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Show Page 20 THE HERALD, Provo, Utah, Friday, March 25, 1983 Housework Seminar Ann Landers Here's Looking at You Scheduled Tonight At Orem Jr. High Silence Breaks the Heart not cope with silence. It is deadly, direct and By RENEE C. NELSON Herald Women's bdiicr One of the short four-lin- e (quatrain) poems read by Helen Ann Willey at the Wednesday Beta Sorosis open session had strong impact as a concluding rendition. It is entitled: Choice of Weapons Sticks and stones are hard on bones, Aimed with angry art, Words can sting like anything. But silence breaks the heart. Rather than becoming vocal and defensive when angry, many people will use the silent treatment. It is an escape mechanism escape from a further barrage of accusations and demands on the part of another person, and sometimes an escape from saying something they might be sorry for. But one cannot fight silence. One cannot retort or respond to silence. And most people can One of the greatest enemies of a happy marriage has been attributed to lack of communication. Silence is a lack of communication. "If he she would only talk to me; I can't stand the silence." How many times has this thought run through the mind of someone trying to get to the heart of some matter. If it can't be discussed, it can't be solved. If it isn't solved there is more anger, suspicion and resentment. McGinley is poignant as well as clever and witty. It has been noted that it is often much easier to write an acceptable verse in a serious vein, than to Choices Child Raised With Kindness write the bon mot the clever retort, of which she is famous. She always has a core of meaning in even her most frivolous poems. As Mrs. Willey observed, "She has the accu- - er save housewives and husbands time and money. His last seminar on Feb. 5 was 374-806- 4. learns justice. A child that lives with praise learns to appreciate. A child that lives with sharing learns to be considerate. A child that lives with knowledge learns wisdom. Slow Motion Crash You don't have to drive a racing car to get into an automobile In fact, more than 80 percent of all motor vehicle accidents occur at speeds of less than 40 miles per hour, says the Ameriaccident. Evan Clark, Corine Phillips Marianne Peter I f married -- HAijDBier ALL Tuning OHM UNIVERSITY MALL Evan reception will honor the couple that evening from 7:30 to 9:30 at the A Center, 90 S. 200 E. The event is . E- ; open to all friends Marianne and relatives. Bridal attendants will be sister of the bride, Janet Kelsey, and Shirley Thomas as matron of honor. Janet Grace and Linda Preuss will be the bridesmaids with Melissa Kelsey and Nichole Peterson, nieces of the bride, as flower girls. Best men will be Martin Jay Peterson and ; Dennis Hopkinson. The bride-elegraduated with honors from .'Payson High School. She graduated from LDS .'Seminary and is employed with a law firm in Orem. Her fiance is a graduate of Provo High School. He attended Utah Technical College and is employed in Provo. The couple will live in Provo. - nJn Mi Ml f:W7: R f I Springville i the ' jfc- X) 'mm Ninth Ward Cultural Hall. The Mr. and Mrs. Evan Clark event is open to (Corine Dawn Phillips) all friends and relatives. 33 1 83 Offers Accepted! 225-845- H 3 - v- 1 1 A reception will honor the couple Saturday evening from 7 to 9:30 at Santaquin Stake : : ! RENTAL RETURNS USED Delivery Financing and Mrs. Ray quin. STOCK MUST BE SOLD BEFORE NEW VIA Uk reader asked, "Which country is second in number of TV sets?" and the Soviet Union is the correct answer. Obviously, the per capita figure gives a truer picture, but my editor says my response was OK. PIANOS & ORGANS Clark, son of Mr. Clark of Springville and the late Beverly B. Clark, today in the Salt Lake LDS Temple. town, but the WAREHOUSE, FOREVER Phillips, daughter of Mr. and Mrs. Loren J. Phillips of Springville, Santaquin, will marry Max E. Hohrein, son of Mr. and Mrs. Ernest C. Hohrein ;of Provo, on Sat-- ; in Santa-- ; ; urday gives these sets per 1,000: USA Canada 428, Finland 363, Australia 351, Denmark 323, West Germany 311, East Germany 309. Several countries are below 300 but above the approximately 245 for the Soviet Union or 239 for Copy Desk Almost AnyJapan. where Dear Anywhere (although you happen to be in Carbondale, 111.) : I don't want to get testy, pal, because you could kill me In your 571, WE ARE CLOSING OUR Dawn Corine son, daughter of Mr. and Mrs. Jay O. Peterson of S er Cumberland noted that 170 million TV sets in the United States two would mean approximately per household, and asked what country is next. You replied, "The Soviet Union, with 80 million sets." True, in absolute numbers, but what if we consider, population and look at TV sets per 1,000 population? You may have more recent figures, but our almanac well-traine- can Council of Life Insurance. I in Cumberland" and think he and many others would like a more complete answer. "Fact-Seek- Nothing Doing In St. Louis Dear N.D. in S.L.: I consulted with Dr. Jerome Katz of the Menninger Foundation. My first question was, "Could the woman have a hormonal problem?" He replied, "I doubt it." Dr. Katz went on to say, "It appears that she is suffering from strong inhibitions. These may be multiple in origin and do not necessarily imply a homosexual orientation or inclination. There is a good possibility that she can be successfully treated by a qualified psychologist, psychiatrist or psyd choanalyst, or by a sex therapist. With proper help she may be able to undo misinformation and various fears or anxieties, both conscious and uncon- - attended by 540 people. He is the author of "Is There Life After Housework?" For more information on Dr. Asiett or the cleaning seminar call A child that lives with antagonism learns to be hostile. A child that lives with affection learns to love. A child that lives with encouragement learns confidence. A child that lives with truth the can 'bloom.'" Dear Ann Landers: I just finished editing your answer to times an indication that one's basic orientation is toward homosexuality? What causes total absence of interest and noninvolve-ment- ? I do not mean frigidity or impotence, just no feeling of attraction toward either sex. Is this condition treatable? inside." Dear Reader Read the following quotation by Dorothy Law Nolte and then ask yourself (and YOU are the only person who can answer the question) whether or not you were a good mother: A child that lives with ridicule learns to be timid. A child that lives with criticism learns to condemn. A child that lives with distrust learns to be deceitful. Peterson, Hohrein Wedding ' Orem Junior High School Auditorium, 765 N. 600 W., Orem. It will begin at 6:30 p.m. and run to 9:30 p.m. The public is welcome and tickets are available at the door. Asiett began cleaning 25 years ago to earn his way through college. His small business grew, and today he owns one of the larger janitorial companies in the country. He believes much of the tecn-hiqu- e used by professionals can be applied to the individual home to admonishes. But what of silence? He is nothing with silence. He is a zero, a cipher. He is not worth even a response or acknowledgment. It is the ultimate weapon. My plea is for more communication, more discussion, more sharing of feelings, longings and troublesome worries. Deliver me from "he who keeps all his feelings locked up By KAREN BLAKER, Ph.D. lb ' four-lin- single woman, successful in my profession, and have many good friends. The problem: I have absolutely no sex life. For a long while I thought I might be a "late bloomer," but now I am beginning to wonder if there is anything there to "bloom." to Is it possible to be asexual have no real interest in either male or female? Or is this some- work seminar this evening at world's wormy apple with a razor blade." on siHer little lence is a classic example of this. How can you compare the trauma of silence better than to compare it with actual physical encounters of "sticks and stones." Much is said about verbal abuse the calling of names or the branding of an individual. "He is who you tell him he is!" the popular commercial astating. srioui. The woman could have choices and opportunities presI do hope ently beyond realization. Dear Ann Landers: I am a Don Asiett will conduct a house- racy of observation to pare the dev- Or Late Bloomer -- 7S AM "js&z HI-Mini- : T I5 API ON 18 MONTHS ON 12 MONTHS 'J . 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