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Show THE DAILY HERALD, I'rovo, Utah, Saturday, October 14, 1995 Page A10 for.ids Especially Couple upset with rude remarks on kids theiraiUes and Dear Ann Landers: My husband and I are both in our 30s, and we have decided not to have children. This was not an impetuous decision. We gave it a great deal of consideration. Although most people would regard this as a very private matter, you would not believe the number of people who have the nerve to ask, "When are you going to start a family?" When we tell them we aren't planning to start a family, we receive unbelievably rude comments. I cannot count the number of times I have been told, "Oh, you will change your mind." Or worse yet, "Your life won't be complete," and "You'll regret it later on." Some family members have called me selfish and said I would pay a price for it when I'm older. Has a law been passed that requires all married women to have children? We have discussed this with other couples who have chosen to remain childless, and they have experienced the same insulting treatment. My husband and I have a very happy marriage and are confident that we have made the decision that is right for us. I can't understand why so many people are interested in our personal choices and why they think they should offer an opinion. We have tried to be polite, but it's gotten to the point that I'm ready to yell, "Mind your own business!" at the next person who asks that question. 1995 by Universal Press Syndicate By BETTY DEBNAM Iran Th Mini Page toy fotiy Dbnwn C 1W5 UWMi Pimi Syndic A Worldwide Family Thd InifoH Mot inne S The plans When nations joined, they would become a member of a big, worldwide family. The United Nations would not be a world government. It could not pass laws other countries had to obey. Over the past 50 years, the family of United Nations has worked to: Seated from left to right are British Prime Minister Winston S. Churchill, U.S. President Franklin D. Roosevelt and Soviet Premier Josef Stalin. They were meeting at a conference in February 1945 to plan the beginnings that something had offer a place where people can meet to pays? problems Like any big family, the United Nations has its problems. Countries do not always agree with the U.N.'s decisions. The number of member countries has grown from 51 to 185. Managing and paying for so many is hard. Some critics say that it employs too many people and does not spend money help nations cooperate among themselves in solving problems. protect human rights and improve standards of living. Any better suggestions? Childless Bv Choice Dear C.B.C.: The best way to respond to totally tasteless questions is to look the clod in the eye and say, "Why would you ask about something that is so intensely personal?" Don't wait for an answer. Just move on. The next letter is about another question that seemed totally wisely. work out their problems. Like many families today, the U.N. has big money problems. prevent another war. They met and came up with the idea for the United Nations. Fifty-on- e countries were invited to the meeting to make the final plans. On Oct. 24, 1945, enough countries had signed an agreement called a "charter" and the United Nations was born. Who U.N. relations among nations. During World War II, Franklin D. Roosevelt and other world leaders knew to be done to President Franklin D. Roosevelt thought up the name "United Nations." This U.N. soldier from Kenya holds a Croatian child in former Yugoslavia. develop friendly United Nations. The 1J keep world peace. About 152 countries, including the United States, have fallen behind in the United Nations headquarters from the east bank of the East River in Manhattan. The U.N. site covers about 16 acres. A view of Each country is assessed, or charged, a certain amount to pay for the expenses of the United Nations. Thirteen of the richer countries are s of the charged for about four-fifth- United 25 States 12 9 Japan Germany Russian Federation France United Kingdom Italy whole budget. They are: payments. The United Nations has managed to stay in business over the years. It has had many successes. It has done many things that no other group could do. While there are disagreements, almost everyone agrees that we do need a family of nations! inappropriate: Dear Ann Landers: When 2 2 2 7 Brazil 6 5 4 Australia Netherlands Mi Pagt by Betty Domain 5 Something old, something new. blue. No doubt you think I am talking about a wedding when, in fact, I am trareferring to my long-tim- e dition (since last year) of devoting October's columns to spooky and mysterious books, and to the four such books I will review today. ins Untvn Pm Syndfcnt The old book is Edmund Crispin's The Moving Toyshop, starring the inimitable Gervase Fen. an Oxford don of unusual habits. Fen is a sort of a rough cross between Lord Peter Wimsey JP Ju JIL y& Kids of the U.N. Family n and Groucho Marx, but precipitous. In The Moving Toyshop he investigates, in his little red sports car, the Lily Christine III. the loss of a whole store worth of toys and a dead body besides. Though Crispin's work is much-belove- d among devotees of the literate British mystery, he is not well enough known in the Mountain West. I mean to change that. Try this book, or his next best. Love Lies Bleeding. UNICEF seen kids dressed in costumes, carrying orange boxes and going door-to-doon Halloween collecting money for Have you or UNICEF The United Nations decided that children were so important, it started a special agency just to look after their problems. Today UNICEF (pronounced works to help children in 140 developing countries around the world. The money it raises helps kids and their families in many ways, including: immunizations health care nutritious UNICEF? for UNICEF Trick-or-tre- at The custom started in 1950 when a group of kids collected $17 in empty milk cartons. Raising money for UNICEF has month-lon- g grown from one night to a project. This will give people extra g time to plan activities, such as haunted houses and carnivals. Many students will be learning about kids in other countries during fund-raism- this special UNICEF month. food clean water education emergency assistance UNICEF is supported by contributions from governments, businesses and people around the world. It does not get its money from the regular U.N. budget. Q UNICEF The something new is actually an old favorite Anne Perry's latest adventure of William Monk and Hester Latterly. Cain and his Brother. As usual. Perry brings Victorian England brilliantly and painfully to life in the story of Angus Sionefield and his twin brother Caleb. cards Another way UNICEF raises money is by selling greeting cards. The tradition began when a girl from Czechoslovakia drew a picture of children dancing around a maypole. She sent it as a thank-yofor the food, clothing and medicine her village received from UNICEF. It was printed on glass because there was a paper shortage. In 1994, more than $10 million was raised in the United States from the sale of UNICEF cards. Angus is missing and Caleb is suspect. Monk's investigation takes him to London's Limehouse district and into the midst of a typhoid epidemic where Hester, one of Florence Nightingale's Crimean war nurses, joins in the grindingly hopeless battle to save lives in totally unsanitary conditions. The biblical overtones of Ms. Perry's narrative enrich a grip- u ping story as Monk moves relentlessly tow ards discov ery of Angus Next week, let's celebrate Halloween with a story about bats. drawings above and below are of kids in traditional costumes from marry lands. In real life, rf any kids had these costumes, they probably would wear them only on special occasions. Which ones can sou identify? "Hie Fibromyalgia is a common form of generalized muscular pain and fatigue. Scientific studies hav e demonstrated that most people with fibromyalgia have an abnormal sleep pattern. 1 fu rfT8! Vi - Landers time?" The clerk looked startled, and I was stunned. I was 80 years was 90. old, and my I could barely keep a straight face when I responded, "No, your honor. Not that I know of." A few minutes later, the judge pounded his gavel and pronounced the divorce granted. Can you figure out why I was asked such a ridiculous question? Dumbfounded in Illinois Dear III.: The question was undoubtedly part of the legal procedure and mandatory for the record, but nevertheless, it was quite inappropriate. Dear Ann Landers: Four of us gals work for the telephone company. We often order in pizza for lunch. One of the girls never has any money. We are getting tired of her sponging. How do we tell her? Sun Belt Suckers Dear S.B.S.: In plain English, unless she understands another ianguage better. Gem of the Day: A dog approached a mother cat with her kittens. The cat barked several times, and the dog ran away. Turning to her kittens, the cat said. "Now do you see how important it is to know a second language?" Stonefield's fate, as well as toward the loss of his own good name and livelihood. Heading Uptown by Marissa Piesman is a book I borrowed from a friend to read on vacation. If you or in this case, prefer character and a lot of laughs characters over a compelling storyline, Pies-ma- n is the writer for you. Nina Fischman is a lawyer who works for a group called Legal J0 . y Vgg At Laura Wadisy the Library Sen ices for the Elderly, which mainly deals in banging out and witnessing w ills. In this adventure she is asked to be executor of a will which was supposed to have been executed (accent on the second "e") by a fellow lawyer who died too young and probably in foul fashion. Nina has to find out why. The Marx brothers' influence is 't'ongly felt in this book as w ell, and it is a lot of fun to read. Last, but never least, the blue book, which is as scar) a book as we have in the library: it will tell vou w hat your old car is w orth and how much you w ill have to pay for a new one. We have the blue books at the information desk. These books may all be found at the Provo City Library (except Heading Uptown w hich I had to borrow because we didn't have it. but w e w ill soon) and may also be av ailable at a library nearer you. Fibromyalgia group to meet In order to help people with fibromyalgia sleep disorders and how to improve their sleep, Grego- ry Dupont. MD. will speak at the next Utah County Fibromyalgia " - well-spoke- The very first UNICEF card. UNICEF helps more than 500 million children get clean water. Without clean water, kids are fn danger from many illnesses. via- 1 1 something borrowed, something from Tht no-fau- Spooky, mysterious books for October 3 Canada Spain Ukraine I was going through a divorce a cou ple of years ago, all the papers were prepared ahead of time by the lt lawyers. I asked for a divorce with no settlement of any kind. and I were My called before the judge who asked us a few routine questions, which he read from a piece of paper. I was stopped cold when the judge asked, "Are you pregnant at this SB Education and Support Group Dupont is the medical director of the Sleep Disorders Clinic at Pioneer Valley Hospital meeting. Dr. in West Valley City. The meeting, sponsored by the Arthritis foundation, Utah Chapter, will be held Tuesday, Oct 17. at 7 p.m. at the Women's Council of Provo building. 310 W. 500 North. There is no charge for the meeting and it is open to anyone interested in learning more about Fibromyalgia. Anyone diagnosed w ith chronic fatigue syndrome are also invited to attend. For more information on this meetine" call Dine Berrett at |