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Show YOUTH FEARS EMOTIONAL INSTABILITY AS RESULT OF LOWERING STANDARDS Br BETTY BLAIR t IftWo people were compelled lo lest and measure their emo- tkmal and mental capacities, as well as undergo severe physical examinations, marriage would get rid of much of iti handicap, and divorcee would be fewer. Dear Miss Blair: I ana engaged to a vary won-." won-." derful gui, and have bean for mora than a year bow. I know aha would Ilka to ba married within with-in tha next year, next June if poaaible and not later than next September.. But tha nearer tha time comae to naming an exact time for tha wadding the mora I hesitate. Not becauae there la anything wrong with tha girl, but becauae I have a ft of conscience every once in a while and think I ehouldn't marry at alt I am now M years old and I know that I am emotionally un- What Is Your : . Plan? Parents, have you been successful In handling the problem of your young people keeping reasonable night hours? If so, tell ua what your plan la. Or give us a theoretical plan that you 1 1 fauna wvoiei ww ewceenanzi- Young people, what Ideas have you on this question of "respectable" hours that takes Into consideration your parents' par-ents' Ideaa of your welfare aa well aa your own enjoyment? Have you a plan that will give aaiiafactlon to both yourselves your-selves and your pare ate? The beat solution to this problem that keeps well within with-in the MO-word limit will receive re-ceive an award of M. Letters ' must be postmarked not later than midnight Thursday. February Feb-ruary Is, and are to be ad- dressed to Betty Blair, Salt , Lake Telegram. atable. All my life I have given in ' ta the other fallow who wanted to go on a bat when I didn't I have had certain standards in my mind, put there by my parents, and have Intended to live up to " them, but haven't done so. I always have a feeling of dis-: dis-: gust with myself for giving In. Of late years it has been the other fellow inside me and not aa actual , outside personality that has over- ruled my better Judgment I have been reading a lot lately about emotional Instability and tha havoc it plays in human Uvea. I want time to put myself to the ' test to see whether or not I can . snake myself do what one aide of ! me, the better aide, seta aa a ' standard of conduct. 'If X can't do so. I think I have no right to anarry. I dont want my flaneee to know yet what test I am making with myself. .Yet I don't know what excuse ti offer for the delay in marriage. ' Can you advise me oa say problem? J. F." My first advice la that yea call Dr. Barlow or any other good pay-ejhaiegist pay-ejhaiegist at tha university and ask tf any arrangements may be made far a talk with him concerning your ' problem. Emotional Instability la Indeed Something to be reckoned with, but your reading about It in a book and making your own deductions about yourself, may lead to wholly wrong conclusions. Kane Perfect No man la perfect; there la no one - hut is assailed with outside Influences Influ-ences diverting him from his main purpose, yet of those so diverted, we de not say they are emotionally unstable. un-stable. There may ariae other crises In your life than those having to do with your moral standards. You . most take your reactions to these , Into aooount too before your emotional emo-tional stability can be gauged. And though you know more about your acta than any other, you probably do not know nearly so much about what the normal person's reactions . are, and therefore shouldn't under-' under-' take ta put the tag an your own measure ef stability. Let someone equipped with the measuring gauge do that for you and tell you how to go about It to acquire greater . emotional control. , I am not one for dwelling on the past with remorse or depths of conscience. con-science. I am for forgetting the : past la aa active present that will bad ta a atill more active future in the direction one wishes to go. As for your fiancee, she will net set the day until asked ta do so by you. There la the possibility that marriage with love and a fine consideration con-sideration for each other may dispel dis-pel your fears that you are more emotionally unstable than others. But I atill advise a heart-to-heart talk with a competent psychologist preferably a man, from whom no part of your story need be withheld. |