Show UNEASY ELECT BRIDE-ELECT g t ASKS ABOUT DUTIES DUTIES' Ii POISE RECOMMENDED RECOMMENDED a fG By BETTY BLAIR t. t Let pass through thy mind only that which you desire to see become becore p the truth see seeing ng first firs that it is not not ignoble and can harm no no m man n then will it take earthly shape and draw near to thee This is the law of that that which creates A Dear Miss Blair I enjoy reading your column very much You h have ve l helped so many nany others I a 11 assure sure zure you can help me I am to b be married soon loon and will go e east t with my husband to make our home homo for forAt forat forat At least a year I am n a motherless girl with no female relatives on either side of iny my family Ha Hae e worked and arned earned my own living since leaving leav ing high school Now that I am approaching my new life I realize there are arc many things of ot which I Xam Iam am totally Ig ignorant orant I h have ve had little Ittle social life and have confined y existence to my work worle and my little apartment with the ary housekeeping tasks that my life Ute and knowledge of people is er limited Mr MY s 's p people eople all aU live In Inthe Inthe inthe the east and antt they will be entertaining enter enter- taming for us and I know there Bre are certain social obligations i 1 I must repay I dont don't know just what these will wUl be but bul none the less whatever they are to be they worry inc me Perhaps you can give me some general instructions that will vill at least give me courage to go ahead with whatever there is to do and not to be ho too ignorant of the ways of ot doing things Thank you BRIDE Fortunately your to be will be entertaining for you before beCore you do so for them And since a persons person's station in life the amount of his income and his social standIng standIng standIng stand stand- Ing determine largely the kind of entertaining he docs does the thing for you to do is to watch learn and listen There will Vm no doubt be a variety of cf It social functions for Cor you Dinners Dinners Dinners Din Din- ners luncheons teas and breakfasts break break- fists fasts are the usual things and after you 1 0 have gone the rounds it will be Incumbent upon y you u t o have bave a little lItte dinner for your parents law and anda a tea a-tea tea for other relatives and near friends I N body expects a bride to do da the elaborate thing Your own little differences in refreshments and menus in new dishes silver and linens will largely make up for or elaborateness and will lend an air lr of distinction And dont don't worry about it If It youcan you youcan can un remain calm and Jid unruffled for your first dinner party your success success success suc suc- cess as a. a a. host hostess ss is assured for then your our guests also will be at ease and to make them so Is a a. great achievement One has to obtain a serenity and poise by his phIlos philosophy phy of at life ife by his l thinking that th-at nothing can be gained by worry w rry by displacing thoughts of ot possible failure by the positive thought that your best may later on be bettered by experience ex ex- and that the tho main thing is to radiate an atmosphere of serenIty serenity serenity seren seren- ity and happiness Many Man a simple mela has become a banquet under these circumstances My wishes for tor a lifetime of happiness VIEWPOINT Dear Miss Blair Everybody writes to your co col column coi- coi I. I so why not I Frequently I see sec letters in hi Hearts Heart's Haven from hous housewives s asking you how to remove stains and mildew Believing Believing Be Be- lieving that an ounce of prevention prevention prevention tion is worth a pound of cure I thought it might not be amiss to tell women who patronize commercial commercial com coin mercial laundries as well as those whose laundry is all aU done at home that when articles come out of ot the washtub in worse condition than when they the went vent in ten to toone toone toone one the dam damage ge was done before they reached the tub In the tho first place women should pay more attention about buying fast colors They cost a little littlemore littlemore littlemore more but they will more than pay for themselves in the end Every article put into the clothes hamper hamper hamper ham ham- per should go in dry Besides the possibility of ot spotting one articIe article ar ar- ar- ar tide ticIe with th the dyes of another there is the danger of ot attack by mildew which thrives on damp unaired household goods Also Id I'd d like to warn women who treat their dresser as as as- dust cloths just because they are arc going to the laundry to be bew w washed shed they are shortening the lives Jives of these articles as ground- ground in dirt is the hardest of ot all to re re- re e- e move A STITCH IN TIME Im I'm sure many a housewife will wUl appreciate these timely suggestions Especially are they good for young oung brides whose housekeeping duties are probably just beginning and who may be saved time and expense by yo your r forethought Come a again ain |