Show I DOROTHY DIX TALKS Uy By IS DOROTHY DIX nix the World a i nigh highest st Paid PaIA Woman Doman THE OTHER WOMAN ISN'T ALWAYS TO BLAME FOR HUSBAND HUSBAND- STEALING FOR WIVES WHO ARE NO LONGER LOVED ARE USUALLY NO LONGER LOVABLE AND HELD TO BREAK UP THEIR HOMES BY CARE CARE- CARELESSNESS CARELESSNESS AND NAGGING THREE TUREE divorced women were talking together the other day dRY And one of them saId Bald When we wives lost our husbands ke we always alwa s 's accuse some other othe- woman of having stolen them from us and we e cry out that our hus hue husbands bands arc are cruel ingrates who have taken the th best years of our lives and then thrown us aside like broken toys tos when wo we were no longer young oung and beau beau- leau- leau And we pose is lS blameless martyrs who are the thet xV t t pitiful victims of mans man's perfidy Of course it 11 saves our faces to be able to lay ay all the blame of our wrecked homes on others and It 5 soothes our hurt vanity to be wept over oyer as a a. poor Innocent deserted wife But Dut In the still dill watches of the night when we have It out with our own souls there are mighty few of us who iho can shrive our con con- r. r sciences and know that we are blameless f Most of us know In our heart of hearts that If It our husband husbands love died we did our part in administering the lethal dose W We may have done It through Ignorance through care care- DOROTHY DIX DIS through blundering stupidity we may have even done It with the best Intentions Intentions in the world and with the firm conviction that we were forcing down their throats a remedy that would cure them cf of cfall cfall all the little ailments and weakness of character from which they suffered But the point Is le we did It We were accessory to the crime and we could have prevented it If we would NOW NO as you know my husband forsook me for his secretary secretary- I 1 1 called her her- hera a thief who had used her position to rob me of a husband hus buss band and my ray little children of their father and I looked upon him with bitterness and contempt as a poor weakling who let an adventuress adventuress adventuress make him forget et his honor as a man and his duty dut to his wife and children I called heaven heaten to witness that I 1 was Innocent and that that I had been a good true virtuous woman who had always done don her duty dut to her family It took me a long time to see that If my husband grew weary of me I had made him tired by my incessant nagging and fault finding that if he ceased to love me It was because I was no longer lovable and that the other woman wom ln had not really stolen him from me I had simply handed him over to her on a sliver silver salver dy yOU J see I was one of the wives who did not realize that It Is easy I enough h to get a husband but the work comes In In keeping one I thought that after aCter a 1 woman was married she could let herself Co go and so 50 soI soI I never bothered to keep myself dolled up at home hom or to try to make make- myself pleasant and agreeable I went In negligee both as to clothes and manners Any old rag was good enough to wear to breakfast Any disagreeable topic was a suitable breakfast table discussion and I felt perfectly free to quarrel with my husband and criticize him and ridicule all of his little faults and idiosyncrasies I forgot that he went from a sloppy wife to an office where a trim perfectly groomed woman younger and better looking than I waited for him I 1 forgot that he went from my nagging and fault finding to a I girl who was paid to agree with him and whose job depended largely on her flattering him and telling him how wonderful and great he was W lS It wouldn't have been human for him not to constitute a dally comparison between us and It was Inevitable that when he did that I should lose out If I had kept my doors doom locked and my burglars alarms In working order no one could have have looted my home And so I am Just juat as responsible for forthe forthe forthe the wreck of It as are those who broke it up n lY 1 HUSBAND was a gay pleasure loving man said the second cond s MY M divorcee He lie always alwa's wanted to be bo going somewhere lIe He loved to be In the thick of crowds He adored dancing and restaurants and the th bright lights He loved fine clothes and always wanted me to look like a fashion plate Now ow I 1 am a serious minded woman and was brought up to take a serious view of oC things and I felt It my duty duly to cure my husband of his frivolity by leading him up to what I considered the higher life 1 I began by trying to wean him way away from his old friends on whom I turned such a cold shoulder that they soon ceased coming to the house I lectured him about his extravagance and the way he threw away money and finally got possession of the family purse and doled out dimes to him I wouldn't go out with him of an evening and I rarely let him go without a scene AT FIRST he submitted but ho he looked bored and sulky and then AT he broke out of Jail which was all his home had come to be to him and that was tho th of the end For of course when I wouldn't play with him he found some other woman who would and who wouldn't wet blanket wet blanket every occasion by her moral strictures or spoil every meal at ata ata ata a restaurant by looking at the pay check If I had been willing to flatter him and Jolly him and dance with him and let him spend his money on me he hc would never have left me But I wouldn't do It and my austerity got goton goton goton on his hla nerves He wanted a playmate Instead of a censor and so 10 I feel that I am Just as much to blame as he was wu LOST my husband through ambition said the third divorcee He I 1 was an artist of or great talent and I was mad for far him to win fame and money so 60 I never let Jet him rest reet I prodded him on all aU the time I was forever a goad In his Ws side and so eo I became to him sort of an Incarnate conscience a perpetual reminder of or all aU the unpleasant duties dulles of f life He was wu a child of Impulse and I became his hi task mistress a slave Ilave driver to him Finally he got ot to the place where he could stand It no more and he eloped with with a ayoung never young girl Ir as al Irresponsible as a. he was She will never push puah pis him himon himon on to success as I would have done and she eho lets him follow every whim and she will hold him as aa I could have done dono If I had had Intelligence enough to see aeo that you cant can't make a work workhorse workhorse horse horae out of Pegasus T TOW OW much happiness we might m tave save if only our OUI wisdom did not Dol I 1 come como too late ate sighed the first woman DOROTHY DIX Copyright by Public Ledger Company |