Show MARY HAWORTH'S MAIL Wife's 1 s Effort F f f n to R Rs Help Vet Adjust Is No Use Ilse DEAR MARY HAWORTH I After two years in the navy my husband returned from the Mediterranean Mediterranean Mediterranean Med Med- 14 months ago and was sent to California where we established a home four months later We Ve were in California six months when he was released from the navy and decided to togo togo togo go back to his prewar job in the east We Ve made the transfer but upon arrival he refused the job when he found he couldn't get the salary he thought he should have A few days ago we talked things over and agreed we would both take jobs jobs almost almost any job for the time being being and and save to togo togo togo go west again If it he doesn't find the job he wants in a few months He lie Still Loafs I found a job almost at once and went to work immediately but he still has no job and has tried only once to find one He even stays in bed when Im I'm off to work My parents love him himas as a son treat him as a hero who should be pampered I feel Ive I've pampered him long enough You can imagine my shock to read a letter he had written his father saying he wanted to get away from a bunch of ot d damn a m n narrow-minded narrow rela rela- tives We Vo have been married six years and have an adorable son 3 Were Vere it not for him I think I might tell my husband to clear out to California if he likes What is the proper course for forme forme forme me to take Things Things are are arc coming coming- to a head and I must be pre pre- pared R. R. R B. B Stop Pampering DEAR R. R B. B We Ve assume that every released serviceman faces a problem of ot readjustment to civilian life and in general the fonts folks at home are ready and willing to help him meet it itIn In this case cue your husband Is making making- no honest effort to adjust adjust adjust ad ad- just to things as they are arc You have done all the adjusting since he came back and you have done it with very good grace but this does not bring his problem lem lem ot of getting back on his feet feet any any nearer to solution Time to Speak Your program should be no be-no no nomore more pampering or wild goose- goose chasing If he wants a further vote of confidence from you he must earn it 1 By taking a job like it or not in the thc present environment environment environment en en- and becoming a a. householder apart from your family 2 By staying put for fora a year at least or until you could sincerely agree that a transfer elsewhere has everything everything everything every every- thing to recommend it The specialist says the time has come to treat him with severe severe severe se se vere kindness kindness in In the sense of charging him sternly with in inexcusable inexcusable inexcusable in- in excusable failure to measure up He Ho may do the right thing that thatis is go to work Or he may desert de de- de- de sert If the latter the fault will not be yours and Jf it he ho is a quitter the sooner you get g-et rid of him the better M. M. M H. H Mary Haworth c counsels 0 u n s e 1 8 I through her column not by mail mailor or personal interview Write her herin herin herin in care of The Salt Lake Tele Tele- gram |