Show SUPERHUMAN EFFORT EXPECTED OF FRIEND IN FOURSOME PLANS I V. V I 4 T By BETTY BLAIR There are arc surmountable obstacles in every life that require will power and perseverance to overcome There are c basic emotional elements clements in every life that may be put under control but the price of doing so is often more than anything connected with the effort is worth r Dear Miss Blair True confessions ore are not In my line I rarely air my troubles to other than m my most intimate 1 friend This time I however I think my m ItI Ei rJ best friend or one II f A in a like predicament ill ill-Il C II ment ment-I ment I claim no noP I fl tl monopoly on predicaments P aments has aments has come conic cometo conica I- I I li I rM to your our comforting a I ill I shoulder with his tale talc of woe I refer 4 t- t to Obsessed Hit HU HUletter I letter described al almost almost al- al most exactly our present status f His effort eort at describing the condition con con- of his mind was easily understandable understandable un- un to me rile but I 1 feel that you ou have missed the main point Obsessed if he be my friend will be disappointed when he reads what you ou h have vc written him him He conies comes to you not asking asking ask- ask ing how he can break up our friendship but how he can relieve himself of oC his obsession Our friendship is even now far from front pretended It is real and vital You have not gone beneath his lines deeply enough h to realize the trul truly unusual man he ho is He Isone is isone isone one of those rarities who are arc above the failing you assume as as- sume sunie in him The Thc jealousy he confesses is subordinate to his desire to keep our relationship on its high plane True it is that his jealousy jealous takes some lome of the keenness out of our almost ideal masculine feeling for each other but it is in no wise strong enough to seriously jeopardize it Does Docs my point penetrate penetrate pene pene- M My motive in telling him about the relationship between his girl girland girland girland and myself arose from neither a desire to show of off my carnal abilities nor anything else so low On the other hand 1 I was motivated motivated mo no by circumstances in his life which strangely enough once paralleled what he is now going through He is very highly emotionally emotionally emotionally emo emo- developed and became ill from a broken heart when a girl he loved betrayed him I 1 told him about his present love and myself before their feelings for each cach other developed into what they are today and when I happened to foresee that they would because because because be be- cause I 1 wanted no recurrence of oC I what happened the last time he was in love His last journey into loveland happened long enough I ago to be forgotten We Ve are dealIng dealing dealing deal deal- ing with no child At the time I had the revealing r talk with him I knew that the day would come when his feedings would be hurt Yet on the whole I t J Letters questions and requests request for lor advice should be addressed to MISS BETTY LAIR BLAIR HEARTS HEART'S IIA HAVEN VEN TilE THE TELEGRAM SALT LAKE CITY Write legibly upon only one side of or the paper paler It Is necessary that tbt you ou append the ri right ht name and ami address but these hes vill ivill III be held in strict confidence dence and will III not appear in print Questions Involving advertising information information in in- formation cannot be answered I I it has worked out for lor the better I II because I did I Your advice to him to break up our foursome is all wrong That he will not do Besides my partner partner part part- ner ncr has no Sm silly Illusions about me She knows All he asks Is how liow the the- break brcak the think that has obsessed him All AllI I ask is to help me find a wa way that will break the thing tiling that has obsessed him Please help us HARDLY OBSESSED In no single statement in m my reply reply re- re ply Iy to Obsessed did I so much as intimate that the friendship between be- be tween you ou and him hint be broken up I 1 Ivas Iwas was vas ver very careful not to do this for forin forin forn in n trying to make malte a reply to so Important important im- im a matter and still keep within space limit I was fully aware that hat a fine friendship often outlasts love ove and in its endurance has great remedial powers My suggestion was ras that something be done to break breal breakup up p the foursome That a stop be made to the four of you making the he superhuman attempt to have gala ala times together I quote from your friends friend's letter lettero to o me But somehow I perceive a distinct difference in their attitude toward oward each cach other A too ionato and understanding look It Itis Itis Its is s ridiculous I 1 know However after the pride I swallowed to forget their affair 1 I bellve they should be specially especially careful about their relations rela- rela ons and conduct And I 1 am sur- sur prized that you ou an Intelligent man claim laim this bond of strong friendship and nd have been no more careful to tout put ut yourself in your our emotional friends friend's shoes to at least partially sense the agony of spirit for which you ou are arc responsible and through which he must go each time he sees his lis b beloved and you ou exchanging the thc too too affectionate and understanding look ook You do no less than throw red hot lot coals in his pathway and leave hint him no alternative but hut to walk over them hem barefooted And you OU expect him lim to emerge with no blisters on his lis feet feeL There are ascetics in India who arc are able to do this very vcr thing ling and to overcome others of natures nature's laws Jaws but for the overcoming overcoming ing ng of some laws they pay all too dearly early in the fact that the they must break man many human laws in order to o attain this status And that is exactly what you are asking your friend to do or asking me to help the ic two of oC you do As well ask me meo meto meto to o be an alchemist You arc are cx- cx of him hint a superhuman feat whIch if he accomplishes he will willay pay ay for dearly enough You cant can't put a man on the rack and nd torture his limbs without lag ing ng those limbs in crippled condi- condi tion on Neither can you put the soul of f a man through the torture chamber chamber cham- cham ber jer from which there is no relief and nd expect him to emerge a normal hum human uman n being The day of martyrs and nd saints has passed The day of ghoulish fiends as the outcome of tortured souls is still at its height Come be a friend to your friend in n a practical wa way You will be doing much for him if you OU can get him to laugh with you ou over the enire entire entire en- en I tire ire situation But even laughter cant can't dispel what hi his eyes ees tell his soul every t time me he sees you ou and the thc girl jirl he loves in intimate converse Space is alread already more than covered for or one problem Thanks for coming corning com com- ing ng to clear some matters up The nearer both you ou and get ct to the comforting shoulder the he more you arc are likely to find prickly thorns in probing for th the truth ruth of any situation be betine tine inc if in further converse we might get at still more truth AMBITIOUS A GIRL Dear Miss Blair I have just been graduated from rom high school I have no capital of any kind to back me but wondered wondered wondered won won- dered if there was any work worle on the order of Rangers for girls I am also very fond of making crepe paper lowers flowers and I have been told that I do very well Is there any way I could get into that work I have tried it in this town but with very little success Thanking you for your help GRADUATE Stenographic work for lor girls is that in most demand In forest ranger anger work worl However in the national national na- na lonal park parl service there is an opening opening open open- ing ng for girls to do field work worl that thatis is is to gather field notes and plants Write the National Park Service Washington D. D C C. and the United States Forest Service Regional Office Ogden Have you tried placing your our crepe paper flowers in all the shop windows windows win- win dows lows in your our town for window decorations with the understanding that hat the flowers are arc to be changed with with the changing seasons The flower lower seasons change more rapidly than han do calendar seasons and if you ou could place your orders it would probably keep you busy making the necessary changes This has been done lone very successfully here PETS FOR FOIt GIFTS GIFIS Good homes are arc asked for a mother cat eat and three cr very cunning and well iveli mannered kittens See Sec them hem at lU South Seventh West Vest cst street Dear Miss Blair The parents of the boy with whom I have been keeping company company com corn pany have invited me to accompany accompany pany them and him on a motor trip this summer This invitation invitation invitation tion came as a great surprise as ns asI asI I am sure the parents dont don't es especially es- es like lile me though the boy does My mother thinks it would be nice for me to make the trip but I hesitate doing so as I 1 dont don't understand wh why they have asked me Can you ou help to settle my mind Thank you ou uJ JANE ANE Perhaps the parents arc are making the he attempt to know you better and ando to o verify their sons son's excellent reports reports re- re ports orts of you If Ie you would be happy In n taking the trip and your mother approves b by all means do so 50 There is nothing like close association between between between be be- tween people to settle a number of points |