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Show F2 TheSalt Lake Tribune JANET & JUDY Sunday, November21, 1999 Memories Light the Corners ofMy Mind THEY NEED YOUR HELP Opportunities to do a good deed JUDY MAGID “T used that spray and drip stuff you ~ Probablythat is because the first pever had used it. But hey,it works for ’s celebration remains blurry. | do member it was among the worst meals It did not work for me. There were (Sever cooked — overdonebird,instant streaksontheplain crystals; the ropes looked dingy. I wound uppolishing each crystal and remembering all the good etuffing, canned cranberries and yams, S&tore-bought graham-crackercrusts and times and the bad. tant whipped cream. fO- I blamed mylackofinterest on the fact ffpr it none ofthe children planned to come dinner. My parents were charming, ith my father proclaiming he loved veTopstuffing. However, when a laughter stopped by en route to another and presumably better Thanksgiving dinner, she politely refused an insipid but Howcould forget? I found the chandelier in an antique shop in New Orleans. It called to me from a thousandsparkling facets of cut crystal. MUSINGS Thadto haveit. Inall the years it hung overthe dining-roomtablein the old house, I am the only person who ever cleaned it. There were times I began the low-fat brownie. I could nct blameher.Of course, the taste, or lack thereof, did not stop me am happyto have them.Naturally, I want to have everythingperfect. And asI started writing a list of things todo — Turkey! (underlined), fresh cranberries, sweet potatoes, evaporated milk! (underlined) — | glanced up at the chan- delier. [ remembered oneof myfriend’s love wasatthetable.It also wasnice hav- put it on myto-dolist. But it takes hours ing other people bring a pie and cranberries and salad and real gravy. This year my sonand his wife, three horses, two dogs andfive kittens are en route to their new home; one of my daughters and her husband will have dinner with their other family. Two of my daughters, their grandparents and friends wil! have dinner at myhouse. ! to clean, dipping each crystal in an ammonia-waier potion. And you have to doit in the daytimebecause it is the only light in the dining roomand. . . . With it on my mind, i could not help but notice that my parents’ chandelier was shiny bright when I went outtovisit. hands. “Whodid your chandelier, Dad?”I asked. daughters told the real-estate people. rules for a company-perfect house: @ Makesurethe kitchen telephone is Theonly time anyoneelse fussed with clean. @ Washthebackofthe bathroom door. § Clean the chandelier. Gingerly, I ran my finger around the that chandelier was when my daughter, the Designated Descendant to Move Mom,dressed it with the crystals at the new house, “Thave someextras here, Mom,” she inside ofoneof the candlecups in the chandelier. Whatdid I expect? I am not sureI cleaned it thoroughlylast spring. I Paradise Found Paradise Lost sandwich and bounded toward my son through the muck underthe jumper. My ing and spreading the goo, all the while happily bolting down the sandwich and a happy and interested in something other than ouriminediate attention. Weeventurned on thetelevision and JANET KONTTINEN diaper. It was running down herleg into a heap on the carpet, and she was happily hopping up and downin it. My husband grabbed her, leaving his lunch undefended, and carrying herlike a bundle of nuclear waste, shouted that he wasgoing to jumpinto the showerwith her. bby the high-pitched squealof our naked son. He jumped upfrom his potty chair, His eyes moved slowly aroundthecess- pool we'd once knownas our living room. With the soundofthe dog gagging on the whole pickle in the background, he gazed turned around and cameface-to-face with the top of the lunchplate, He stood up sorrowfully at his overturned lunch with the open sandwich stuckto his stomach,then stumbled and kicked over a raisin-size trophy in thelittle plastic bowl. In responsetohis out-of-body expe } rience, he gavea fewkaratekicks, } jumped back on his chairand, again, an plate. His face reflected a heartache so great, I feared he might stop breathing. After a few silent moments, trying to salvage something ofhis great day, he the soda. Thegirl | was holding pressed a buttonon the camera that madethe tape rewind. When lookedup, our third daughter had wormed her way over to the potty-chair bowl and wastrying to coordinate her fingers to pick up a morsel. Enter the dog. The dog liked what he saw andquickly surveyed his arena of opportunity. He decided togo for the {otherraisin.| I picked up one ofthe girls who was in | the path ofhis victory dance, grabbed the | video cameraandstartedfilming. As I omed in on another daughter who was in oneof those Johnny Jumpers we had family and friends; helpers needed Dec. 3 and 4 at the store. tank, Christmasitems, journals and quiltsfor twin Alta Care Center: Assist with recreational activ. ities such as bingo, crafts and cooking Boneand partilpate in the Adopt#-Grandparentra Best Fi ‘withpet Psatfone Nocienites ek afobvee ete throughout the year. Fold Candy Boxes: Sale of candy benefits people with dsabiitis. Tapestry of Polygamy: Part-time office assistant needed to assist attorney with research,filings, case preparation and management. ‘Salt Lake Art Docent Program: As: Janet Konttinen is the motherofa son, sist with gallery tours Salt Lake Interfaith with homeless populations. projects for Nacional ‘Ausheimerselieeeepoet abl the annual gal servicesto low-incomeclien -A-Native Elder PeoniYelp in humanitarianefforts to support Navajoelders tod chibieen inn Che Salt Lake Tribune ippy Raisers: Train dogs to provide assistance for individuals with disabilities other than blindness. Tutors: Rosamond Elementary in Riverton needstutors oneto two hou Program:Assist lecsinaiy i a me HA RDLY ANYTHING IS NONEOF THEIR BUSINESS families by providing companionship and helping withmiscellaneous needs. Lake City Work the information foto Gareacy beer ee patrons and answer questions; Human Resources Department also in need of volunteers Lovers: Wasatch Humaneneeds mature volunteers to help withpet adoptions and asshort term foster homes for dogs Musical Skills: Volunteer Deeded to lead a sing along groupfor nursing-home residents. Minimum commitmentof 30-30 minutes two to four times per Tribune Business Section Editor Lisa Carricaburu & Staff 257-8710 Disco ca FIXED “Mo gala. Logal ‘Aide: Help staff attorneys in providing le- Leave that to our 2002 Winter Games Reporters Mike Gorrell, Linda Fantin and Christopher Smith 1135* Acres UNEQUALED Anywaere In Montana! Network: Work Utah AIDS Foundation: A variety of volunteer positions open; most urgently needed are AIDShotline volunteers. Utah Help with special DON’T BE SCANDALIZED ABSOLUTE AUCTION ‘Council: Volunteers 18 or with holiday assistance pro- center through Dec. 4and at the gift distribution center Dec.16-23. Primary Children's Medical Center: Help needed for “esashop and information desk. : Personal shopping/laundry carts refor seniors. needed for light typing,filing; legal assistant also 6, andtriplet daughters, 4. You can reach her at notes2Janet@yahoo.com. v4 ct Beauticlans Needed: Riverside Adult Day Center needs beauticlans one day per week, approximately four hours at a time ga Lowest Interest rate ‘& closing costs tés Professional, Personi alized Service tee FHA & VARates also available es Please Call, Compare, and Save! 801-261 -4848 www.discountmortg.com RRA Be) The} Center + 18-Hole Golf Course * Country Club * Mountain Lodge * Resort Facilities * Conference Center * Commercial Mercantile Center Or Your Own PrivaTe Estate RANCH 2 Laspmancs i Historic Downtowns Borrr Prreererrrcisy Hirbour Tower, Montana’ First Skyscraper * Demolay Building, 4-Story Landmark Suitable for SpaciousStudion & Oifices Seuunc Recarouess OF Price! No Mawaums + No Reserves Brochure: 1-800-650-8973or (256) 547-3434 THE NATIONAL AUCTION GROUP, INC, 1419 Rainbow Dr.» Gadsden, At 359 Peers ieneperry a \t- Youth: Tutor youth age¢"%-9. ‘There are varioussites, days and times available! to brospectly ayane sitters. Readers: Utah Counc forthe Blind needs hu ers, transporters, guides and partners for pequp activities. «| Senior Volunteers Wanted: Salt Lake Coypty AgingServices is recruiting low-incomesenibgg to work with children or seniors; reimbursement and other benefits provided. Utah Division of Wildlife Resources: Hi ielp spi the aanas with information and educating the luman Rights Committee: Help disabled étdiMilaniwily enpbsenOF being part ofa coparpit{eo that meets fourtimes per year. Knowledge fia issues, abuse and advocacy ef Utah State Parke. Help in the office with ke search, updating the database and general qe vated Volunteers: Retirees experienced management and oreaneaticn are needed to rect and Peas services for the a iors & Providers: Vi over 16 nato tutor Englishorprovide cad ite daysorevenings. American Women ages: 44 ‘hej needed to teach groups about breast cancer or he}i 35 in the Road to Recoveryprogram by providing a portation to doctor appointments Fund program for abused childréy in Davis County needs participants on the “Friégds Board,” which meets monthly to plan for ‘nd raising. Artists, Musicians, Readers: Provide rehal tion through creative-arts therapy for people io ering from acidens,ilneses and disabilities ist terminally ill by, viding companionship and helping with art, ufc, fardening and reading. Marketing and oficesuggpri Community Services: A variety of portunities including grocery delivery, office Wa mentoring andsorting clothes iwhethe Sh Share Hoos Instructors Helpers: The American *1 Cross is ooking1 for instructors nd classroom bi ers for Cl Tutor: tapteteach ae and job-searcp} skills to refugees, many of whom speak French, manoy and en days aa ee flexible. atrisk parents. id amneteond orearaim Mustbe it or older, 'fithe- month commitmentand Spanish entehelp Court Advocate: Work with childrer with Court Appointed Special Advocate (CAA\ program. Advocate: Assist victims of crime. references, referrals and direct assistance; pro : Those 85 and older needed to help i toring and service to homebound elderly. Alps signments in museums, libraries, hospitals ad more. ° Swim With Seniors: Partners needed to ‘sf with senor ctizens as part of a physicalthecd regimenat the YWCA. Feed the p The Salvation Army nee sandwiches made to feed the hungry. Food Sorters: Sort food fortheUtah Food Education: ESL tutors Tuesday, Ween dayor eth evenings,709; no foreign-langul skills required crisis intervention. 7° FINANCIALCENTER o cn yy Bee center cus 943-1999 County Approved for 43) Residential Homesites * : Volunteers nected if pee‘is at artmentoring program for itfer city yout Vy caeee and Residential Mortgages * APARTMENTS * * % * st) iA OFFICE/WAREHOUSE STORAGEUNITS CONSTRUCTION LINES SINGLE USE BUILDINGS Funding The American Dream “* Srrmuime Camron Rance Shelter: Assist Girl and Boy Soontth abs8, Pay 5 (iMohan ASSOCIATED MORTGAGEi Currently Features Ski Slopes * Cabin * Chalet * Ranch Office * Pavilion Utah Legal Services: Perform initial iRent interviews. Fa for 1,200 foster children who wanttogive gifis to 's Shelter: Help with landscapBattered ingindiabs businesses and groups welcome. asked, “Have they showed the part where Tarzan wrestles the crocodile’ Coalition Against Sexual Assantt: yolk. ennee needed to perform various office duties, * | * rs/Education Supplies; Homeless Chil Children’s Foundation needs helpers to work with children in the classroom mornings 4nd afternoons; also needs schoolsupplies, Ue ind Taba wipes. Heritage Park: Assist wittratane Retae inventory and other worl at the s gramsatthe registration agedto zip her into a jumpsuit backward. With raisin No. 3 to celebrate. our son did a Supermandiveoffthe couch onto Golden Gi Senior Harti: Nestea ieee play in bands that visit ato ng homesthroughoutthevalley. Homeless Shelter School: Provide one‘anéne Hospita!for the Life Link blood collection/research program;training provided. Victim Assistance Program: Assist Midvale Police Department with supporting and providing services to victims ofviotent crimes; training provided. Book Donation: Bennion Elementary needs books and tutors, Christmas Store: Donationsof gift items needed Community older needed to assist Enter the husband.He had finished showering with our daughter and man- teers to visit seniors at their homes ae help, balance checkbook Set arsad bills and read thei ica Reads” pm needs tutors forracrisk at. youtharades Kt-6, three to ve hours a era ing Seey One-on-one tutors age 45 orolder nesiled fe a , writing, spelling or math, four.to, fve hours a weck with children during the school spy: training provided. : Help with day-to-day opersti¢ns including student support, correcting exams &h8ipd: ministrativetasks. Fates * Senior Volunteers: Various opportunities avallable for seniors including public/community rela. tions, school presentations, fund raising, planting, volunteer eorabos reading tutoring, crimeprevention assistance, elder assistance, food pantry “This is a great day.” networks and providing encouragement and Ombudsman Needed: Advocale needed for rbsidents in nursing homes; 90 hours of training Vill provide volunteers with state certification, ?\ Lab: The Sorenson Multi-Cultyfal Center needs help monitoring children and adults at computestations; training provided Division of Youth Services: Tutors need&@ to ork witharlek youth apes 12aflehelp Teged for youth early.intervention program. Sait Lake Counnty leeds gna give music lessons to children omen organize books for children’s center. tion ramesorWorkers: Provide services to cnlurenko mot helpTraining provided. I tossed down the rewinding camera, and with my free hand removed the bowl chips andpickle. He too was thinking, with their search for jobs, he mesa e for low-incomeseniorcitizens. a VISTA Volunteer; Westminster and Wasatch Youth Center: Help tutor, organize 4-H projects anddevelop a Christmas program for youths at the center. Donation items needed: 20-galion fish mydaughter's hand. Then I pulled the dog’s legs out of the jumper andinstructed hini to hurry and clean up the suspended from a beamintheceiling, I noticed that she had made a messin her and Community to work from home by phone assi tutoring. rattle attached to the jumper’sstrap. Enterthe neighbor(she never knocks). Sheleft. from thepotty chair andits contents from Peayied Council: Contact the Volunteer Center tofind out whatvolunteerprograins are available for the ee istmas ma. wienten reportBontoring financial contributions to elected official waltzed around onhis hindlegs, smash- Secondslater the calm wasshattered xo dustice Center: Transcriptionist Reads Program: Books are needled to be givenchildren to KS attending M. Lynn Bennion Bleme The American Cancer Society: Seven volunteers needed to facilitate four-hour sessions at St. Mark's, use.Forthefirst time,all four kids were } necesfor’ renentel home for abused and neglected aHr Risk: Work to pro- threw it. It landed in the jumper. The dog followed it and got his front legs stuck in the leg openingsofthe jumper. He ring a giant weekend sandwich with everythingon it, chips, pickle and a big soda. He set his lunch on the carpet, lay downnextto it and proclaimed, “This is a great day.” Sunday from 7= ono fo ‘Avon. House: Receptionist and greeter motethe replacementof the Tooele Nerve GasIncinerator ee a safer alternative. Salt Lake County —— ‘uae Tutors i for at-risk youth grades UPNet, ae lericl assistance son screamed, detached the sandwich and husband sauntered outof the kitchen car- scurce refei SaltFake Lake Gonannniey College need VISTAsfor their sitions offer a living allowance Andthe memories. arts to Meals: Deliver Thanksgiving meals to families for the Salvation Army. ‘Chuck Wagon:Servemeals to the homeless every : Two fullor queen-size mattresses, tarae springs and frames in clean, excellent condition and thehall mirror,ofcourse,” my jonprofit organization tth and performing groups. American Red Cross: Donor cal assistants ‘Utah Winter Games: Assist with events andclinics taking place through Jan. 23. : Prov ‘idecaring foster home Mychildren would have noneofthat. “Our motheris taking the chandelier able Mondays through Trursiaye and Saturdays rom 5.m. to2p.m. Lake Chronic Pain second Monday ofevery month, 70D. CountyComplex,201 §.State St, Room 8 environmental projects, fund raising, crime preventon,fodpantry,reading and more Police Department: Victim-assistance eae help to support victims of violent crimes such as domestic abiuse, sexual assault and for cats and dogs, help with adoptions and other events, the piano touched rarely by human year’s ago whenourdaughters had just masteredsitting up. We pulled out our son's old baby contraptions andintroduced thegirls to the joys of independent bouncing and swiveling. At the same time. we presentedour son with a new potty chair, set it up in the living room and explainedthebasic idea about its wereableto follow an old Tarzan movie, so reminiscent ofourleisurely youth. All that was missing wasthe mother to unjgad the dishwasherandthe father to go outside andclean up after the dog. My Lincoln Elementary: Listen to children read and edit the stories they write. Senior Vohunieers: Seniors needed to help with AARP: Help seniors and low-income individuals to me nearly every timeI cleanit. Whenit cametime to movefrom the old house, I would have walked away from the chandelier andthe antique white mirrorthatfills a whole wall and orders and work in accessible to people with Hisabilities. prepare their taxes; Semitoor: is four hoursa week duringthe 10-week tax seasor said. I nodded. The same thing happens PARENTHOOD I'll neverforget oneafternoona few Manyof the volunteer opportunities child ies chore when I was annoyed or cross, but by the time the crystals cameto life, my spirits lifted. I have laughed aloud while cleaning it, and I havecried, butits steady beauty always has caimed and pleased me. from eating everything. “Tate three frozen brownies topped with whipped-cream-in-a-can,” I told an out-of-town daughter. “Just think how many you would have eaten if they were good,” she consoled. Hmm. The memory must beclearer than I thought. Last year wasbetter. Although we had to celebrate via telephone with my son and daughter-in-law, everyoneelsethat There are people in the community who need your help. They may be contacted by calling the Volunteer Center, Community Services Council, 978-2452, or visiting www. votustoestosearesorg. 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