Show GIRLS GIRL'S EMOTION LACK REFLECTED IN REMARK OFFENDS BOYS BOY'S PRIDE Entertainment for Bridal Part Party Can Seldom Employ J Games Bachelor Exhorted to Pathway of Love by Americans American's Foreign Wife By BETTY BLAIR I J Sentiment and sentimentality sentimentality-if if people could only learn io to encourage the first and discourage the second how much misunderstanding could be avoided Depth of feeling exercised exercised exer exer- with dignified control commands a respect that emotional emotional emotional emo emo- gush can never warrant Dear Miss Blair I wonder J if there was ever a girl in such auch a predicament as I I. I am not the silly sentimental p kind and yet if it itI I I were probably I It t 1 would know exI exactly ex I ii IK what to do dou u now flow I have been I III going with a boy I II ii I who becomes very N IL-N melodramatic i 1 In n II his lovemaking He Is so ro o over over- overwhelmingly t wh in inlove inlove love with me that he loses all an his poise poke and dignity Unfortunately I have spoken about his extreme emotionalism to a friend and somehow the fact act has been passed back to him He HeIs HeIs Heis Is furious with m me and accuses me Inc of laughing at him behind his I back and of trying trIng to make a fool of him I have tried to tell him I thinka think a great deal of ot him but because I am not the emotional type myself my my- self Leif I am am unable to understand I it It and merely made the remark to my friend to that effect I think In n passing ln it on the friend made the most of the story however for her own benefit as she has hRs always l liked ked the boy extremely well I J Of Ot course he has lied fled to her herfor herfor herfor for comfort and consolation though I am sure he is still stil in inlove inlove inlove love with me inc She is salving his hurt pride and he is loving it The worst of ot it is Ls there isn't a thing In the world I can do about it but look on with a sardonic grin that I should have been such a fool to play directly and to my disadvantage into their hands I am honestly very fond of ot this boy He is a boy of ot excellent habits habib and of ot intelligence His His' worst fault is that he permits his emotions to spill over but Im I'm sure that given time he would learn more emotional control I Iam am not willing th the other girl should make him think he Is an abused creature and that she is I his only friend That sort of soft soft- soaping is the worst thing that could possibly happen to him But my hands seem tied What shall or can I do AT ALL J J A Letters questions and re requests re re- quests for advice should be addressed to MISS BETTY BLAIR BIAm HEARTS HEART'S DA HAVEN VEN TELEGRAM SALT LA LAKE K E CITY Write legibly upon only one ODe side of the paper It n Is I necessary that you append append ap apo ap- ap pend the right name and address address address ad ad- dress but these will wUl be held In strict confidence and will wUl not appear In print Questions Involving In In- vol ln advertising Information informs informs- lion tion cannot be answered t Write or make arrangements to talk to the young man and in your forthright way tell him it is perfectly Idiotic that you should behave like a couple of children Tell him he must have discovered faults in you which 1 if he had used the same indiscretion I as you used might have been casually casual casual- ly mentioned to a friend unwisely sely trusted But If he had done so you wouldn't have expected that a friendship friendship friendship friend friend- ship as lovely as yours should have been broken up because of it Tell Tel him you respect the depth of ot feeling he has had f for r you but ut because aus of ot your own training and self discipline you had never been accustomed to seeing such depth of feeling expressed openly That it surprised you and that unwisely you mentioned it to a friend who evidently misinterpreted your reactions to it There is little else you can do except except ex ex- to express your our very deep r re regard regard re- re gard for him but to warn him that perhaps after all his affection for you has been misplaced if ft he was looking for a girl who could be very demonstrative demon- demon Better to give him an opportunity opportunity to build up his own defense defens for this statement than for you to make the the attempt to do so yourself For once he is placed in the position of having havn to defend you ou he can forgive you for your our error if it his love in genuine BRIDAL ENTERTAINMENT El Dear Miss Blair My daughter i. i is being married and her wedding Is to be bC a quiet Jo affair A few evenings after the marriage we wish to entertain for tor members of the family and a afew few tew close friends Dancing will vIll not be possible and the guests will be both young an and old Will you please tell us a form of entertainment entertainment entertainment en en- for the evening other V than musical numbers We do not wish to have It Inthe In Inthe inthe the manner of a reception as we weare weare weare are requesting that there be no gifts Sifts Their residence is to be out o of the state so the party could 0 really be a sort of farewell Would games be appropriate ItIs It ItIs Is 15 to be very informal so ro what kind of ot invitations in should we use Thank you ou MOTHER l Musical numbers interspersed with clever readings suitable to the occasion occa occa- t sion zion conversation and the time taken to serve refreshments may provide an evenings evening's entertainment suitable for tor the occasion without the use of games Barnes It is my opinion you ou would I find difficulty in managing games with so mixed a crowd You may even en find there Is to be an excellent radio musical program on for that evening and be able to use A it as 35 part of the entertainment for the guests Usually U on occasions of o this nature 4 I f r Ii 4 f AJi people eople very closely allied by relationship rela rela- and friendship love to visit with each other and the interspersions of f music musk and a reading or two 1 if 11 you OU wish Is all that is necessary for en en- and lends a little more dignity to the occasion than would games Telephone calls caUs or informal notes may be used wed to invite the gu guests es 13 ADVISES BACHELOR Dear Miss Blair In your column I read Bachelors Bachelors Bache lors plea for whom the love element had not yet entered his life although he Is now in his thirties He claims to be an atheist atheist athe athe- 1st and I should like to ask him how he can expect love to enter into his life lie when he has himself excluded it itI I wonder If it he has ever stopped to think of the source from which love originates If divine love loveis is not within him how can be expect ex cx- to attract it Two men were building a house The first a very skillful architect built a mansion of marble marble marble mar mar- ble a beautiful structure indeed As he stood aside to admire it a cold chill chIU pa passed ed down his spine He began bean to criticize criticise it He was not satisfied with his work something something some some- thing was missing but what A second sc-cond man built a small bungalow white also with green shutters and a flower garden around It As he stood aside v vis visualizing via via- s- s his loved ones who were to occupy it his heart filled with joy and thankfulness for the precious precious precious pre pre- I cious gifts gift he was about to re re- re The little house howe became beeam alive radiating t. t the e love that was In his own heart filling it with warmth Joy happiness peace Get down from your our pedestal of egotism and criticism Bachelor Bache lor lore and open your our heart to receIve receive re re- re- re th tha Great Love Then and then only will you experience the thereal thereal thereal real value of living and your wish will be fulfilled But first sweep out all the artificiality in your heart You do not have to believe in m any man made creeds for they arc are all just so many pathways to I the great creal Auditorium YANKEES FOREIGN WIFE WIlL 4 1 11 |