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Show i rti ary jpamnyffiny wy x Child Is Realm Of Womanhood :. : Developing ; A Complete A Happier Personality Marriage -- Of Help Bv ABIGAIL VAN BLREN DEAR ABBY : Is it normal to toil adults for a T hate you. drop dead, u::d so forth? is This n e ighbor. a By CAROL PERKINS Deseret News Staff Writer .' , By ELAINE RENELL Deseret Nows Staff Writer or A woman can make break her marriage. Niore women need to start thinking about themselves . t(J realize the responsibility ' they have to themselves. j - lAlice Buehner (Mrs. Don L. ' Bbehner, 388G Parkview Cir.), - is- I?enly aware of this need. And the former Mrs. America (19G6) is teaching a course at BYU Adult Education Center to help women learn to become the "Complete Woman." According to Mrs. Buehner, "A woman gets tied down when she has a young family. These are the years she must budget her time and money closely, and she rarely spends enough of either on herself. She begins lo feel she is growing dull. MOST WOMEN "Most women dont know what to do about this, Mrs. Buehner said. "But a woman DOES have a responsibility to Thats the feeling of Mrs. Rose Neeleman (Mrs. Gary 8827 Altaic Dr., Neeleman, Sandy) who teaches the "Joys of Womanhood class at the BYU Adult Education Center. Its not that women are so much at fault in marriage, but that they have so much power to improve it. Too many women are content with a mediocre marriage when they should insist on something very special. In essence, thats what her class is about teaching women' how to be happier In curses and will throw anything she gets her hands She ; on. Yesterday she called me a n insulting name, so I Abby shook my linger in her face Then she threw a flower pot at me. Another time this little demon stabbed me in the back with a rake ! She sits in the yard and shouts bad things at strangers who pass by. Her parents say, Shes Ignore her. just . , ' marriage. HIS DEVOTION Mrs. Neeleman noted that "the cornerstone cI a womans happiness is to be loved and cherished by her husband. If he doesnt show this devotion, it is her fault. "If you are to be loved and treated like a woman, you must make your husband feel like-- a man, she continued. You do this by admiring his . "The Complete; Woman" is topic for Mrs. Don ,L. Buehner, left, instructor; Mrs." John I. Mills, Mrs. Eugene TV Moffitt and Mrs. R. Glen Ipsen. make herself a mote beautiful, more interesting person... "She must first build confexample, when you accept bands and your childrens The result will be a happier someones' hospitality, it is happiness. idence in herself as a person wife and a better mother. 'and as a' woman. Attitude is . your responsibility as a guest Become a more interIn her course, the first step to achieving any lo nave a good time and add to come home esting person Mr$. Buehner teaches guide- - of these goals. ' to the success of the party. ' to, to socialize with. Be manly qualities; by making lines' from experts in And Alice Buehners enthusi-- ; Positive approach, ; . - informed raboUt things going him feel superior, in his role facial care,'", .asm was apparent as she ?" on outside as a nlan. your home. So have a positive attitude?:, fashion, femininity, voice and gave us a few guidelines. You do it by filling your Cultivate experigrowing V'-forget yourself.'Act asiftyoit diction, makeup and hairstybV An role as woman, mother of his important part of liv' church employment, ing, ;and personality develop- - lng'is to enjoy each moment. are having a great time,, and, a cnees, and civic children, and as homemaker. . merit, dont 'you will get caught up in your work,! volunteer Enjoy yourself now FINE QUALITIES that work ; "Most of all, I hope to mote wait until the children are out own enthusiasm. anything You do it by taking upon with people. contact involves vate these women to commit of diapers, or out of college, , Keep your femininity.- 'A yourself certain qualities, such SHE CAUTIONED themselves to the projects we or until the money finally good wife is a good' compan- character spirstart in class and apply them comes in. Take advantage of ion and an interesting person, :! "But, Mrs. .Buehner cau- as a beautiful loveliness. ituality, outside Gear in their lives. your nor just the keeper of' an tioned, , the things you do each day Mrs. Neeleman also pointed "A woman can do anything and use them to their full ad- - - ullraefficient house. So dont activities to your family, so out that men 'need to be home she wants to if she is willing wantage, put all your effort into the they supplement your life rather than interfere tvith admired.. Compliment Jus to put fortli the time and You can be charming house and cooking 'put it. Make achievements, strength, coursure they are activieffort. she stressed. more effort into .your hus- even when youre tired. For mental capacity. age, and ties that stimulate inspire . Become really interested in you. , Too- many wohnen tend HIM. her y -- Mrs. recalls Buchner : reign as Mrs. America as just to become-snch ah- - experience. Though v. Spend less time ; thinking 'ipbout yourself; and more temporarily ; . about him. it was something that benefithusband If treat you you? ed the entire family.' like he is the most Successful, And, as ! she so strongly and wonderful man she important ieaches, urges the women in the world, hell act accord-- ' "Any challenge adds to your . . . personality growth. Meet it inglyi ACCEPT HIM head on, do the best you can, You must accept him as an and enjoy the fun that comes individual. Its immature to with trying and growing. "There are many facets to try to make him into your dream man. Hes a human she concluded. our lives, with virtues and faul's each we more "The being polish At an announcement party Saturday at the nearer we are to just like everyone else. Above facet, Fort Douglas-HiddeValley Country Club, all, have girlish faith in him! becoming the complete wom news of the engagement of Miss Kathleen A man wants to be placed an. Mary Phillips and Fred Degiorgio was disclosed. The bride-elec- t is a daughter of Mr. and AIr$. Jennings J. Phillips Jr., 1525 Westmorer ,- ' ? land Dr. Mrs. Phillips was hostess at the party. The future bridegroom is a son of Mr. and Mrs. Mario Degiorgio, 4024 W. 1800 South. The engaged couple will exchange wedding Kathleen promises Jan. 11 in the Cathedral of the Madeleine. Following, they will greet guests at a Mr. Degiorgio is a graduate of Utah State leception at the University Club. NIiss Phillips has attended the University of University, where lie also received his maUtah, where she affiliated with Kappa Kappa sters degree. He is a member of Alpha Zeta Ganuna and served as president of Little Sishonoraiv. Mr. Phillips previously attended the spoiled. Could there be something more seriously wrong with her? What is your advice? Mrs. Gary Neeleman instructs class in the "Joys of Womanhood" at BYU CONCERNED Adult Education Center. DEAR CONCERNED: It to he a kindness would suggest lo Hie childs parents that they lake her lo a doctor for some thorough testing to . Hip cause behavior. determine . . Need In The Goa!: xsV-jj- anti-soci- - - - d. . ' Phill Is ips Betrothed n ters of Minerva. 168 . at the top of the pyramid. doesnt, want to" be- ori' He the' rating with the BYU' center. She feels that keeping the fringe of his wifes life. role of the sexes separate is Some women often place fashould ther at the fringe of Hie fami- - paramount. The, man be and guide, prowhile protector the the children take ly. ,; vider of the family. The wife centep. adds comfort, love, sympathy, They are too busy with and a home. homemaking chores,, .outside and For example, a wife should jobs, ' hobbies, - social church activities to give their make the moment her hushusbands' the - consideration band walks in the door the and attention tliey need and ' best part of the day. ' want. Or they may place sucIdeally, .the house should be cess ahead of the man. Mateorderly, the. dinner almost rial tilings often become more . ready, the children cleaned up important than a husband's and quiet, and the wife lookfreedom, pride and ing her loveliest. Being a wife, mother and is the most Mrs. Neeleman, mother of homemaker five children, began teaching challenging career that a classes several years ago. It woman can choose. If she would realize this, her marstarted out as a neighborhood discussion group and soon riage and her husband would after that she began collabo- - be much happier. d By BOB RICE This lady has a problem.-Shsays she lias what they call saddle pockets. Its a fatty thigh. The problem is as common as too many calorics, and one which most ladies must someday either fight or fear. Incidentally, the lady asks, don't use my name because then everyone will look at my fatty thighs which, I believe, they already look at too much anyway! On this matter cl identification of inquirers, v.v names will be used, unless a reader requests it. In most cases we will not answer you privately because the answer would be the same as published here. But there is something you saddle can do about your pockets. Got a chair and stand by it. Check your pasture, keep , your head high, trunk straight. Put your right hand on the chair to balance yourself. Then work your left leg e top and then slowly let it return to the floor but not touch it. Repeat 10 times each time feeling the tension. Then kick the left leg ahead of you 10 times, pausing at. the top and letting the leg return slowly to the starting position, without touching the floor. Then kick the left leg back, like a mule kicks, holding the leg at the peak of the kick and slowly letting it return to the start, without touching the floor. Change hands and do all three motions, 10 times each with the right leg. After you have done this, rest a few minutes and then do it again the whole series. Rest briefly once more. The second part of the exercise is the jogger. Run in place, lifting the knees as high as you can until you get comfortably tired. Let that be it for the day. Set a consistent schedule consistency is the only sure cure. Three times a week! As you can, increase the exercises, up to as long as five minutes at jogging in place. Remember, you must think thin to get thin in the right places. Be smart about your exercises (and consistent) Be aware of the proper diet, the .right kinds of foods. Remember, too, it you eat more than you burn up in calories the excess will be stored. And it will likely be stored right in those saddle pockets. as you call them. If you hav physical culturt Questions, send them to Bob Rce in care of News Women's Department, Deseret Box 1757, Salt Lake City, Utah MU. Mr. Rice, physical culture expert, will answer them privately or in these columns. Baytown, Tex. Friday evening the newlyweds greeted guests at a reception at Monument Park Stake House. Bridal attendants included Mrs. Brent Buehler, Miss Carol Barrus, Miss Christie Fitzgerald and Miss Rebecca Brunson. Brent Buehler was best man. The bride is a graduate of LDS Business College. She has also attended Lee College Brunson, in Baytown. Mr. Buehler was graduated from the University of Utah, with where he affiliated Sigma Chi and served as president of the Marketing Club. He fulfilled an LDS mission to Northern Australia. as cap cloche in black satin with a jewel. The safari helmet is another small-healook, scaled down As far as Paris is concerned, the small head look is Not only are hair stylists doing hair ctoser to the head, but hat designers like ail kinds of shapes. The cloche, that favorite of the Twenties, appears in many new versions and some which lock very Twenties. In tweed banded with leather, Gelot does it as a basket, while Heim likes the head-huggin- g cm-uow- 1 7 witii a gold chain instead of a chin-stra- side-place- d in. and in tweed to go with suits at Jacques Delahaye. The pillbox returns, covering most of the head, at Cardin, whore its in black patent with a silver plaque in front. Caps and hoods are everywhere, in every fabric, for both clay and evening. Bohan at Dior likes a suede hood , Many raris Mrs. Mike Eschler-Coo- k In a ceremony performed Thursday in the Salt Lake Miss Temple, Carol Eschler and Lynn Ross were w Ann Cook ed. They were honored at a breakfast at the wedding by his par Chuck-A-Ram- a Floor Saver Should I ask them to go with me to the lobby or my room, leaving my plate of food? I have said, Would you like to sit In the lobby while I lobby, ' Ill be with you in about 10 minutes. If your meal has not arrived, you might accompany the visitor to the lobby and see that she is comfortable. Thursday evening, the bridal couple greeted guests at a reception at Rose Park Stake Center. Attending the bride were Miss Sandi White, maid of honor; Miss Judith Ann Leak, Miss Dianne Banks and Miss Kathy Owen. Kelley Cook was best man. The bride has attended BYU. Her husband graduated from the Y. Mr. Cook fulfilled an LDS North German mis- sion. were Prenuptial parties given by Mrs. Glen Leak, Mrs. Don Westenhaver, Miss Verda Eschler, Mrs. Joseph White. Miss Sandi White, Mrs. Dan Monson and Miss Marilyn Monson. OLYMPUS HILLS 39th South & Wasatch Blvd. OPEN SATURDAYS CHRISTMAS SHOP follows: Raise your leg to the side as high as you can, pause at the ents, Mr. and Mrs. Francis II. Cook, Brigham City. The bride is a daughter o Max Mr. and Mrs. J. Eschler, 1000 Eclipse Way. Holmberg, know women. finish? but always get a protest. V The talk goes on with other residents looking on. The notice, "Please call at desk before visiting is residents Mrs. Dura S. disregarded. Dear Mrs, S.: You have done almost all that you tan do except to be firmer. Make your question a definite request, "Would you please wait lor me in the Of the Emily Post Institute Deaf if rs. Post: I should like td knovp bf some tactful way do handle the following Entertaining at prenuptial parties were Mrs. Ferrill Horsley, Mrs. Bill Thomas, Mrs. Rutter, Mrs. Virgil Bradbury, Mrs. Allen Wells, Mrs. Ben Jordan, Mrs. Gus Quade, Mrs. Floyd Reidland, Mrs. Earl Jesperson, Mrs. Orvil Watkins, Miss Joan Wells and Miss Bennie Jordan. dont DEAR abby may be heard at 10:30 a.m. weekdays on KSL Radio. Troubled? Write to Abby, in car of Deseret News, P O. Box 1257, Saif Lake City, Utah, 14110. For a personal reply, enclose a stamped, envelope. By ELIZABETH L. POST Mrs. Lynn Ross Cook a great tip for snowy, wet weather. Put a bootrack or plastic tray for wet foorwear near the outside doors. Saves a lot of tracking. Hats In Head - Hugging Shapes give you, I Of Mealtime Visitors Mrs. Robert T. Buehler Ted Send LONESOME: DEAR her flowers, write her love letters, send her a little gift of perfume or some other frivolity, ami woo her back the same way you wooed her the first time. If she doesnt for- situation. In the dining room of a retirement home, visitors come in, seek me out at my table, and STAND (there are no extra seats) conversing with me. There is no way that I can seat these persons. Heres i-- SOME How To Solve Problem Miss Martha Annette Brunson became the bride of Robert Turnbow Buehler in rites solemnized Friday in the Salt Be Smart, Stay Fit venience. Abby, I would never actually be untrue to my wife as all I, can do is look and she knows it, but she says I have hurt her pride. I am 74. and she is 70. How LONEcan I get her back? : Brunson-Buehle- r Lake Temple. Tliey were honored at a wedding breakfast at the Doll House by his parents, Mr. and Mrs. F. Lloyd Buehler, 19G7 Claremont Way. The bride is a daughter of Mr. and Mrs. Howard E. DEAR ABBY: Yoave got to help me as I have nowhere else to turn. My wife has left me. She went to live with our daughter. She caught me reading PLAYBOY magazine, also she found several of the clippings I had from PLAYBOY hidden around the house for my con- Saturday, December' 7, 1968 U. of U. WAKE UP AND LIVE her of hats combine materials. Typical is Jean Bardlet's black velvet hood with flaring back and black Cottonwood Mall TONIGHT till 9 Olympus Hills Open til 9 Mon. thru Sat. vinyl banding. Foothill Village and Downtown Sewing Tip Zippers are easier to sew In when done before sewing tbe side seams. Try it and see if you don't agtre. ) Open til 9 Mon. thru Friday maJ I |