Show COLLEGE SORORITIES BREED UNHAPPINESS IS MOTHERS MOTHER'S CHARGE and Error Method of f Changing Steady Proved T Mostly Error FIance to Graduate and Study Law l BETTY BLAIR By College Ute life Is ln in replica what life off the campus will willbe willbe be for the majority Adjustments must be made in either case It If girls who cannot afford sororities would sensibly face tace the fact and make up their minds to enjoy campus life without benefit of the exclusiveness a sorority affords they would find much of real value to compensate Naturally a girl to whom a sorority means all of campus Ute life wIll find Unhappiness unhappiness un- un happiness if cIrcumstances prevent her joining or keeping up Dear Mi Miss Blair There is b a question affecting many young girls in this city and elsewhere that to my notion has ItI never r had a l I ri tion yet causes aS a I- I more h fIK AR than most love af U r i. i t fairs ever ever cause II I I I am referring I now nov to college 1 IL l sororities I 1 think I AlIF the they are arc very ery unI unU un- un U Ill I- I democratic md and 1 Fir It am judging from fromI I I I my own lilI S enre ence with my daughter We had hoped our daughter would a education and prepare to earn her own liv- liv ing We were willing to make all kinds of sacrifices so she could do this All our plans went along llong fine until she was rushed for a sorority then our troubles and disappointments began Her friends also were rushed but most niost or of them had more money than we had In fact We had to count pennies to make ends meet nd then were often otten behind with taxes and little bills As any mother would be I 1 was proud of the fact m my daughter should be chosen and not left out In the cold to feel heartbroken But I 1 reckoned without my host for tor she has had more heartbreak through joIning than she could ever have had by refusing to join It was simply impossible for her to keep up with her dues Miss Blair and rather than be dropped for nonpayment she he gave up school Now V she is the most unhappy discontented girl I 1 have ever er seen She was so o full of life and so sweet and happy before before be- be fore this happened to her Now she he sees no hop hopes s for her future at all To cap the climax her boy boyfriend boyfriend friend wb joined a fraternity now goes steady with a girl who was able abl to stay in school and keep up with her sorority I 1 tell you Miss BlaIr our home life has b been n made tragic because ot oL the fact that our daughter joined B a sorority She would have been unhappy not to joIn but at least she would have had her college education and that would have given her hope to go o on and earn her own living and do things for herself I 1 dont don't expect that you ou or anyone any any- one can do anything about this matter but I do wish other young girls would think twice before they joIn a sorority they cant can't afford af af- lord ford We dId the best we could for her but were unable to do more ANON Your story reminds us of the girl Letters and request requests re- re quests quest for advice should be nd ad- to MISS n BETT E T TV BLAIR HEARTS HEART'S HAVEN TELEGRAM SALT L LA A K E. E Write legibly upon only one side of the paper It is necessary that you app append ap- ap I p pend Dd the right name and address ad ad- dress but these will be held in strict confidence and will appear In print Questions involving involving in- in advertising information annot be answered I who d p from her campus recently when she was wac dropped from her sorority for nonpayment of dues and has not since been found Trul Truly man many many heartaches occur in connection con con- with college sororities but we ve wonder It If a good many of these heartaches arent aren't due to the fact that girls rush In without examination of the facts and that parents themselves are arc a little slack in checking up be bc forehand on the required for social sororities and fraternities True nearly ever every girl wants to join a sorority She feels left leU out ot of things if she But college life in itself can be a very pleasant mat mat- ter without a sorority now that deans of women are arc making it po possible sible for girls to group together in a social way minus the advantage of a sororIty The young men barbs have sorta taken things into into- their own hands too for a social life among themselves them selves and student activities combine with the two groups After all all girls and boys must be taught to live their lives in a wa way The They must respect val val- ues They must learn to adjust themselves them them- selves to a me life that will more or less be theirs of off the campus as well as on I think your our daughter needs to stif fen up her backbone go back to her college resign from her sorority make a killing with her brains and establish herself n her own world There is a great d deal al of happiness to tobe tobe be found by the girl who has been taught real values of oC life liCe outside the s of a sorority When she is out of college some of her friends may be buying high pow ered cred cars and having other advantages advantages that money gives but she will not let that trouble her She will have learned the lesson of adapting herself to her own scale of living andin md and in finding happiness within herself After all the hideout of happiness is within not without I ERROR IN CHOICE Dear Miss l Blair Blair- I 1 am v no now 18 years old and for four years went with the same boy until a few months ago when another boy began asking to see me and to take me out I 1 hadn't promised to go steady with the first boy it just so happened that neither or of us went with anybody else until this second boy came along Boy number one was very jealous and we quarreled about boy number two so much that we Wc broke up I 1 continued going with the see sec ond boy but I 1 know now that I 1 dont don't care for him nearl nearly as much muchas as I 1 did the first boy Do you think 1 should try to get the first boy back Do you think he would want me after all that has happened Thank you SORRY Perhaps if you gave up the second boy the first would see for himself that you ou no longer cared for the o other her herand and would with a little encourage encourage- ent on your renew his friendship friend friend- ship on the former basis That is he would if he still cared for tor you OU Inthe in inthe the same way But if he cares more for tor keeping his own pride on the high shelf helf of his superior ego than he does docs for realizing his love Iov for far you ou he may not come back People are queer that way THIE WILL TELL Dear Miss Miss' Blair The boy to whom I 1 am engaged finishes college this summer and then goes away to study law Do you think his going and not seeing see sec ing me vacations for two years ears will lessen his love for me me What d yo you suggest I 1 get him for a gIft Thank you DEE DEEDEE Only time will tell if all the promIses prom prom- you OU two have made each other will be fulfilled Sometimes wIth the best of intentions things go wrong Select something useful something also conservative for tor your fiances fiance's graduation gift A desk clock with calendar r attached would make a pleasing gift folders wallets brief cases are always acceptable accept accept- able Perhaps a d desk k set would be most useful to him Learn h his tastes and his needs needs' before you you purchase the gift |