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Show Thursday, May 9, 1996 THE DAILY HEKALD,Provo, Utsh — Page B7 Parent should teach high school Community health fair set for next week graduate a lessonin gratitude them his high-school graduation announcement with a note of t0 noon. There wili be free blood pressure monitoring, vision and glau- day. Some year, | would like to throw myself a party in a restaurant at my own expense. Is this a social no-no? Can I invite relatives, friends and co-workers to my ownparty and request “no presents”? Gentle Reader: You are right that Miss Manners does not condone saying, “Don't bother honoring me with a party that was planned for your enjoyment, not mine.” Truth is not a defense of rudeness. However, she would permit your saying, “You're very kind, thanksinside, but I am afraid they “nightfeel obligated to reciprocate “with a gift. “Gentle Reader: Miss Manners would also like to contribute to your son’s success in life. She can think of no more effective way than to suggest that you assign him cials and timeout. I find this insulting and will not gothis year. Do | say why I can’t make it? You'll probably say no explanation, but I feel slighted and hunt by what I perceive as sports over the fact that it is my -- our — birth- | to write those letters of thanks. That is not to say that you can- ‘not also express gratitude to these «people. as he is; the immediate eis But phe 'y of their ao be the first to acknowledge this. s Mother's Day some people mistakenly think, nor, bride’s mother by the bride’s as others fear, because it might be mistaken for a graduation invitation. It is not sent because these pepe already know — or will “knowfrom your son’s letters — that he is being graduated. brother — would be particularly appropriate. Miss Manners just asks you not to make a ceremonyofall this. Wedding guests going to their seats should not be featured as a Dear Miss Manners:| need a warm-up act. quick review of how the wedding Dear Miss Manners: Mysister cally when,in what order, and who walks the mother of the bride. “thother of the groom and grand‘thothers of the bride and groom down the aisle. All the books meclude only the actual wedding two vears) apart and because they are in May,the party her adult children throw us (1 am widowed with no chidren) celebrates Mother's Day 2: well For the last four years, there has been a sport tournamentontelevision dominating the entire day. No amovat of coaxing or planning another day is effective, so we open gifts and eat during commer- procession is lined up — specifi- and | have birthdays two days (and fey. flowergirls, ring bearers and t ide. Please help — I'm in a pante Gentle Reader: Please — get a grip on yourself. The reason that Let's get together some time when it doesn’t conflict with something you want to watch.” Notice that this conveys the same information as the rude version. As for giving your own party, which you, of course, recognize requires bearing all the expenses, Miss Maaners does not object. But she thinks it would be even more charming to give a party for your sister, especially since her children have been yourhosts. The way to avoid presents is not to wam against them, which perversely sounds greedy because it gives awaythe fact that you were even thinking of receiving them Also,this injunctionis as frequently ignored as obeyed, thus causing intense embarrassment to emptyhanded guests. The way to doit is to avoid mention of the occasion until the guests arrive. Simply invite them to a party; then announce how grateful you are to have themall there on your birthday fragrance; 10) a large appliance Great expectations: Many of percent of those choosingpolitics. Defense against falls: You for” gifts this Mother's be nurses, but nearly twice as many girls as boys want to be doctors. Furthermore, in a survey of 5‘0-8-year-olds sponsored by the aging motherorfather take up the martial arts. Not just for selfdefense — a new National Institute on Aging study showsthat tai rl » 4) a card: 5) dinner; 6) money; 7) electronics; 8) candy; 9) represented 40 percent of those choosing business and lawand 38 makeselderly people less likely to fall and break their brittle bones Once again, you're faced with that annual to get the mothers in your fife for Mother's Day? ee Hi a'poll of 787 moms conduct- Sears. the top 10 “most wy di per mo OAC. No Down No Payments Til’ November }|Moa77 $4995 per mo. (USED PIANOS AND) ( FREE CONCERT ) Roland, owner of Rodgers DIGITAL PIANOS Organ, invites youto a free Top BrandsIn Good Cond ition $9 concert: MAY 11, 2 p.m. per icy a OAC. Introducing theatre sounds never available before in home organs EeARTIae PURCHASE ENTERS YOU IN A DRAWING ay FREE GRANDFATHER CLOCK VALUED AT $2500 What moms want most on Mother’s Day Rnight-Ridder Newspapers from only ae TF You need not enclose a gradua- tion announcement — not because ft is a request for a present, as the bridegroom usually precede her, and the grandparents may precede them,thusfilling out the family rowslast. They may be escorted by any of the ushers, but one who is also a close relative — for example, the Kohler & Campbell Kk Special Purchasefor Doing so would be excellent but I think I'll decline. Sports ‘trdining in graciousness,letter writ- more orlessparallel, the parents of events really don't interest me. “{ng, and the realization that one’s duties should not always be shouldered by one’s parents. These are all ¢kills that contribute to success. BABY GRAND GRARDFATHER CLOCKS _ [ etiquette books skip this subject is because they don’t much care, and ‘directly contributed to my son's they don’t think you should lose success in schoolandlife up to this over it, either. "point, and I would like to thank “them. * I considered sending each of phiets available and booths with @ variety of heaith related subjects. There will be free balloons and growth charts for children. Refreshments will be served, For more information, please call 801623-7622 @ Dear Miss Manners: Many teachers, doctors and coaches have coma screenings, pulmonary function checks, foot screenings. fat measurements and exercise counseling, computerized cancer risk program, and hearing checks There will be free health pam- A community health fair sponsored by Central Valley medical Center wili be held May 18 at 345 E. 500 North in Nephi from 9 a.m your young daughters still want to might want to suggest that your 1) flowers; 2) jewelry; 3) Chrysler Learning Center, girls chi, a graceful form of martial arts, * ‘ are seeing an increase in cancers, (Continued from Page B6) vas mysurgery; plumbing pipes Bung from the ceiling,” Marty Says. s MWe was already a believer, havg warded off his own burgeoning ‘arthritis with a macrobiotic dict at age 27. His policy of turing no tient away brought him many less cases. But it was an I1- ear-old standard poodle named inky who taught him “the potena! of miracle.” Pinky came to Smith Ridge ter chemotherapy and surgery ited to eradicate his lymph can- cer. He'd barely eaten in three ‘ ji Andersonin his 11th year. A 25-pound acrobat who took the stairs two at a time and soared over the sofa without touchingit, Snoopy tripped over nothing one spring day in 1994. The next day, he fel! downthe stairs. An X-ray dye study of Snoopy’s soft tissue revealed an inoperable tumor in his spinal cord. The specialist was sorry. There was nothing she could do What is an aging dog’s life worth? With one black ear and black eyes obscured by a shaggy white coat, Snoopy resembled a miniature sheep dog. 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