Show Life Standard-Examin- Suncav November 1 1 998 5D SOCIETY Many women curse to be on equal footing with men DEL VALLE By CHRISTINA Newsday Cursing is a way to see things as and “cut through all expletive deleted Weisser an English says professor at Adelphi University in Long Island NY She curses all the time -especially w ith women friends w hen she's describing sensual experiences with the men she dates She uses graphically descriptive language because she doesn't want to fall into a trap like so many other women who confuse sex with love says Weisser who has been divorced for eight years and lives in Manhattan “Women tend to drape every thing in a rosy halo and they deceive themselves" Hardly an eyebrow is raised any more w hen women curse w ith friends or enemies colleagues or bosses even parents although swearing in front of grandparents and children may still be mainly off limits Indeed the last thing many people commented on about the taped telephone calls between Linda Tnpp and Monica Lewinsky was the foul language that peppered their rambling conversations One reason women use profanity is to emphasize anger or intense emotion and make themselves appear more blunt more candid - stronger Truly the age of the woman has arrived '60s But first came the and the feminist movement that prompted women to match the boys' salty language which had been off limits to gentlewomen Hollywood quickly mirrored the trend as did popular literature And then curse words began appearing in the hallowed pages of Merriam Webster's dictionaries taking on the veneer of respectability rule-breaki- PETS Baby Boomers passed the baton of blue language along to their children who in turn surely w ill pass it along to their children “Swearing among both genders and all ages is contributing to the decline of civility the dumbing down of America and our inability to communicate clearly and effectively” grouses Jim O'Connor who earlier this year founded the Cuss Control Academy-iNorthbrook 111 which offers a S45 two-hoclass for people who want to clean up their acts As women have ascended in the hierarchy of ihe workplace many have adopted harsher language w ith peers and the behavior of underlings their male counterparts It rarely happens the other way around with underlings using obscenities with their bosses says Timothy Jay author of "Cursing in America" (John Beniamins Publishing Co $1495) The pervasive nature of profanity has become a divisive issue among feminists says Rosalyn Amenta a women's studies professor at Southern Connecticut State University in New Haven "Using a forbidden language understood to be used among pow er brokers is an illusory means of she says wmm Training needed for new arrival By PAMELA WARRICK Los Angeles Times don't suck the out of sleeping and dogs suffer sibling rivalry But that doesn't mean that family pets don't require special attention to keep your baby safe By the time the stork arrives your pet should be ready That means resolving any pet behavior problems well in advance of your due date A dog who bites -even in play - jumps up or growls at children needs obedience school if you want to keep your baby safe And a cat or any other domestic pet who suffers mood swings and has unpredictable toilet habits also needs to change its ways That said pets and babies can - though for at least the first few years only with adult supervision "Ihe single most important rule about bringing a baby into a household where there are already pets is to never ever leave the baby and the pet alone together" says Michael Bobek managing veterinarian of Cats st Illustration Dy ALEX NABAUM Standard-Examine- r moments at home when the pet is anxious to greet and be greeted If the dog - or cat - has been your “only child" remember that sharing the spotlight will be confusing To ease the transition link the baby's presence with a dose of extra attention for the dog In “Childproofing Your Dog" (Warner Books 1994) dog trainer Brian Kilcommons suggests “Speak kindly to the dog whenever you go into the child's room Be extra warm to him when he's around the child and the rest of the time pretty much ignore him Soon” the author promises "he'll be wagging his tail whenever you approach the baby" the Pasadena (Calif) Animal Emergency Clinic "And no pet should ever be permitted to sleep with a small child Even the sweetest-tempere- d animal could inadvertently scratch or smother an infant” Before introducing a newborn to a pet prepare the animal as well as you can If the pet is going to be moved out of the bedroom to make room for baby make the switch long before baby's homecoming Give the dog a chance to sniff the crib - and the baby's scent from a hospital blanket - before the baby comes home As for the homecoming someone other than the mother should hold the babv for those first critical CONSUMER Beanie Baby craze may be near the end By WILLIAM S MCTERNAN Newsday Beanie Baby bubble be about to burst Harry L Rinker is sure of it So sure he has this to say in his "Official Guide to Collectibles” (House of Collectibles SI 995): "A general feeling has developed that prices have reached the ridiculous level Many Beanie Babies advertised in the hundreds of dollars are A few years going unsold from now their only value will be the ability to look nostalgically back on the craze and think Tf only I had sold then’ " The Rinker is president of Rinker Enterprises an information service for dealers and collectors “I can assure you that within a year there will be weeping and gnashing of teeth among the Beanie Baby collectors” - On the other hand there's still interest: Patrons at McDonald's were in an ugly mood recently d chain started when the running low on the miniature versions of the stuffed animals they were giving out with Happy Meals And at a recent auction in California a Beanie called "Emplovee Bear” sold for $4000 Nevertheless some dealers are losing their Beanie bullishness Linda DeTray owner of Bears for Sale in Troy NH believes the market has never been better "But” she warned “anybody who buys them as an investment is definitely off the mark Nobody's going to get rich on There are ait estimated 40000 of them And there are thousands of Beanie Baby Web sites almost all of them devoted to selling the little plush animals that were created by toy designer Ty Warner Since their introduction in 1994 Beanie Babies have become inescapable Ty Warner sensed right at the outset of the dolls' creation that a perception of scarcity even an artificial one boosted value And so "retiring” Beanies like "Humphrey the Camel” propelled the plush dromedary from a S5 toy to an S800 collectible "So Ty made half a million Humphreys and they were snapped up by scalpers and hoarders” said Rinker “but those retired Beanie Babies are losing value rapidly” "Ally the Alligator” has dropped from S40 to $15 "Bumble the Bee” from $300 to $125 LOOSE gkt fast-foo- them” The bottom line says Rinker: “The ship is sinking If you have Beanie Babies unload them Sell them anywhere On the Net at garage sales There’s a h window of escape After that buy a cry ing towel" two-mont- Diamond Sale in ho 394-894- 6 60 e OFF aS 60U0 OFF Energy Efficient Seamless Fabric Cleaning Is a Breeie 70 i HOURS: rl Sat 11-- 3 Sil'tndl 111398 OGDEN 732-166- 6 2432 S STATE SHOWROOM CRYSTAL PLEAT EVEN PLEAT and Double Cell Construction No Cr ds or Holes Visible VERTICAL OFF All Fabrics 150 PVC Patterns Mon-F- IfAU fc 7 Patterns - 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