Show YOUR BABY AND l E I II I ABy By MYRTLE MEYER MEYR ELDRED J SEES EVIL RESULT OF MOTHERS MOTHER'S SELFISH LOVE The letter from n a a mother asking how she can retain the love of ot her herboy ler ier boy all through his life lite has called forth many many letters I am trying tr to print those which do not repeat the things said in my answer answer an an- but give a n slightly y different angle This Is from the angle of ot grown daughters whose devotion to their mother has been ruined by her favoritism I Mrs S. S G G. writes I I know linow there are many man cases in which a a. boy or girl becomes a n. slave to the tho mother mothel and nev never never r seeks s a 8 normal adult life liCe but please let me metell metell tell her and other mothers what the alternative result might be IC If 11 the child chUd Is a strong individual and meets outside Influences the mother may some day find herself receiving nothing but supreme In- In from the child who was previously attached to herMy herMy her J My Iy own mother is the example I have In mind After years of offa fa favoring favoring fa- fa the second of her three daughters and making her a combination combination com corn chum and ladys lady's maid and dressing her up and flattering her she lost this childs child's love as completely completely com corn as that of ot the two who were forced to do the family drudgery At 15 this this' daughter could see that she was being Injured even more than her two sisters and In spite of f her treatment she could barely barcly speak civilly to mother My father obtained a divorce and my mother Is now living In the family of an uncle as the traditional family slave She is only about 45 45 but sh she sh it If life were over for her We Ve see her per frequently and send her presents but w v pursue our own affairs affairs af at- fairs and think little of ot herI her J I 1 l know no you jou will ivill say Just wait until you jou have a child of your own but I have a n. old month boy and andI I feel it a p parents parent's rents rent's duty as well as s joy to bring up uj a a. cHild to live a a. wholesome happy life lite not just to enrich the life of f the the- parent who has failed to achieve that for loi herself her her- 8 self elf My hus husband and and and I are are surprised sur- sur stir sur at the wrong attitudes attitudes' of parents We have been told told to enjoy our child for foi he will soon soon grow away vay from us while we look upon this growing away as j normal i and natural My Iy father to whom hom we we are aie devoted makes no claim laim upon us but says sas w we should pay our oui debts to our parents to our own o children L i r bear two things In mind first to make my child happy happ and md teach him him to be independent and Sand secondly second second- ly to blame if he lie fails faill and not his hIs' companions companions' teachers s' or sweetheart especially if Ir he fails falls to return our affections affection Answer You hav have e touched on a n half dozen different asp aspects o of ot the parent parent- child relationship I pity your joui mother for tor having failed to win what she wanted so badly and nd for lying down at 45 and acting as if life we Ife were e ended This TIlis Is the tr tra U- U t- t attitude of the mother mothel who o first leaned on on parents then hus bus band then rel relatives or or o- children without making a sing single singe e effort to stand alone Therein lies the pity for foi her life might be beso so rich richand richand- and if it itou you jou ou could admire and respect t her hershe hershe she might still gain gan y your ur affection |