Show Hearts Hearl Haven i ven Spouse Shirks Shirl Family Responsibility BY BETTY BLAIR If a man lacks the backbone to accept accept ac ac- ac- ac and fulfill his responsibilities moralizing will not restore it But the law will sometimes stimulate it to action It is backbone that distinguishes distinguishes distinguishes dis dis- dis- dis a man from a jelly fish Dear Miss Blair Perhaps you will wonder why as its a young married woman with witha ra a six months months' old babe I must leave my husband and do something something something some some- thing to support myself and young son I had a perfect husband for forI I three years but for for nearly six months now my husband seems like a changed man He Ho refuses to take me any place is home only one night out of the week and has lias been admittedly unfaithful to me Under present circumstances I I cannot continue to live with him with any self-respect self or pride Ive I've tried to get t along but buthe buthe buthe he doesn't seem to want to change Realizes Error He tells me h he realizes he does wrongly leaving me alone night i after night and that he doesn't blame m me for anything yet he continues doing it I have come to the conclusion that it is best to settle things between between between be- be tween us once and for all It is isa isa isa a long story and I dont don't want to weary you with all the details I have no friends or relatives here but hope you can tell me what a woman in my position should do Any suggestions you have to offer will be more than acceptable I do not want to re ret return return re- re t turn rn to my folks to add to their burdens 1 i Unhappy II List your name nane with state and church employment agencies You will find employment agencies listed under that name in the yellow yellow yellow yel yel- low pages of the telephone book I 1 do not of blame you f for r wanting to help yourself as much as possible yet ye-t I 1 think you are letting your husband shake his responsibilities in altogether too easy a manner It ItIs' ItIs Itis is is Is' Is he not you who should be working to support your six months' months old babe Talk with the superintendent superintendent superintendent of the Childrens Children's Service society about caring for your son If you must work to support him The idea of your working in somebody's somebody's somebody's some some- body's home and keeping your Infant in infant infant in- in fant with you is not feasible It would require almost all your time and end attention to care for the babe Yes I think you should settle things once and for or all too but I 1 think it should be through pressure brought to bear on your husband to work and provide for you and your son son I think you should even be willing to grant him continued leave of absence providing he did his duty in earning your support Ask the attorney of the Legal Aid so society society society so- so in the Beason building to help you untangle this knotted web into which your affairs have fallen LUNCHEON MENU Dear bear Miss Blair 0 It will be turn soon my again to entertain at t luncheon for my bridge club I have raked my brains for something colorful and different Im I'm sure anything you might suggest would be helpful as 85 my salad to seafood dishes just wont won't bear repeating Thank you so 0 much Hostess Something c colorful How will this do The tender green of cream of spinach soup served with the golden brown of croutons English monkey mon mon- key made key made with a good hard cheese the result of which is a heartening golden color The dark red of jellied jellied jel jel- jel- jel lied tomato salad served on the I vivid green of shredded lettuce with I golden mayonnaise adds an I ing touch For d dessert serve gingerbread gin gin- gingerbread gin gingerbread waffles topped w with L t h whipped cream To Remove Remo Ink Dear Miss Blair I have spilled ink on an expensive expensive ex ex- pensive couch cover I am afraid to wash it for fear the color will some pome ome out Will you pl please ase tell me how to remove the Ink without without without with with- out having to wish wash the couch cover Thank yo you 1 Mrs A A. A Y Send your couch cover to the professional dry cleaners for spotting spotting spotting spot spot- ting and dry cleaning if it is un un- washable There are commercial ink re removers removers re- re movers with which you may experiment experiment ex ex- but I cannot promise promis they would not bleach the color If you wish to do further experimenting oak soak the ink sta stained ed cover cove In n buttermilk changing the liquid as often as stained and rinse finally finally finaly final- final ly y in tepid water and salt Salt will sometimes set colors in fabric Note To H. H F. F Y I did not n t receive the S Song ng of The States from any of my readers readers read- read ers rs and as yet have been unable to locate ocate it When I do so will be glad to let you know and you may mayome come ome in and get a copy Starchy Foods Dear Miss Blair Will you please give me a list of starchy foods They are the foods I must cut down in my diet and Im I'm not ot s sure sure re what t all of them are ere Thank y you u. u I Mrs K I The following list of starch foods while incomplete will form a working working work- work ing ng basis in meal planning White potatoes sweet potatoes carrots parsnips beets sweet corn peas squash quash lima Uma beans dried beans hominy lominy all aU cereals ready to ea eat and cooked including rice samp m macaroni a c car a r 0 n i spaghetti vermicelli noodles bread in all its forms am and crackers bananas cornstarch arrowroot arrowroot arrowroot ar ar- ar- ar tapioca and sago |