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Show Wednesday, April 4, 2001 Page 7 Times Newspaper How to stop how-to Editor's note: Connie Sokol of the Teleios Group, a business designed to help educate, empower and encourage women, will be running periodic columns in the Times designed de-signed to help bring concepts helpful to women tolight. For a five information packet on the Teleios Group call 420-2330. BY CONNIE SOKOL i . ... "" ,V. ' f - After delivering my fourth child, in six years, I felt a tad overwhelmed. My sweet contractor husband offered to do household chores while I rested upstairs, and first on the list (on any woman's list) was the Dreaded Linoleum Kitchen Floor. Mentally calculating time needed for the remaining items, I figured the floor should take him only 20 minutes. min-utes. For those laughing at this plan, remember I was on painkillers. painkill-ers. An hour and a half later I could stand it no longer. What was he doing, painting the Sistine Chapel? Bravely, I waddled to the top of the stairs where I saw him - pushing his hardwood floor machine with buffer pad over the linoleum, shaking and gyrating in sync with the buffer rhythm. For the first time in 15 years I was speechless. Laura Doyle, author of The Surrendered Wife, believes that though women complain about their husband's lacking assistance, they offer little rea.vecopportunity for men to assist. "Many women are terrified that their husbands won't know how to perform everyday ev-eryday duties properly when left to their own devices." But leave them to their own devices we must, if we want truly loving relationships. rela-tionships. How to stop the ominous how-to? Today, notice how often you tell your husband or children how to - how to legitimately load the dishwasher, how to save 10 minutes getting to Wal-Mart or how to map out chore schedules and still have time to whittle. When you ask someone to load the dishwasher, do so and leave the room. Do not hover, do not supervise, do not suggest - simply leave it alone. Save for very young children, people unfortunately do not need your dishwasher expertise and will ask if absolutely necessary, or not. Mrs. Doyle further suggests to "stop telling your husband what to do, what to wear, what to say and how to do things, even if you think you're helping. As much as possible, mind your own business." busi-ness." For those unused to this, it will be difficult. You may experience expe-rience tremors, anxiety and need to consume large amounts of chocolate. choco-late. This is a withdrawal period and that's okay - once through, you will emerge to a place called appropriate responsibility. It is a wonderful place. Suddenly, you will be thanking family members for folded towels tow-els that look like bowling balls or mowed lawns akin to a NASCAR track. You will appreciate their efforts without criticism, without comparison. This does not mean you can't desire things to look, smell or be nice. It means that you will think twice before you sacrifice the self-esteem of another person for a Home and Garden appearance. Just today, eliminate the unnecessary how-to. Instead, replace it with a good book, a phone call to a friend or a few minutes to sit in a chair quietly, watching your son fold the bowling balls. LIFEChange Tip: When delegating a responsibility, do so without with-out specifying how to. Book Pick: The Surrendered Wife, Laura Doyle The Eucharist at St. Mary's What is a Eucharist? It is a Sacramental Sac-ramental Service of the Episcopal Church that is sometimes called Holy Communion. Eucharist is a Greek word which means gratitude grati-tude or rejoice. Why the Greek word? It must be kept in mind that by 323 BC Alexander the Great had conquered the known world - he had taken his armies as far as India - and had 6pread Greek government and culture and the Greek language. Greek was the language of the Early Christian Church. So, during the Eucharist we give thanks to God and rejoice because we are in His presence and we receive the sacrament sac-rament of the Body and Blood of Christ. The Eucharist which is found in our Book of Common Prayer is divided into two major parts. The first part is "The Word". It consists con-sists mainly of the reading of two biblical lessons, one from the Old Testament and one from the New Testament. These are normally read by a lay member of the parish. par-ish. Then follows the reading of the Gospel, a selection from the New Testament. This is read by the Priest, who then preaches a sermon or homily based on that part of the scriptures. This is followed fol-lowed by the congregation saying the Nicene Creed in unison and then the Prayers of the People again led by one of the lay readers read-ers of the congregation. At this time prayers are offered for the Nation, the welfare of the world and concerns of the local community, commu-nity, those who suffer from grief or trouble, those recently departed de-parted and any other special concerns. con-cerns. Next comes the confession of sins and the absolution. This part of the Eucharist ends with the members of the congregation wishing each other "The Peace of the Lord". During the second part of the Eucharist the Celebrant Priest says the appointed prayers for the consecration of the bread and wine into the Body and Blood of Christ and the congregation comes to the altar rail to receive the consecrated sacrament. The service ends with a prayer of thanksgiving and the command "Go in Peace to Love and Serve The Lord". The Episcopal Eucharist Eucha-rist is not a newly contrived service. ser-vice. It is a faithful copy of some of the very early Christian prayers and ceremonies as verified by the documents found in the catacombs cata-combs under Rome where the persecuted per-secuted early Christians went to worship. Of course, hymns are sung at various times during the service and there is always ample opportunity, oppor-tunity, for personal prayers. At St. Mary's any person who has been baptized in the name of the Father, Fa-ther, Son and Holy Spirit is welcome wel-come to the altar rail to receive the sacrament or to receive a blessing from the Priest. The Eucharist Eu-charist is relatively short - it lasts only about 45 minutes. Visitors are always welcomed at St. Mary's. For more information please phone 373-3090. ' 'J'l WALTER AND PATRICIA CRYER Mr. and Mrs. Walter Cryer honored at Golden Anniversary Hundreds expected for Marriott School conference Orem well represented at state geography bee Six students from Orem will represent their various schools at the Utah State Geographic Bee on April 6 at Thanksgiving Point. Orem has the fourth largest contingent of representatives at the state meet, behind only Salt Lake City, Bountiful and Sandy. The Orem students heading to Thanksgiving Point this weekend are: Scott B. McQueen, Bonneville Elementary; Ramon D. Young, Challenger School; Tony H. Rawlins, Orem Elemen- , tary; Jason C. Knoell, Lakeridge Jr. High; Andrew C. Melville, Canyon Can-yon View Jr. High and Andrew Black, Westmore Elementary. Lindon also has one representative represen-tative in the state meet, Taylor S. Wood of Oak Canyon Jr. High. In order to get to the state meet, the students had to win first place in their school geography bee finish fin-ish in the top 100 in the state on a written exam graded by the National Geographic Society, sponsor of the contest. The geography bees are open to fourth through eighth graders whose schools participate in the nation-wide contests. The winner of each state geography bee will advance to the National Geographic Geo-graphic Bee in Washington D.C. on May 22 and 23. In addition to a trip to the nation's capital, the state winner will also receive a $100 prize. Second Sec-ond place finishers win $75 and third place finishers $50. At the natibnal bee, which will be moderated by Jeopardy's Alec Trebeck, winners will receive a $25,000 college scholarship and a lifetime membership in the National Na-tional Geographic Society. The second- and third-place finishers in the national competition receive re-ceive a $15,000 and a $10,000 scholarship respectively. The top 10 finalists are each awarded $500. The 2001 bee is sponsored by First USA. The National Geographic Bee involved nearly 5 million students this year. The rise in popularity of the bee has coincided with a reawakening of the nation's interest inter-est in geography, which was the Society's primary objective when it created the competition in 1989. One sign that geography has gained importance in the American Ameri-can classroom is that the College Board now offers an advanced placement geography course in high school. The Marriott School at Brigham Young University anticipates antici-pates hundreds of participants at its fourth annual Microenterprise Conference April 5-7. The free conference, believed to be the largest of its kind, is open to BYU students, faculty, staff, and the public. Microenterprise is a movement that uses small loans and business education to help the poor become self-reliant. This year's theme, "Practical Approaches to Ending Poverty", will bring together educators, edu-cators, investors, and non-governmental organizations from around the world. "Microenterprise development is one of the most innovative economic eco-nomic strategies of the past century," cen-tury," said Warner Woodworth, professor of organizational leadership lead-ership and strategy at BYU's Marriott School and one of the conference's organizers. "Microenterprise's strength lies in empowering the poor so they can help themselves and thereby become fully self-reliant." Addressing this year's theme are speakers Khalid Shams, assis tant director of Grameen Bank; Terri Ludwig, president of ACCION New York; Syed Hashimi, poverty specialist at Consultative Group to Assist the Poorest; John Hatch, executive director of F1NCA International; Chieko Okazaki, former counselor counse-lor in the General Relief Society presidency of The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints; and Steve Young, former Superbowl MVP and founder of the Forever Young Foundation. Other organizations organi-zations participating in the conference con-ference include Catholic Relief Services and USAID. "This is the largest conference of its kind where high quality presentations by some of the best practitioners of microenterprise share their successes," Woodworth said. The conference will be held on the BYU campus in room 3224 of the Wilkinson Student Center. Due to limited seating, pre-regis-tration is encouraged. For conference confer-ence information and pre-regis-tration, call (801) 378-6690. Walter and Patricia Wagner Cryer, residents of Orem, will celebrate cel-ebrate their 50th wedding anni- Veterans of Utah Outreach Program Mr. John Maher, Department Service Officer for the Disabled American Veterans, will be available avail-able during the month of April, 2001, to provide .assistance with Department of Veterans Affairs (VA) issues at the following locations loca-tions on the dates and times listed below. Please try to be as early as possible pos-sible as the Service Officer has a demanding schedule and cannot stay past the allotted time. Also, please bring the following documents docu-ments DD form 214 (original of Copy 4); marriagedivorce, adoption or death certificates; and children's birth certificates; Social Security numbers. Dates and places: April 24, Blanding, Workforce Office, 544 North 100 East, 9 a.m. to 10 a.m. April 24, Moab, Workforce Office, Of-fice, 1165 South Highway 191 2. 11:30 a.m. to 1 p.m. April 24, Green River, City ('enter, ('en-ter, 240 East Main, 2 p.m. to 3 p.m. April 25, Price, Workforce Office, Of-fice, 475 Price River Drive 256, 8 a.m. to 11 a.m. April 25, Provo, Workforce Office, Of-fice, 1550 North 200 West, 12:45 p.m. to 1:45 p.m. April 27, Ogden, Workforce Office, Of-fice, 480 27,h Street, 8:30 a.m. to 10 a.m. April 27, Clearfield, Workforce Office, 1350 East 1450 South, 10:30 a.m. to 11:30 a.m. versary Saturday, April 7 with their family. They met as students at the University of Illinois. They were married in Dixon, Illinois, with Mrs. Cryer's father, Carl Louis Wagner, a Lutheran minister, minis-ter, officiating at the wedding. In 196.'l the Overs came to Utah from the Chicago area when Walt was hired to be the swimming swim-ming coach at Brigham Young University. After Conch Cryer's retirement from BYU, the Cryers served a mission for The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints in Albania. The Cryers arc the parents of 8 children, and grandparents ol'43, with 6 great-grandchildren. Their children include Mrs. Catherine Peterson of South Jordan, Jor-dan, Mr. Thomas Cryer of Murray. Mrs. Janette Johnson of Kiverlon, Mr. David Cryer of Provo, Mrs. Lucretia Wright of Springville, Mrs Elizabeth Bangerter of Melha, Idaho, Mr. Bryan Cryer of Pleasant drove, and Mrs. Emily Rowherry of 1 lighland. Wheelchairs available The Senior Wheels USA Program Pro-gram makes available electric wheelchairs to senior citizens (65 years and older) and the permanently perma-nently disabled at no cost to qualified quali-fied recipients. The power wheelchairs are provided pro-vided to those who cannot walk and cannot self-propel a manual wheelchair, and who meet the additional ad-ditional guidelines of the program. pro-gram. No deposit is required. 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