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Show ' . 1 will your dau it 4 f I i ItUi Horoid Holmo Heritage of happiness: The most joyous gift a mother can give her daughter today is the attitude that will make her a good wife tomorrow marketing haphazard, the finances mixed up and her grousing loud, clear and constant, the daughter may well take a dim view of the entire setup. Although this is the overall principal, there are also some specific ways a young girl can he taught to be a good wife. I have made the following suggestions to the husbands and wives who come to me for counseling, and in my lectures: These are not premarital instructions such as sex guidance or other specific areas of teaching. These are general prin ciples that girls should begin to absorb long before they are even thinking of marriage. 1. Start giving her responsibility early. Beginning in kindergarten years, make her take "care of more and more of her own things, working up to complete responsibility for her sleeping area by the time she is ten. Let her know but without nagging that you consider this care important. Best way is to praise her frequently when she does a good job. 2. Let her help you plan as well as help you work. As she nears her teens, take her into your confi- dence, explaining the problems you face in running the home and letting her help you solve them. When you ask her to do a chore, explain carefully how the job fits into the entire household management scheme of things. Thus she will have a feeling of working wijh you toward your goal rather than performing an isolated task that, by . Continued on page 30 9 |