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Show WOMAN'S WORLD Plan Wedding Details Fully To. Avoid Lack of Graciousness By Ertta Haley PERHAPS you've wondered, if you're going to be a bride, or have had anything to do with weddings, wed-dings, Just why there are so many rules connected with them. A wedding is a really big occa-alon occa-alon for the bride and groom, of course, but for families and friends as well. The rules are strict, but they're designed for the sake of graciousness, thoughtfulness and consideration for all Involved. Responsibilities are divided between be-tween the two immediate families Involved, possibly more for the bride's family than for the groom's, but that is probably due to the fact that the groom must assume more responsibilities economically than the bride. What kind of wedding to have really depends upon individual preferences, pref-erences, and the bride and groom should decide this for themselves. As they think of the wedding in later years, it should be the kind of wedding they wanted rather than anyone else. Budget has a lot to do with weddings, wed-dings, and even the simplest kind may make a serious dent in finances. fi-nances. The size of both families also helps in determining wedding Wtddingt riguiri planning . . . type, as do the number of friends and relatives you want to include. Weddings should always be in conformity with your station and that of the family's. It should never be an affair that has any tinge of keeping up with the family next door or a friend. There are six types from which to choose: First, the large formal wedding at a church, followed by a reception at home, hotel or club, where everyone is invited, I Type of Wedding ' Determines Guests With the formal, semlformal or Informal church or chapel wedding, followed by a small reception at home or a club, only families of the bride and groom and intimate friends are invited. A third type of wedding is a small one held at church or home, with a small reception re-ception at a club includes only a wedding party as well as for corsages cor-sages to both mothers and grandmothers. grand-mothers. The groom usually plans to give several gifts, and these are for the bride, the best man and the ushers. For a formal wedding, he presents matching ties and gloves to the men and gives a dinner (bachelor), if he wants to have one. The groom will also handle the clergyman's fee and the wedding trip expenses. Pre-Wedding Gifts Dictated by Wedding Type Showers before the wedding are in perfect order for all types of weddings no matter how simple they may be, but the bride's or bridegroom's immediate family should never give one of these. If either of the families want to give a party, it must be clearly understood that no gifts are expected expect-ed from those attending. When showers are given, the bride is expected to write thank-you thank-you notes not only to the hostess who gave the shower, but also to all who gave gifts. If desired by the bride, she and her mother may give what is called a trousseau tea a week or so before the wedding, after the invitations have been sent. Invitations to this are usually by an informal, written note. The guest of honor at the tea is the groom's mother who usually pours. Bridal attendants and close friends usually assist with pouring during the latter part of the afternoon. after-noon. The farewell luncheon' for the bridal party is part of the big formal for-mal wedding, and usually takes place a few days before the big event Attendant's gifts are usually presented at this affair. The bridal dinner either precedes or follows the rehearsal and includes in-cludes the complete wedding party, as well as Important out-of-town guests. This may be done in buffet style, or it may be formal sit-down sit-down affair. Invitations are by personal per-sonal notes or by word of mouth by the bride's mother. The bachelor dinner is held at the preference of the groom, and he plays the host. His friends may also give it in his honor. Gifts to best man and ushers are presented at this time. Procedure Given For Wedding At any formal wedding, music begins one-half hour before the ceremony. Vocal solos should be scheduled during the last few minutes min-utes of this time, just before the ceremony begins. Candles are lighted by the sexton sex-ton a few minutes before the guests arrive, unless a traditional candle-lighting candle-lighting ceremony has been scheduled sched-uled during the service. Reserved pews number ten to twenty, depending upon the size of the wedding and number of guests. Guests present pew cards to the usher if they are to sit in the reserved re-served section. Five minutes before the ceremony, cere-mony, the bridegroom's mother is escorted to her place, the first pew on the right side. The bridegroom's father follows her and is seated next to her. One minute before the ceremony begins, the bride's mother is ushered ush-ered in and takes her place in the first pew on the left side. Seating of all the other guests follows this. Home weddings are much simpler than the procedure outlined above, as guests are welcomed by the bride's mother and they usually stand during the ceremony. to tbt minultsl details. few friends and the two immediate families. This is followed by a large reception to which all friends are invited. Another type of wedding which is simple yet ideal from the point of view of the reception is that held at home, and possibly in the garden. This is followed by a reception re-ception at the same place to which everyone is invited. Then there's the small chapel wedding which is very simple, too, held in a small chapel to which a few friends are Invited. The bridal couple usually receive in the foyer of the chapel. The last type is the military wedding wed-ding which is usually formal. It's held at a military post, at the chapel there and is followed by a reception at home or at the club on the post Responsibilities of Families Are Defintely Listed All types of invitations and announcements an-nouncements are paid for and handled by the bride's family, but the complete list to whom they are sent are made out by both families or the bride and the groom. The bride's trousseau, wedding ensemble, wedding decorations, bridesmaid's bouquets, gifts to musicians musi-cians and other helpers and church expenses with the exception of the clergyman's fee are also bandied by the bride's family. If no one else offers to entertain, the bride's family usually gives the bridal dinner before the rehear-saL rehear-saL The bride's - family will also plan to bouse any out-of-town special spe-cial guests for the wedding and pay for transportation to and from the church and the wedding reception for the bridal party. The responsibilities of the groom include the wedding ring, the marriage mar-riage license, the bridal bouquet boutonnieres for the men of the |