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Show 6E Sunday, May 24, 1992 HORIZONS Standard-Examiner Successful aging can be achieved Q. You write often about “successful aging.” Is there anyone who In Your Prime is studying how to age successfully, and what are they learning? A. Dr. Adrian Ostfeld of Yale Medical School in New Haven, Conn., is conducting one of the more than 100 continuing studies into aging that take place every day in this country. In the academic and research world, aging is hot — meaning, there is grant money to be had. Meanwhile, Ostfeld, an epi- demiologist and public health speCialist, reports that his investigations give him cause to be reasonably optimistic. Specifically, he states we have much more control over how we age than was previously thought. The professor, who is 60 and has been tracking some 2,800 men and AUGUSTMILLER/Standard-Examiner know whatI'm thinking or feelin until | put it down.It's not only a full of all kinds of emotions, but embarrassment was not one of them.” She became more protective, she says, and filled with “that terrible yearning: Just, please, let it be OK for her.” ‘I'd get a pass (during oneStay at LDSHospital) and go downtothe snack shop and get malts, drink them, and then throw up,” Markosian writes. “Sometimes I'd see some pre-med students I knew and I'd want to disappear. Morethan just embarrassed, I felt scorned because of my looks. I totally hated myself, and since I had no way of understanding what my problem was, I felt all alone. I think I knew sick, but I couldn't see past As time went on, Markosian seemed to lift herself out of her depression a bit. But, ironically, her mother notes, as she gained some ‘sense of wanting herself back,” her purging increased. She began to consume more and morelaxatives — most often shoplifted — to keep her weight down. Thinking that recovery might be isier away from her slender sisrs, Markosian moved into a me-living center on the Univerty of Utah campus. She soon ropped out, overcome with fail- EEESEE dinner — pot roast, carrots, potatoes, even gravy — had disappeared. I found Becky curled up on her bed with hersleeping bag over her, buried in oblivion. I couldn't stand it. The waste! Theincredible flushing down the toilet of herself — andall that food! And the medicine! Any effort, angry or gentle, to rouse Becky out of the repetitive misery that was burying us all was purefutility.” _ Slowly, as the medicine worked its wonders under her mom’s close supervision, she began to recover. During theearly days of Becky’s hospitalizations, Paul Markosian, whomshe had met in Seattle, had been one ofthe few people able to reach her. Now, her friendship with, and her reliance upon, Paul continued. Sull, her health problems weren't over. The consistent purging had given her a “gray look,” her mom remembers. Her teeth needed constant care, her menstrual periods had stopped, and she had one kidney infection after another. At the time, Thayne had written in her journal, “Hurting has becomeso habitual that it’s like hair or skin — simply there. I can't re- and movedback hometo fill member right now not hurting. And r hours with sleeping, eating and so it gets ignored at surfacelevels — swathed in conversations, other thinking — till time to sleep How must it be for her?” By mid-1973, Becky’s depression had lessened, but the purging continued. She and Paul werestill dating. urging Iremember ontement to myself ine nigni it I really hadn't rd the sound of the toilet flush- ver and over again downfairs,” Thayne writes. The next rning, as I started making eakfast I found that all the bread toast was gone. The cookie jar is empty. All the leftovers in the frigerator that I had savedfor approached her and asked, “Why do you have to be the one to expose this about our family?” She answered, “Because feel it’s really important.’ There’s stigma involved, but that’s what we're trying catharsis, it’s a clarification. — Emma Lou Thayne — Markosian often asked, “Mom, weren't you embarrassed by me?” Thayne remembers her response: “I was scared and desperate and thing to reveal. It took a lot to get out of that and think, ‘It’s OK to do this.’ ” Markosian recalls that a cousin At one point, Paul broke it off, saying he couldn't copewith the illness. Before long, he was back and within days Becky and Paul were to fight against.” rnarried. “I had been so sick for so long that it almost seemed like someone else they were talking to (at the wedding). I didn't feel right getting all that positive attention. It would be a long timebefore I would feel comfortable with myself. ... Not only was this the beginning of Paul’s and my life together, it was also the beginning of my becoming a person on my own. At this point, I was free to discover the world in a whole new way It would still be several months before Markosian abandoned the purgingaltogether. But the pair settled into a lifestyle where she found a balance. Today, as a mother of three sons, anartist of stained glass and a real estate agent, Markosian controls her still-slim figure with exercise and a healthydiet. Twenty years after her illness, she continues to take lithium to keep the demons at bay. And as they look back, she and her mother are unsure in what order the diseases took over. “For a manic depressive person,” says Thayne, “the disease can start as early as 13. The res of judgment andsenseof reality had toplay a part in this inordinate diet.” They now know manic depression has its base in heredity, and Thayne shakes her head and wonders, “If we had known there was this proclivity, what a difference would it have made in Becky’s life? Think of the pain that could have been eliminated.” Thayne considers her daughter’s decision to tell her story a brave one Markosian agrees. “I had nights where I would think, ‘What if The book, both agree, has been cathartic. The process of cleansing emotion through writing is a process familiar to Thayne — as a poet, “I sometimesthink I don’t knowwhat I'm thinking or feeling until I put it down. It’s not onlya catharsis, it’s a clarification.” Throughout the grow old. Dr. Ostfeld’s three tips, or injunctions, are not surprising — “Quit smoking, drink moderately, if at all, and eat a low-fat diet.” What else has he learned from his research? To begin, there is the fascinating man vs. woman challenge and why the female outlives her partner by an average of seven-plus years. And, why do widow- ers die three times more frequently than widows? According to the epidemiologist, only one of the reasons women predominate is biological. The estrogen in women’s bodies enhances the production of HDL, the so-called good cholesterol. Therefore, women have less heart dis- ease. “The other factors are that From 1E ularly warm or wiseor likAt the same time, giving credit ere it’s due, Buchanan has never fered himself, publicly, at least, sex object. He has not made rkout tapes, he has not been n running around with women er than his wife. His idea of sexmatters 1s profoundly Catholic, 4 while you may not like that, he And so the only reason that exists to showthe man in his underwear on the cover ofa national magazine is to embarrass him. Not for his politics — it is unrelated to that — but for his middle age. 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PRIME NOTES: More good news about aging from University of California researcher Dr. Marion Diamond, 65: “The analogy between exercising your muscles and your brain is perfect. New people, new things to learn, new experiences, all exercise the mind and make the myths we have about chronological aging irrelevant.”... Further, Stanford University researcher Danielle Lapp suggests that mental exercises should have variety - Bard Lindeman welcomesquestions from readers. Write to him in care of this newspaper, P.O. Box 119, Orlando, FL 32802-0119. her journal reveal her emotions poignantly. But as well as purification, catharsis implies abandonment, a moving on. That, say Thayne and Markosian, is the case here. “The price for realism has been high,” Thayne writes. “The years of Becky’s illness were years to be understood, accepted, forgiven — and put behind us. We both need to move on.” So, there will be no lectures, no private advice, no seminars. The book is their podium. in 1983, a freak aute accident sent Thayne to the hospital. In the darkened X-ray room, she looked up to see Markosian, now strong and stable these 10 years after her ordeal, in the light of the doorway. Her shining outline reminded Thayne of one of Markosian’s stained glass creations. “She was ... @ presence, a reassur- ance, with the fragility of glass, connections of lead, backed by the strength of structural supportto last Jorever. She was the brawn earth, ‘ the greentree, the blue sky, the gray | SALE 99 and white clouds. She was life. “The configurations of light will change. Always. But Becky's view and mine will be broader and kin- § Outer Limits® Perm Reg. $60 Take your hair to its soft, healthy, curlylimit Includes shampoo, haircut and der, full of understanding for having Style. Long hair and design wraps extra found healing — and hope.” Sale price effective through ‘ , Saturday, May 30. 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His son and sons-in-law, he added.” In summary, the Yale researcher Hope As the mother and daughter were writing “Hope and Recovery” — the book is presented chronologically with Markosian and her mother alternatelytelling the story roles are changing and Ostfeld is hopeful that men can relax and put in the other 25 percent, and here’s the good news: Their diseases primarily are not hereditary. So, it comes down to this, says the professor: “It’s how you live your life” that is going to determine howwell or successfully you vorite cigars, cut way down on meat (“I’m a quasi-vegetarian”) and drinks next to no alcohol. ‘| sometimes think | don't Again, the investigator found a reason to be encouraged. Gender was. “I think a man can learn the importance of taking better care of He has re-examined his own life and, as a result, sworn off his fa- thinks poorly of me: Becky has a mental! illness.” It’s a really severe women ask for help more readily than men,” said Dr. Ostfeld. 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