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Show Lifestyle ~The Dally Herald Race to benefit many local charities Time doesn ‘t matter when confronting abuse Dear Ann Landers: | am writing to help others heal from the effects of being touched inappropriately. 1 know a lot about the subject — firsthand. When I was about 11 years of age, a relative who was five years older asked me if he could scratch my back. I had younger brothers whowould often play “Whatletter am | writing on your back?” so I never thought twice about the offer. After some playful laughter, he touched more than my back. I was so ashamed, I never told anyone, but I never could putit out of my mind.A year ago,I wrote that relative telling him what I remembered and confronting him about By JANET HART Daily Herald Lifestyle Editor andthathe,in fact, had done it. Normally, Warunya Garrard is a T am a retired dentist. Many years ago, | had a patient who needed several wisdom teeth extracted. He asked, “As long as quiet person — going about her job at Nu Skin International with little to say but always a smile. Butget her involved in a charity and Garrard starts talking. And this year, the Provo woman is talking about The Human Race. “I enjoy doing charity work because...my grandma always taught us to share what we had,” Ann Landers said Garrard. “It doesn’t matter how rich or poor you are, someday you'll need help from somebody. You can never say you won't need help.” Advice Columnist Set for Saturday beginning at 8 am., The Human Race is designed to bring participants together to walk,run,roll orstroll for any local charity they wish to raise funds for. People can choose from a list of charities, which now numbers more than 30, or they can designate the pledges they raise for any charity in the county. Some ofthe charities on the list include Alpine House, Gathering Place, Center for Womenand Children in Crisis, Habitat for Humanity, Pregnancy Resource Center, Project Read and Utah Legal Ser- the repercussions I have suffered I'm out, wouldit be all right if a since. He phoned meseveral nights later andinsisted that I had been the surgeon did a circumcision at the same time?” Of course, the sur- told my fimily, they believed his denial and insisted | had made up the story because my blood sugar wasoff. (I am a diabetic.) Please tell your readers, Ann, that for the best results, one should not try to do too many things at once. — Longtime Follower in Memphis Dear Memphis: How right you are. People who try to do too manythings at once invariably end up doing some things over. aggressor. What's worse, when I geon refused. 1 am now in graduate school and a candidate for a medical fellowship. I hope to help women whohave been sexually abused. I am now getting counseling and beginningto heal because finally realize I did nothing wrong. Mymessageto your readers is this: Don’t keepit locked inside, as I did. Confrontit, and get it out in the open, even if nobody believes you. Eventuallythe truth will triumph and set you free. — Philadelphia Dear Philadelphia: I want to thank you for urging readers who have been sexually abused to speak out. It doesn’t matter how long ago the abuse took place. It is extremely important thatyoutell someone. And don’t be secretive aboutit. The perpe- trator deserves to be exposed, and telling the story will help youheal. Dear Ann Landers:| read with interest your column about the woman who was having facelift done and wondered if she could have a hysterectomy and some varicose veins removed at the same time. The doctor you consulted said it was indeed possible from the first over Local officials and residents attend the opening of a ties on the list to in Provo earlier this Human Race, set for Saturday at 8 a.m. at Noveil’s Habitat for Humanity year. Habitat for Humanity in one of the local chari- Orem campus. —_ thons, ride-a-thons and jazzercize a T-shirt while $75 in donations events,” said Linda Linfield, equals a sweatshirt. vices. senior manager of Novell's comGarrard said once when she was Garrard hasn't collected on all munity relations. participating in another charity of the pledges she’s gotten from “The Human Race is a single event, she had a man tell her he friends, colleagues and neighbors, event through which the company didn’t have any money to conThe Daily Heraid’s policy but when she does, she expects can assist all the charities our tribute. She suggested he quit is to run birthday an: ouncethe final number to be around employees believe to be important, ments for anyone tur ing 80, smoking for a day and give the $1,600. organizations that we might not money he would haveused for cig85, 90, 95 and 100 or above. While some people have point- otherwise be able to assist,” she Pictures may be 5 \>mitted arettes to her. ed out which charity they'd like added. with the information jor birth“This year, he gave me the their money to go to, most have Laid out on a course at Novell's money for quitting two days,” days 90 and above. just wanted to knowit will go to a Orem Campus, 1555 N. TechnoloThe information and picGarrard said. “You can’t help good cause, Garrard said. gy Way,the race takes participants ture, if applicable, must be The first fundraiser of its kind on a SK trail around the facility. everyone that comes along but turned into the Herald office once in a while you can spare a in Utah, The Human Race is sup- The course is wheelchair accessi: one week prior to the desired ported by several businesses ble and participants are encour- dollar or two and it won't hurt publication date. throughout the valley including aged to bring family members and your budget.” Information must be writThe Human Race official Novell, Nu Skin, The Daily Herald friends. ten or typed on a form availRegistration for the event pledge forms can be picked up and the United Way Volunteer able at the Herald office. begins at 8 a.m. with the race start- from participating employers orat Center. Center, “Novell gets countless calls ing at 9 a.m. Pledge forms and the United Way Vol from worthy organizations that donations should be turned in at 148 N. 100 West, Provo. For more would like us to participate in the time of registration. Anyone inf ion, call the i fundraising walk-a-thons, jog-a- with $35 in donations will receive center at 374-8108. Notimeis saved, and the results are often unsatisfactory, Dear Ann Landers: This may seem petty, but | am married to one of the most insensitive slobs around. The thing that bugs me more than anything is his lack of appreciation. T havea job that pays well, and I pick up the bills for more than half of the household expenses. I'm a good cook and try hard to prepare meals my husband will enjoy. I keep hoping thatI will live long enough to hear him say, “Honey, this dinneris delicious.” The big oaf loads up his plate and takes second helpings but never says a word. I amgetting to the point that I just want to open a can of beans and forgetit. Any advice? — Wife of Mr. Lockjaw in NJ. Dear Mrs. Lockjaw: Tonight whenyour husband comes home for dinner, serve him a can of beans, and place this column nextto it. That should doit. birthday policy by Cathy Guisewite Horoscope. WEIGHT DOESN'T MATTER. FACES DON'T MATTER. For May 8 ARIES(March 21-April 19); Be alert to new employment opportunities. Those with ch skills will get first choice. A candid ncial talk with yourassociates will clear way for a compromise. TAURUS (April 20-May 20): Redefine your long-termcareer or business goals. Then seek the cooperation of all involved. Your Vivacious personality helps you sell others on your ideas and projects 3EMINI (May 21-June 20): A fresh out 18 find the solution to a ‘o-workers want tojoin wiring a secret with your mate partner will give you new sakes Ea [AW TWAT MATTERS IS GETING To KNOW A REAL. 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