no women need ever be hard on the eves, or lack the means to attract the masci-llne masci-llne gaze. Only' the trained eye of the artist -and praise Heaven few men are artists ar-tists who can distinguish between a woman who la beautifully dressed, and one who is beautiful herself, no." .an many men distinguish between a band made complexion and the real thlnrr. So any girl can soon get the reputation of being a good looker, of the sort that a man Is proud to be Been about with. If she will take enough pains with her personal ap pea ranee. M second piece of advice to the wail tiower is to learn how to dan. : superlatively well These are the days when It la better to have nimble 1 . Is than to have the beauty of Ven- i us, and the wit of Aspasla. And when j It profiteth a maiden not, If she has every other charm on earth to be beat i '..n her I set. No girl who is a really wonderful i dancer ever lacks for partners. There - : fore if you la"k luro In other ways spend your money and your time, i with some good dancing teacher un- ' til you are un . Kpi 't in all of the 'lutest toddl. s. and wimples, ami shakes and shimmies so shall you have to j cut your dances up into mincemeat 1 instead of staring forlornly at a blank program The third piece of advice that I would give the wallflower is to acquire ac-quire adaptibillty. Learn how to bo a Jane-of-all-trades so that you can fill In wherever you happen to be. Learn how to play a good gamo of I i golf and a good game of bridge. Learn enouph music to be ablo to play ac companiments for people who think they know how to idng. and to jazz for those who wnnt to dance. The girl who can help other people to a good time is always in demand, and always popular. My fourth piece of advice to the wallflower is to cultivate good nature. Be a good sport. Be easy to get along with. Be jolly and cheerful A man has to be actually In love with a woman before ho Is willing to take the trouble to entertain her. and he fights shy of the girl who expects him to make the conversational running, run-ning, but he likes the society of the girl who will entertain him. All men are Grand Pashas at heart, and want women to dance before them, and di-vert di-vert them with Schezrade stories. And my fifth piece of advice to the Wall Flower is, never let a man find out that yon are a wall flower. The only rose that a man ever wants Is the one tha he thinks all the other men are breaking their necks to pldck. Dorothy Dix's article appear in this newspaper every Monday, Wednesday and Friday. 00 |