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Show a Tuesday, May 7, 1996 THE DAILY HERALD, Provo, Utsh — Page CS f+ - Weddings... Today’s newlyweds are older, more careful nuptials for "97 By JENNIFER WEINER Knight-Ridder Newspapers PHILADELPHIA — Forget — dereoees Romeo. Forget Juliet, too. ewe knew pretty early on that we wanted to be together, but it was. ‘Let's wait until we finish school and until we have good jobs,” Salladino said. They both dewy eyes and a feach school now, so the wait will Ryan C. Beagiey suggested for years: People getting “Megumi Yoshimura, daughter of Kenji and Takako Yoshimura of Beagiey, son of Grant R. and Evelyn C. Beagley of Spanish Fork, on Friday May 10 in the Bella Via #2 settled, more estab- tation became the norm. The aver- groomsis almost 27. Kim Williamson's marry in your early 20s was called Carver, She's 25, he’s 26.They've metas students at Cornell six years dresses. “These days, a bride’s married at 21, and people say, “Oh,that’s so nets full time, plus getting an er, whose name is also Susan. She “The Graduate.” “The Graduate’ was a signal moment,” Strauss said. “When Elaine (the young bride-to-be) walked awayfrom the altar, it was bridal fair on a recent Sunday “Women want to have careers. They want to wait until they’re more settled, more established, when they’ve worked and had some independence.” — Susan Williamson, age 30 been a couple forever — since they Bullock, ago. She's in medica! school; he’s young!"” said Williamson's moth- Reception Center, 519 N. Main St., Spanish Fork. B. Standing in the middle of a A reception honoring the cov- ple will follow from 7-9 p.m afternoon, amid samples of wedding cakes, ice sculptures, and services offering limo rides, disc jockeys, honeymooncruises, and all things matrimonial, they talk as if their marriage were a foregone conclusion, as if they always knew they'd be together.Asit is, they've lived together for two years, and they're now planning their wed- ding — for October 1997, when le be 26 and he'll be almost Whythe wait?It’s the economy, stupid. “We had to plan around financial aid, around when we could get time off,” Dragoun said. “We wanted to be fairly close to some financial stability, and knowing where we'd be,” Carver said. “We wanted to wait until we had the money.” And there were emotional issues. Carver's parents married at 21, divorced at 35. They’re both remarried,but their experience left Carver perhaps more cautious than he would have been. “I don’t want to make the same mistakes they made. ... They're noweach remarried happily, but why have to go around twice?” Money. Security. Stability. Ask any about-to-be-wed duo who have been a couple for any length of time why they didn’t get hitched sooner, and these are the answers you'll hear: “We wanted to wait until we both had jobs. We wanted to wait until I finished school. Until she finished school. Until we had our loans paid off. Until we could afford the kind of ceremony we lowa and Donna Hall Hall golden lowa and Donna Hall will celebrate their golden wedding anniversary at an open house host- ed by their children Saturday May 11 from 4-8 p.m. at Hall home, 192 N. 200 West, Pleasant Grove They were married May 15, - 1946, in the Manti LDS Temple. The have served in many positions in the LDS Churchincluding workers at the Provo Temple and } missionaries in Ohio andIndiana. lowa wasa teacher and loved and enjoyed his students. He ‘taught environmental education + during the summer for the State } Department and Alpine School | District at Clear Creek Camp. Donna has always been an “at ‘ home” mother and homemaker. wanted.” They love to travel and have Or, an emotional variation on “wailered” in Canada and all but seven of the 48 contiguous United the financial theme: “My parents married young, then got divorced.I didn’t wantthat to happen to me.” States. nts of seven ker, Lindon; Karen Moffett and Bob Salladi- no, both 24, also have been togeth- Connie Rammell, Magna; Cather- er for six years, and also are plan- ine Zobell, Riverton; Caryn Curtis, West Valley; Collette Bunce, “I've seen couples marry at & very mature age, and the marriage doesn’t last,” ‘said Rabbi Bernard Bureau demographic statistician Solis Frank of Temple Beth Torah. who wrote the reporton marnage “There's an upside and a down-” side,” said the Rev. Joseph Mariro, who directs the Family Life Office for the Archdiocese of Philadelphia. “Yes, they're more mature, many have worked, they're not as naive about the responsibilities of running a house. On the downside. it’s like marrying two bachelors. They're very independent. they have their own TVs, their own stereos, their own bank accounts, andit’s a real challenge for a couplelike that to come together.” “It's more acceptable now for peo- partnership? Maybe, say some ofthe clergy members who counsel prospective was a bride at 21. So were all her friends. But times have changed. “Women wantto feel comfortable that if they ever had to be on their own, they can manage.” she said. “We never see a 21-year-old bride anymore,” said Pattie Winkler, the bridal buyer at Suky Rosan. “We send ‘em home!” Winkler said the average age of brides at the upscale Philadelphia shopis in the 28-to-32 range. “Our brides are professionals. They've been out on their own. They've had careers, they've traveled, they've gotten their college degrees and maybe a master’s, and they've known their fiances for seven or eight years.” “In general, it’s still happening later in life.” said Sam Preston, a University of Pennsylvania demographer. Preston did a study of college-educated women’s marriage patterns from 1972 to 1986 and found that, while female college graduates were marrying faster than they had in the 1970s, most were marrying in their midto late-20s. Why? Those who study social trends offer many of the same answers as the men and women who were eyeing tuxedoes and gilded birdcage centerpieces: Money matters. William Strauss, author of “Generations” and “13th Gen Abort, Retry, Ignore, Fail?,”” said this isn’t the first era in which couples have married later. In the 1890s, the first year the census started keeping track, the median age of a first-time bridegroom was 26, and the median age “Top OF OF thevir Line” fo the end of an era, the end of the expectation that you'd date, then go steady, then get pinned, then get engaged, then get married.” The median age of a spouse in a first marriage rose through the "60s, the "70s, and the "80s. Then came the "90s. The recession hit. And that, Strauss said, was truly the bottom line for the so-called 13th generation, who are in their 20s now. “Marriage does not make the same economic sense it used to, especially for women,” Strauss said, “A woman doesn’t need a man to get her out of the house.” And, because of what Strauss says are the sharply declining economic futures of men born in the 1960s and 1970s, getting her out of that house might not even be a possibility. “Single 13th-generation men expandability with designs ¢ Available PC hookup Now Only *2699 ~loe * Automatic thread tension adjustment * Built in rolled hems * Exciusive swing out presser foot. om °1099 BERNETTE 007D “Our Best Seller” are MUST SEE TO BELIEVE have the lowest per-capita income than the nation as a whole experienced in the first three years ofthe Great Depression,” Strauss said. “Single males in particular are just not doing well — they're in a niche depression. Teli that to 27.7-year-old Alyssa Fein. “T havea lot offriends who are Waiting...a lot ofbright,intelligent. attractive women who haven't found anyone yet,” she said. “There's a real fear of commitmentout there.” Which maybe because some of the would-be committers are still living with Mom and Dad. According to Strauss, there are more single men living at home — thatis, with their parents — than at any © 62 built-in multi-colcred deand decorative motifs * Easy to follow on screen instructions Now oe Only $1599 ¢ 4/3/2 thread * Built-in roll hems © Self threading lower looper. Now Only ‘799 BERNETTE 006D “Economy Model" a Secretarial work undergoing changes Mapleton; Charlene Hales, Fountain Green; and John Hall, Orem. They have 22 grandchildren and seven great-grandchildren. Knight-Ridder Newspapers trip to the fast track if you get an of corporate downsizing have been posting. U.S.-based exaggerated by recent press Cyber-secretaries: Forget take- overseas multinational corporations are cut- The Daily Herald wedding policy a-letter. With e-mail and voice mail the norm in many offices and downsizing continuing at many firms, secretarial work has undergone a metamorphosis, These days secretaries are likely to be found preparing database and spreadsheet reports, authoring correspondence, managing schedules and designing newsletters, says Professional Secretaries International. Wedding announcements received at the newspaper later than one week prior to the publication date w'iit|be accepted only on the following terms: Late announcements accompanied by a photograph will be acepted andheld for publication fer the event. Expatriate ex-privileges: Don’t expect an all-expenses-paid Late announcements not accom- paniedbya photowill be accepted for possible publication before the event ona space-available basis. Information must be typed or printed on a formavailable at The Daily Herald. The traditional $8 fee for processing a photograph remains. Eq ual ight Bulbs ia { executives, says Leon Potgieter, of the Towers Perrin international consulting firm. “They have wok- en up to the fact that there is often no business value to these lavish allowances,” Potgieter says. Overstating downsizing? Gei ready for a hot debate. A White House study to be released at the end of this month suggests that. overall, the harmful consequences Delivering a warning: Could the Postal Service go the way of the Pony Express? Well, although it posted a record $1.8. bdillion profit in 1995, Postmaster General Marvin Runyon says that mail volume declined slightly in the first quarter of this year and that the growing popularity of electronic communications could pose a threat to the future ofthe mail. ‘Utah Go. Favorite Holiday Craft Show! angel up to 15 Times Longer Than Ordinary Light Bulbs. 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Early marriages were viable back then, Strauss says, because jobs were available, and the living was easy. “In the 1950s, pockets, innocence Soot youth. and end soon. They've already been ple in their 20s to be living togethevery stereotype of — and engaged for a year er, or living alone, or sull living screen that fills head when “By waiting so long, we were with their parents. There's nothing able to save. That was a big fac- people in their 20s did spectacular- surprising about this trend. We've tor,” Moffett said ly well, and a one-wage household been following it for years,” she of the ‘90s who are, on average, Susan Williamson, a 30-year- could get along just fine.” older, more experienced, and old who was trying on wedding Then the world began to said.And is it a good trend? Does Seemingly a lot more careful than gowns at Suky Rosan’s, also wait- change. Moder feminism was older necessarily equal more any generation before them. born. The Pill came out in 1962 mature, more equipped. more Recent census data confirm “Women want te have careers,” Legal abortion followed, just over what conventional wisdom has she zaid. “They want to wait until a decade later. Sexual experimen- capable of embarking on a lifelong Megumi Yoshimura _ of a first-time bride was about 22. time since the Great Depression “Alternative living arrangeThen the age started dropping through the first half of the centu- ments have gained acceptance,” 4 © Swiss quality engineering at affordable prices «* Solid, durable * Consistent stitch quality. o $ 369 BERNINA 1080 * 4/3 thread ¢ Snap-on presser ae © Built-in ‘SRO 599 Bernette 134 D |