Show Your Marriage New Flew Satisfactions Compensate CompensateD D For Loss of Wedded Love Live Ry By y Samuel G. G and und Esther B B. B lIn I Dear Mr and Mrs I Kling Ive been married for more than 15 years and for the past five have been completely out of love Jove with my husband Emotionally the spark ark is 15 quite dead I How this came about or whose fault it was I really dont don't know All I do know is that our love isnow isnow is isnow now gone Weve We've now reached the point where we merely tolerate each other Frankly were we're not eager to separate because of the children Now the problem is what to do da Shall we wc separate in spite of the effect it may have on our youngsters youngsters youngsters young young- Or shall we continue to suffer a loveless marriage Not Unusual Answer First let us point out that yours is by no means an unusual unusual unusual un un- un- un usual case In fact thousands of couples continue to live unhappily for one reason or another Some Sonic remain wed for purely religious or moral reasons Some because they I fear that a divorce will prove damaging damaging damaging dam dam- aging ing to their reputations or ca ca- ca- ca Others like yourself prefer staying staying- married because of the children Whatever er the motive theres there's no reason why even oven a loveless union cant can't be made tolerable V Ve know a husband for example who became became be be- b- b came disillusioned with his wife a afew afew afew few months after the ceremony For religious reasons this man had strong scruples a against divorce i Sati Satisfaction I Determined to make the best of ofa a bad situation he threw himself Into his work with greater zeal zealand zealand zealand and energy y than he had ever before displayed One promotion came after another until he is now vice ice president of a large larg-e industrial concern con con- cern This mans man's work gave him the satisfaction and security he had never had from his wife A wife we know compensated for an unhappy marriage e by be becoming becoming be- be coming active in club work Attending Attending Attending At At- tending tending- meetings doing doing- the philanthropic philanthropic phil phil- work to which the organizations organizations or or- were dedicated and making r reports ports gave her rewards that she never ne found at home Of course neither case is an ideal situation But each represents represents s a compromise with reality Absorbing Activity In any case where mates have fallen out of love with each other and and the spark cant can't be rekindled often the solution solution solution as happens the happens only tion that offers some peace of mind is to find an absorbing absorbing- activity activity ac ac- ac- ac which will provide the security security se se- and gratification that cant can't be gotten from the marriage All of us require emotional satis satis- faction But often we must forego complete satisfaction by sublimating ing some of oC our desires This is i i done by by losing ourselves in useful I engrossing pursuits pur You can probably make your life more tolerable by developing some I interesting sting hobby becoming ng active 4 in m some org organizations t. t or I if f y yc not needed a at t home by el going out to work or small business of oC your o own you try this you may still be beto beto to find home some happiness v existing man marriage e ag-e relationship |