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Show Counseling Corner Dr. Anderson : I have found it nearly impossible lately to communicate com-municate with my teenage teen-age son. He usually answers an-swers my questions with a grunt, or one word sentences, sen-tences, and leaves the room so he doesn't have to talk with me. He's not a bad boy, but we're getting farther apart all the time. Not all youth become non-communicative with parents, but it is not unusual un-usual for some youth to close off talk and feelings with parents, and other adults, at some time in their maturing years. 7ledaat )I CORATING CHNTER OF OUR ALL HEW EWJITURO SHOWROOM C- : 0 ) It- REGISTER FOH FREE GIFTS Carpet, Sofas, Linoleum Paint, Wallpaper... ...plus much more. TJr wmgi if f a terrific tabic buy Mar-resistant tops in beautiful Spanish Oak, Hickory and Honey Pine vinyl. your choice All .6 Up Art Supplies I a s pes i There are several contributing factors. One can rather easily train another to be a non-communicator by being a non-listener. non-listener. One youth said of his parents, "They really don't listen to me anyway, they are just thinking all the time about what they're going to tell me." Conversely, active listening, which can be developed through personal per-sonal study and practice, or through a few sessions with a professional therapist, thera-pist, will open the channels chan-nels for easy flow of feelings feel-ings and ideas. Often parents slip into 1 f J - ' Priced to DECORATING r ". 1 : I -:: Of !fttoft-.f..rXv.v.-y..,Brij.v.i 1 by Dr. Phillip D. Anderson a pattern of interrogation in an attempt to generate communication. This prompts short answer patterns from vouth: Ends Sat. Dec. 15th LnnTrnnrw WeeCxeoiiGE DAYS FOR TV0 I' Lake Dtlux Roam Accommodations ot-loks Toahoo INN or NEXT TO HARRAH'S Continental Breakfast Daily Diicount Coupon! for Shows and Attroetic.ni Cruise of lakt Tahot (in season) Complimentary Gaming Coupons Just for buying a SOFA & LOVESEAT at Grand Opening discounts. start a! decorator mirrors your choice rijV Large Selection Picture frames OPEN Mon & "yes," "no," "maybe," "I don't know." Short, meaningless answers are given more especially when youth suspect the quesioning is leading up to an opportunity for parents par-ents to give criticism, unwanted un-wanted advice, a lecture, etc. We are all reluctant to give anyone material which they can use to make us feel inadequate, unworthy, or "dumb." Parents are often surprised sur-prised to hear how easily and unceasingly youth talk with peers who simply sim-ply accept them completely. com-pletely. When we exercise the ability to, 1) set our own feelings and problems aside while we actively list i to another, and 2) Tahoe Fri til 9 p.m. f maintain an atmosphere of unconditional positive regard for the other person, per-son, we are well on our way to establishing a healthy climate for genuine gen-uine two-way communication. communi-cation. Youth and parents both need to develop these skills and attitudes. Readers questions are welcome. Send to: Dr. Phillip D. Anderson Marriage and Family Counseling 1325 South 800 East Suite 205 Orem, Utah 84057 Sweepstakes Won By SUSC Another sweepstakes trophy has been added to the Southern Utah State College forensics showcase. show-case. It is an especially important one, squad members say, because it was won at the pres- tigious Air Force Invitational. Invi-tational. "The tournament at the Air Force Academy is, without question, the hardest hard-est tournament we'll compete com-pete in all season," squad spokesman Chris Kerec-man Kerec-man said. We worked hard for the first place win and received a standing stand-ing ovation from the other tournament participants." SUSC's most recent forensic for-ensic victory was the result re-sult of good solid squad effort, SUSCDebateCoach M. L. Smith says. The T -Birds competed against students from 43 other institutions, battling against such forensics powers as the University of Georgia, Southern Missouri Mis-souri State, Texas Tech, Loyola and Baylor universities. uni-versities. Second place honors in the tournament went to the University of Wyoming. Wyo-ming. Third place was won by Lewis and Clark College. Several points towards the SUSC victory were contributed by debaters Denise Brooks and Scott Pullan, Bingham, who took second place honors in junior division debate. They lost first place laurels laur-els to a team from Kan-; sas University. Debaters Craig LeDuc, : Brigham, and Tracy Ashman, Ash-man, Timpvj?w, worked their way to the semifinals semi-finals in CEDA competition, competi-tion, losing to a team from the University of Northern Colorado. LeDuc, Le-Duc, a SUSC junior,' finished fin-ished with the second highest high-est number of speaker points in CEDA competition competi-tion at the tournament. In individual events Debbie Evans, a SUSC freshman, won third place in expository speaking. The Brighton High School Mountainland Marine "A Christmas Wonderland'1' All Marine Accessories Will Be Sold At Cost 15 Off On All Snowmobile Clothing 20 Off On All Snowmobile Parts EFFECTIVE DEC. 3RD THRU DEC. 22ND WJl 4J Mountainland Marine 1.' KURTIS GIBBONS Sunday Talk Scheduled For Elder Gibbons Kurtis Eugene Gibbons, Gib-bons, the son of Dr. Eugene and Evelyn Gibbons, 145 S. Eastwood Dr., Orem, will speak at his missionary mission-ary farewell Sunday, 3:15 p.m.. in the Orem 40th Ward, 50 S. 800 E. St., Orem. Elder Gibbons will serve in the Puerto Rico-San Rico-San Juan Mission and will enter the Mission Training Center Dec. 27. An open house will be held at the Gibbons residence resi-dence after the meeting. The Union of Soviet Socialist Republics is the largest country on earth, making up a sixth of the globe's inhabited surface. Its 256 million people include in-clude more than 100 ethno-linguistic ethno-linguistic groups. graduate is now qualified for national competition. Appel Tuxhorn, Bingham, Bing-ham, andKayronMadson, Payson, were finalists in expository speaking. In oratory. Vickie Green, Bingham, competed com-peted in the final rounds' of competition while He--laine Crookston, Provo, and Cara Thorup, Brig-ham, Brig-ham, competed in the semi-finals. Chris Kerecman, Provo, Pro-vo, collected more points ' for SUSC as a semi-finalist in extemporaneous speaking. In her first time out, Marie Del Marco, a SUSC junior theatre arts major from Amarillo, Texas, was a finalist in poetry interp. The SUSC squad will next compete in the USC UCLA Christmas Swing on Dec. 27. We're Having A DHAVVlNti December 22 GRAND PRIZE Free Snowmobile Second Prize His & Her Snowmobile Suits Third Prize Connelly Hook Water Ski 80 E. 100 S. Orem Intermountaii. West's Largest WEI. I . Cl AFT Dealer HAROLD SMOOT Harold Smoot Farewell Set Harold Robert Smoot, the son of Robert S. and Gaylia A. Smoot, 35 N. 700 E., Orem, will speak at his missionary farewell Sunday, 1:15 p.m., in the Orem 49th Ward, 481 E. Center, Orem. Elder Smoot will serve in the Switzerland Geneva Mission and will enter the Mission Training Train-ing Center Dec. 27. An open house will be held at the Smoot residence resi-dence following the meeting. meet-ing. Williams To Leave For MTC Chile Mission James Williams, the son of Mrs. Rita H. Williams, Wil-liams, Orem, and Mr. A. G. Williams, California, has been called to the Chile-Concepcion Mission and will enter the Mission Training Center Dec. 27. He will speak at a meeting held in his honor Sunday, at 4 : 30 p.m. in the Orem 28th Ward, 590 N. 900 W; Orem. An open house will be held following follow-ing the meeting.. Utah Fifth Utah ranks fifth among am-ong the fifty states in the proportion of total population, popu-lation, by Federal, state and local government units. According to data compiled by the U. S. Bureau of the Census, there were 119,102 Utahns working for some governmental govern-mental unit in October, 1978. This was equal to 9.11 of the state's total population, which was significantly sig-nificantly above the U. S. average of 7.09. The high percentage of government employment employ-ment in Utah is accounted for mainly by the large number of Federal employees em-ployees stationed in the State. In 1978, there were 34,565 Federal civilian employees in Utah, and this was equal to 2.64 of the total state population. - Orem-Geneva Times Dcrin Johansen Receives Call Elder Darin Johansen, Johan-sen, son of Mr. and Mrs. Wesley (Joyce) Johansen has been called to serve in the Nagoya Japan Mission of the L.D.S. Church. He will be the speaker at Sacrament Services of the Orem 25th Ward in the Orem Stake Missioary rMr.smDsrDinsCenleronDec- eW m mm OF ffl Pffi! mm i si 1 V WITH O Saiwltlioice UNITED THRIFT : What's a Good Savings Plan Worth? ,; , One good plan can put you in the race for financial security and we have more than one plan for you. fwoiv Announcing mv2 ON Minimum 0EP03ITS OF ONLY on 6 Time Corf if icatos I 0C (10.92 effective annual yield) (j Passbook Savings Earn Up To 7 ANNUALLY (7.19 effective annual yield) , . . All interest carried daily from date of deposit and paid quarterly. All accounts protected up to a maximum of ten thousand dollars by the Industrial Loan Guaranty Corporation, a private corporation which is not an instrumentality instrumen-tality of the state of Utah. TONY EVANS Vice President and Manager of United Thrift's Orem office A FjlJTJjp) 212 South State St., December 13, 1979 L DARIN JOHANSEN & .i Sift month ' f MS- 1 Hill 0: i'Sii mm 'a Orem, Utah -225-0571 V .1 .as. W 1C66 So. State, Ortm 225-4141 |