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Show aeaybre The Salt Lake Tribune COMICS + TV * LANDERS * GENEALOG FRIDAY. FEBRL ARY 14, 1997 HOME & FAMILY JUDY MAGID Face It — Getting Into Shape Takes Longer Than Blink of an Eye If anyone notices that I funny faces as I drive down the street. I mean no offense. I am exercising the 57 muscles in my face Would I joke about something like that? Such irony. Along with other things my mothertold me — “Bat: children in Europeare starving. A smile brings people from a mile — was the warn ing: that ‘Someday your face will freeze like Like’ that” was a downturnedmouth, squinty-eyed response to green beans. The wrinkled-nose, pursed lipped reaction to creamed spinach would have been a seary face to be stuck with as well The warning never was far from my mind, Every time| did the “nyah-nyah nyah-nyah-nayh" routine and stuck out my tongue, I thought about going throughlife that way Ontheotherhand, learningtoraise a quizzical eyebrowwasa step towardsophistication. I practiced I didit so well and so often that the forehead wrinkle above my left eyebrow is more pronouncedthan the one abovetheright I also learned how to give “The Look.” During the years I droveasix passenger-plus, three-quarter-ton truck andpulledafour-horsetrailer, I wasable to fix my passengers to their seats witha slit-eyed stare in the rear view mirror. The horses were scared too On one particularly trying day, I noticed furrows between my eyebrows Lotions and Potions: | began to read magazine articles advising creams andpotions Avoid unattractive grimaces, eye. browraising, squinting and general face‘pulling Oh, no. Mom's early warnings were true A face could freeze like that Knight-Ridder Therapists’ Advice: Open Your Eyesto Intimacy awarenessof the lyrical obtuseness in singing Open your eyes and J'll kiss you, the husband-and-wife therapist team say kissing with your peepers in an open position is a big step toward establishing intimacyin a relationship. Theytell the storyof a recent interview. A young By ANCY MELICH THE ALT LAKE TRIBUNE male reporter, respondingto their wide-eyed sugges- Lennon and McCartneymay be partially responsi- ble. Close your eyes and I'll kiss you, tomorrowI'll miss you. Remember I'll alwaysbe true. The teen-age world believed that melodic promise, first made by the Beatles in 1963. Now, 34 years later, those impressionable teens are middle-aged tion, quickly countered, “But why would I want to look at the person I'm having sex with?” Precisely, say the therapists. Looking at your partner is not necessaryif sex, rather than intimacy, is the goal If you only knowhowtocopulate and procreate said Schnarch, ‘that alone means youknowabsolutely nothing about what sexuality can mean. Because of our neocortex, we are the only species capable of bemoaning, along with millionsof others, their hectic lives and lowlibido. human. Thericher the emotional development of an gists David Schnarch and Ruth Morehouse. With full individual, thericher the sex can be — at any age. Schnarch said human involvement in sex varies Open your eyes, say Coloradoclinical psycholo- having intimacy during sex. That is what makes us fromabsolutely superficial — wheretwo peopleare just triggering reflexes in each other's bodies — to the point of profound meaning. His research states that a profound, intimate connection is often experi encedfor thefirst time when partners arewell over 45, perhapsin their 60s or older. It certainly does not happenduring adolescence Intimate sex is, for most people, a ‘terrifying and utterly mysterious bus he said. “Intimacy during sex, doesn’t come naturally. It is a learned ability. In many marriages, both spouses remain forever unknown andunseen to each other in what is supposedto be the most intimate connection of their lives. Schnarchsaid the most important part of making lovehas little to do with skill and more with personal development. “The problemis, most people beli the way youhadsex at 17 is the way you are sup- See PASSION, Page D-4 I concentrated on being expression less. Does a porcelain doll have wrin kh at lasted a day. Life happens. It shows on our faces, whether we deserve it or not Keeping fit was a better idea. I be to walk on a treadmill andpedal a sta tionary bikea couple oftimes a week. I do squats against the wall in the morn ing after I walk with the dogs. I lean into a corner and do push-aways before taking a handful of vitamins with a glass ofjuice I often recall a conversation with a woman who competed in ballroom dancing contests into her late 70s I hadback trouble in my 50s and m doctor gave me exercises to do every morning. I still do them. By the time I'm through exercising all my body parts is almost noon I, too, have added to my exercise rou tine. A few weeks ago, I started lifting for upper-body strength. | amnot say ing that anything great is happening — when you work out with 2-pound weights, it takes a long time to see re sults, But I noticed maybe a small mus RIVER OF WORDS teacherPat Russell, who spearheaded the inaugural “River of Words" project in alt Lake Citylast year. Teachers recruit ed art, photography, creative-writing and environmental-science students for the project For three hours, students took work shopsin writing, sketching, painting, pho: tography, animal tracking, bird watching and plant life. Instructors led students outdoors and urged them to open their senses — to note the wind direction (northwest), the texture of the snow (fluffy) and the tracks of a tiny animal (meadowvole) A coyote walked through here this morning,” ecologist Bruce Thompson told Program Turns Natural World Into Classroom BY BRANDON GRIGGS The Salt Lake Tribune Brighton High students sketch their surroundings at Red Butte Garden. THE SALT LAKE TRIBUNE What would happen if you plucked high-school students from their class: rooms and brought them to a scenic out door setting to sketch, photograph and write about their surroundings? What would these teen-agers le about the natural world around them? schools to Red Butte Garden in the foot hills of Salt Lake City. There, students touchy-feely, But it appears to be work ing All you have to do is look at the faces hillsides and meeting in small workshops of the kids said Jordan High School teacher Brian Gentry, resting in the Red spent a day roaming the snow-covered that blendedecology andart Called River of Words, the program ar tional project launchedin 1995 by Moreimportant, what would they learn jg about themselves? Teachers got answers to these ques. an environmental group titled Interna tional Rivers Network with help from U.S. Poet Laureate Robert Hass, As an tions last week when they brought 100 students from Brighton and Jordan high educational experiment, it sounds a bit Butte Garden visitors center after the last student departed Some kids are already saying, ‘I want to come next year.’ They'd rather do this than come to my class. Gentry coordinated the event with Brighton High School creative-writing cle Well, Why Not? That's when the ad vertisement came for a face-exercise video tape. Who kr If exercise i good for the rest of body, why should the face be left out I called for information. “1 won't watch a video, but I will look at a book I saic It arrived about a week ago the Dynamic Muscl gram for Renewed Vitality a Youthful Appearance, by Carole Mag I cut to the chase Open your mouth and roll your low his group, pointing to fresh tracks on the snow’'s smooth white canvas. “This is the er lip in light over the lower teeth,” first time I've never had to go more than mouth to the back and keep them rolled 50 feet to find tracks from three different animals. Thompson led a dozen photography students to Red Butte ¢ where he urged them to disperse and » their own photo essay, Meanwhile. writer Brooke Williamsasked his group to read two poems anddiscuss how poets use nat ural objects like rocks and trees as sym bols A scientist would explainthis very dif ferently than a poet,” Williams told his students. “The point of this is that we could all take the same walk, come back See RIVER, Page D-5 MONDAY §N DAYBREAK: PASSBONATE PASTIMES instructed. “Pull the it corners of your in tightly. Keep your upper lip pressed against your teeth. Open and close your jawin slow, corners of scooping motion usingthe mouth to open and imagining you are close the lower jaw, picking something up with your jaw Pull your chin up and visualize the side of the face lifting up. Other exercises involve squ only with lower eyelids, a feat akin to smilingonly with your upper lip. There also are suggestions for exercising the car “while at stoplights in or when stopped in bumper-to-bumper traffic T only hope my that way face doesn't freeze |