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Show il- : i ; j Such Thinfi as Good : Husband for Any Girl; t Must 2? .Siii. LJ j TKAR MISS llfXK: I should Uk to know vih.it you coimUIit Is good husband for ny girl. My daushter has a chnoe to marry fine young man, nd so far as hrr father and I can tee, ho is about as good a type for marriage as any I she Is likely to meet, nut she says that he would not make her a good husband, and she treats him so badly, bad-ly, I wonder that he stays around. I want to help her but I need an outsider's opinion to help me first. W. Va. AN'SWr.K There is no such thing ns a Rood husband for ANY girL There are plenty of good husbands in the world but their efficiency is founded on the fact that they found the women best suited to them and that their wives' love and adoration help to make them good husbands. But a man can be honorable and fine and a good provider and a tender ten-der loving companion yet bore his wife to death and make her rest-iess rest-iess and dissatisfied for the remain-" der of her life. It's not that he does anything wrong. It's just that ho on't nnesihlv An anything right (or the woman who doesn't love him. If he is generous and sweet and kind, she despises him for being be-ing an easy mark and longs for the primitive caveman type. A man may be thrillingly romantic, passionate and possessive enough to , satisfy any maden's dream but if he doesn't find the right woman, ha will be a loss on the matrimonial market, r the wife who doesn't love him will i j.-Amro in the lace of his most dramatic wuiiirstt and will yearn for a quiet, placid existence with a nice, calm life-partner. life-partner. Uothers and fathers of course look over iheir possible son-inlaw with practical eye. If he's a good provider $nd an honest, steady worker, they are It least relieved of any worry about their daughter's future and it is quite natural that they should OK the court-ihip. court-ihip. But they must not forget that Mary will manage to make herself j desperately unhappy even In a ten-room ten-room house with a garage and a smart car and two new frocks a week if the man she marries isn't her idea of a good husband. True she will not know the suffering and despair of utter poverty but if she has an imagination and the will to use it in the wrong direction she will arrange to have a special sort of suffering which will cast a blight on her marriage. Very often we see a young man j pointed out as a splendid candidate j for marriage because he neither smokes nor drinks nor fools around with women. Yet letters come to me from girls who have married I these exemplary characters letters which complain bitterly: "He doesn't seem to be human. I wish he had a few faults so that he'd j be more like other people. He nev-er nev-er wants to go out and frowns at .Yghtesi ;?2estion of frivolity. I feel that I am getting to be an old woman, without ever having had any fun.' And that other perfect candidate for marriage, "The good steady worker," can be just as unsuccessful unsuccess-ful as his shiftless brother if he chooses the WTong mate. For his industry and his untiring energy and his preoccupation with his job will get on the nerves of the woman v.-ho has no ambition for him, and who would rather live simply on very little money than be a business busi-ness widow. DEAR MISS DENE: I have been . going with a boy for a year now acd while he says he likes me, be has never shown any signs of love. I. however, have fallen very much in love and want to do anything I can to win him. You have helped ethers will you help me? Bobbie. ANSWER I'm afraid I can't work any rnagic, Bobbie, which will make your lukewarm suitor a helpless victim vic-tim of love. And unfortunately there are no active steps you can take, without upsetting the romance entirely. en-tirely. It is certainly tough to be a mere woman under circumstances of this sort, since it has always been woman's wom-an's lot to wait patiently and meekly meek-ly until some great brute has made i up his mind that she will do. No use kicking against the facts. Bet-ter Bet-ter to face them. However, woman is a more complex com-plex creature than man and for that reason the tricks she plays on him are apt to work. Whereas few men are quick and clever enough to fool any woman with their artful dodges. Therefore, Bobbie, you might give your hero something to think about by inventing another beau. Slop being be-ing the Heady, steady girl friend and begin to show signs of being elusive. Dnn't he sn almizhly easy to date. Talk vaguely about other plans. Keep a memo book around in which to jot down dates instead of being eagerly ready to say "yes," whenever your true love suggests an evening. It's just possible that this year's friendship has been too easy and matter-of-fact to strike a romantic note with the man in the case. Throw a little glamor around yourself your-self and build up a few illusions to convince the boy friend that his dear old pal is after all an extremely ex-tremely attractive and rather mysterious mys-terious feminine being. '""- A very little judicious feminine-, deception can work wonders with the tempo of a man's heart-beat, e Bell Syndicate. WNU Service-. |