Show t Ji HUSBAND REMORSEFUL i OVER LOSS OF WIFE'S r f Jj LOVE BY NEGLIGENCE I Wide Choice of Friends and Immunity Against Falling rr i in In Love Necessary ry for High School Students Law In-Law Breach May Be Mended By BETTY BLAIR i. i In a mans man's blind selfishness lack of sensitiveness and f his calm assumption that no matter what he does his wife's love will continue undimInished her love often gradually dies Only by Intelligence and a willingness on the part of the husband husband husband hus hus- band to forego his false pride may it be regained Dear Miss Blair Ten years n ago ngo o I 1 was married to the girl of my choice I don don't I think I wa exactly in love c with this girl but I was ambitious and Ills Ill's ve very she fulfilled t the h e eA A I J dreams of my ambitions ambi amb- ii ItI tion better than I f III anyone else I 1 knew I I IJ I and I was biologically I tM cally ready for lor marr mar mar- f r rIa i a g e. e After we Mu I 1 were married four years our son came I Ill and helped to tie us II Ill closer to together ether My wife always showed a great deal of affection for me rae and thought me very cold and unfeeling at times when my flY mind was filled tilled with nothing else but getting rich But she seldom complained I 1 invested her money and mine too and lost everything I started on the he ground floor loor again and was deI determined de de- de- de I to win 5 But in this determination I lost t Bight of my wife's need for or love lovei i and end affection She was a R good sport and helped all she could I But now as I look back I can think of many little things she said that showed her need for l love Jove I paid no attention to them r t at the time i Not until now that that- I 1 realize I 1 have lost my wife's love do I see how selfish I have been I have thought too much of gett getting ng ahead and of oC my own pleasures which I 1 took in liz hunting and fishIng fishIng fish fish- Ing when whIm hard work drove me to toI I take some rome sort of recreation and seldom have I 1 thought of her needs except to see that she was well clothed and fed and had the theother 5 other necessities necessities' ec of oC life I Another man h has s now come comeS S Into her life and she is asking f roe me me for a divorce The thought Ca of it nearly drives me out of my f mind I had never dreamed of 7 uch a thing as my wife liking II I. I i anybody else She wants to keep the boy too All An my work all that I have built up suddenly seems to mean nothing to me In f. the face of this surprising calami calam calam- i tf ity Hy v She claims the other man loves jr I her for herself alone that that he f f seems to worship everything V- V about bo out t her her-her her her looks her chara characteristics char char- a everything s she does These are things things- 1 I have paid much attention to 10 she has always looked all right or I 1 would have noticed that I 1 suppose suppose supposeS sup sup- pose poseS I have always taken her too much for for- granted S WI j dont don't want to lose her now or my m son I 1 h have ve asked her herto to give me time to think about it It humbles my pride to have to ask her to to give me another chance Do you think there Is any chance I 1 can win her love back again Thanks REMORSE You ou lost a fortune and by dint of hard labor were able to lish yourself in your financial world You had to acquaint yourself with the tricks of the financial world in order to win Dont Don't you suppose you could start in and acquaint yourself your your- self with a few of the tricks of love jj You do not need to lower your dignity dig dig- to do so so Simple sincere appreciation ciati elation n voiced In a forthright way is all aU a woman expects from a hus has band unused to falling over himself himsel to tobe be n nice ice to her Your wife understands your na na- na ture She knows just how much it would humble you to have t to ask her to give you ou another chance You Youcan Youcan can tell her you love her so much that you want her to be happy but that you are still selfish enough to want to share in that happiness if ii It iUs f is humanly possible She will know that you are asking for another chance and we believe she will want to give it to you It Is no small thing for her even for a. a great love S may be awaiting her to break the old ties and to take your son with her A womans woman's heart can be so hungry hungry hun hun- gry that she snatches at love and kindness as the drowning man does doe at the proverbial straw Throw her hera a plank the plank the plank of your constancy constancy con stancy which she cant can't be sure of In the the other other man until she ahe has tried him the plank of ot your devotion to tor duty for duty for all that f r you have done 1 Letters qu questions and re rc requests quests for or advice ice should be ad addressed d dressed to MISS B BETTY E f T Y BLAIR BLAIn HEARTS HEART'S HA HAVEN VEN TELEGRAM SALT L LAl LAKE A K E. E Write legibly upon only one side of the paper It I Is necessary that you append append ap ap- pend the right name and address ad ad- dress but these will be held In strict confidence and will wUl D not nt t appear in print Questions InvOlvIng Involving involving in In- advertising Information not cannot be answered has las been for her and the boy and a In your social world She cant can't cante be e so sure of this either In the other other oth oth- er man The plank of oC your deep love ove for for- her and for the boy which you ou promise to learn to express outward out- out ward Who would grasp at straws when solid planks promise a way to safety Another Viewpoint Dear Miss Blair I would like to add my viewpoint viewpoint viewpoint view view- point about the advisability of going go ing steady at high school age If just companionship is craved then why not have lots of friends of the opposite sex Im I'm in ut high school and thoroughly disapprove disapprove prove of going steady I I- I dont don't think a girl should take an any boy seriously enough to turn down other fellows fellows' offers of friend friend- ship Besides Were We're too young to settIe settie set sei- tIe tle down to one man Why not have many boy friends then well we'll have a wider choice when the time comes to choose If II the Il-the the boy grows tired of you then then its it's hard to get et over the hurst and hard to find other boy friends A good many times the boy cant can't afford lo to take the steady out much and consequently she has to sit on the parlor sofa I 1 admire th the girl wh who can act her age and and- avoid oid sentimentality for the Thanks Miss Blair space I 1 hope the girls will be sensible and nd sta stay clear of love for a few years JUST A PUNSTER I I 1 think you have a a avery very level head and I X admire a J J. A. A P. P greatly girl who sees her way so clearly and who has the foresight to stay slay clear of ot entanglements that sap her vitality vitally vital vital- ity ly during the years when all her energies are needed for the building up of body and brain If high school boys and girls can cango cango cango go st steady ady and keep clear of the viol vio lent ent emotions that are apt to stir sUr adolescent ad ad- youths and that so sap their brain rain and body power ver all well welt and good providing they do donot ot also limit lim- lim it t normal friendship experiences But Jut can they I I 1 am still waiting to be convinced Law In-Law Offends Dear Miss Blair I am a young oung married woman have been married just a few months and my husband and I 1 Iare Iare are at present present- living with his parents and an unmarried sister This sister seems to resent my coming into the family and theother the theother theother other day said something before guests that embarrassed me greatly It hurt me so much that I haven't felt that I could speak to her again until again until she apologizes Am Ani I doing right WIFE The sister law may be the kind of ot person who never apologizes no matter what the offense Your not speaking cant can't hurt sel-s sel sufficient self ff people of this nature You are safer safero to o be civilly courteous since after all you are receiving a great favor from rom your in It is not any anymore anymore anymore more pleasant for them than for you to jo have to live together and yo you may have to keep silence for a long longtime lime time unless you try to overlook the I rudeness and at least be coldly cour cour- Search your mind to find out whether or not you weren't partly to blame for the rudeness and if you find that you were set an example in Ln excellent manners by being the thc first to apologize ze for your part in the unhappy affair |