Show s It Reared kared ared With Grandmothers Grandmother's s 's Ideals Girl Finds Intemperance Unbearable I And Seeks Protection for Sweetheart S r Elect Bridegroom Worries About Elaborate l I j Wedding Caller Us Uses s Poor Pooi Judgment Judgment Judg Judg- 1 ment Serving Serving Piece Piece By BETTY BLAIR BLADt 1 If the person S most concerned is not stronger than his j own lawn i appetites it is a waste of time for another rega regardless I of the strength of other her love to agonize over him But there are self-regulatory self forces stronger than appetites When i these can be set in motion then and then only may one ct reform expect jI V k exp i 1 Dear Miss Blair i This mi letter letteris is going to tobe be quite quile a Q task to make clear to you as ns I Ii feel that Im I'm in the i 1 wrong and you ou i know how hard it is isto I u j i-i i t. t i to condemn oneself I I I have ha been going with a fellow forI for J I I over a year now and it has been steady When we started going goI go go- 0 ing with each ench other I he was what you'd roud roudi I e call a 11 a h heavy e a v i V. V drinker His reputation reputation Jt tation bUon wasn't up to j. j par and was pretty risky It started with s sympathy I believe that I went out with him But then I realized that I loved him more f i.- i. than I lean Ican can express Now this felI fellow fellow fel fel- fel- fel low knew that t I wouldn't stand I for drinking and smoking and so 5 he has stopped completely And December 5 he hasn't 1 f since last f 1 touched a nor liquor or in any form It makes me mc feel proud and happy to think that he would do that tha for me mc i But what's whal's troubling me is this I l' l was reared by m my grandmother and restrictions and her ideas were branded In my soul so deeply that Im I'm called a 1 that I believe S little narrow minded Finally j I moved over over here with my mother and stepfather Here things were so different that I Ii for a time by i was vas bewildered a what whal was going on They held S wild p parties L Liquor quor flowed freely also beer The sights that I 1 saw would make my mr blood run heard I cold The language my ray hair stand on end Now comes my problem and andI I 1 need it badly I I need help i I 1 know in my heart that an 0 occasional oc I glass of beer beef wont won't hurt t. t a anyone nOne And when people offer It to my sweetheart it would be berude i rude trude to refuse There is such a 3 S thing as being courteous But it makes me sulk sulky and hard to get when it is men men- along with with even even Every time beer is mentioned mentioned men men- memories flash to my ray mind mindS about some some of ot the things I have S seen and it neatly nearly breaks m my heart hearL But Miss Blair if it you had S t seen some of the sights I have ve you would be able to see my side lit i S. S of it But to people I appear radical radi rad- 4 I cal and narrow minded I don dont don't t 4 I- I want to be di different erent from other K people and have them call me a 0 t poor sport But I cant can't seem eem to stand it when Isee my friend d act ac- ac t j k a glass ot harmless beer I It t have seen what it will do to toI people Wakes Makes them feeble feeble- minded Idiots all of them I Please help me e to broaden my mind and ideals Can you understand understand under under- stand the agony I am going through Always afraid that a aI I bev beverage rage will be mentioned and it it- it will ruin my whole evening 1 I would like someone else's views also I must be made sure that I 1 am wrong and then I must have someone tell me what to do doso doso doso so it wont won't cause any more snore quarrels quarrels quarrels between us U.S. I am fully convinced eon con vinced that I am only going to toV V break us up and that will cause S him to go back to drinking again Can you get from this III ill typed t letter what I am trying to put over Thank you so sa much for your your time and space I remain remaina a faithful reader PUZZLED We are all aU of us the pr product duct of our environment and experiences Your early tr training in your grandmothers grandmother's home as contrasted ste with the revoltIng revolting revolt revolt- I ing lag scenes cenes you have witnessed in your in-your your i mothers mother's home have embedded in you I this thiS' fear of alcoholic beverages It ItIs Itis is therefore quite natural naturel that you should wish with all your our heart and soul to protect one whom you dearly love from the slightest step that might cause him to retrograde into th that t condition con con- which you most mOt dread You are doubly anxious on his aeI account ac ae- account count because you know how much I easier it is Js for one who has acquired the taste for liquor to backslide into 1 intemperance rance But you must be sure that if it your sweetheart cannot wage i this fight night or Jor or himself if he himself is J not not wholly converted to the necessity for temperance perance your cause is lost I He will reform only until he is sure of you and then all your anxiety your I effort for him will be be unavailing You will always hate liquor and its reactions and will be made unhappy beca because C of it APP APPETITE SE SELF REGULATORY REGUL TORY It Jt is f for r this r reason n that I 1 urge that I once and for all you state your position position peal peal- tion in regard to it and leave the rest restI I up to him You can suffer you can agonize over the fact fact- that someone will offer him a glass of beer which wilch 1 or ormay may not not take but you can never with all all y your all your lUr agonizing change his taste lor jA nor Ilor control his will willie toI to I I take it or leave it alone This he must I do for himself himself because something inside in side him greater than his taste for liquor or his his his' will to take take take-t it urges him not not to do doso so This something must not be a necessity necessity sity that is transitory It must be besom som something that controls him like a liv ing fire Men have reformed for love th that t possessed them as long as they lived they have reformed because of religious conversion they have reformed reformed re re- re- re formed because their reasoning powers pow ers for their own health and well heIng being be he- ing have been neen stronger than their ap I J pc petites it but they ey have never reformed against their appetites and nd their own ownS S will willie to do so merely because someone S else was set Seton on having them reform And so JO dear child if you cant can't c convert con convert con con- n 1 ve vert t yo your r sweetheart to refuse the glass of beer for his sake you had hadJ J just as well give up trying for your own as your efforts will be futile 1 l And do not not- think it is so rude for forone J 4 one one wishing t to do s so o for forny hay ny ny reason reason wh whatever to refuse a glass of beerS beer S 'S S Some me p people ople dont don't t like e garlic either I 1 and It JUs Itis is not considered rude rud 1 if they j f i refuse to eat it People eople are not notI J I bound any ny more marc by a Q convention t 1 that demands demands' that th they y do co in Rome Rom Romeus T I us Rome does They do pretty prell much mucha I a a th they like and d f can with courtesy I. I i i IC JI 1 Letters questions and TC- TC Te- Te quests for advice should be addressed ad addressed dressed to MISS BETTY BLAIR HEARTS HEART'S HA HAVEN VEN TELEGRAM SALT LAKE Write legibly upon only one side of the paper It is necessary that you append append append ap ap- pend the right name and address address address ad ad- dress but these will vill be held in strict confidence and will vIll not appear in print Questions involving involving involving in in- advertising information cannot be answered Letters requiring personal reply must be accompanied by stamped seif addressed self envelopes Ed dismiss a glass of beer as as ai easily as they do a bad cook POOR BRIDEGROOM I Dear Miss Blair I am engaged to be married to toa toa toa a girl who h has s been accustomed to having everything she wants She knows I am poor but she has nevertheless Consented to Ie marry me and share my condition The thing that has me upset is that she insists insists' on having a great wedding wed ding with all the paraphernalia that goes with weddings This embarrasses me a greet great deal because because because be be- cause all my friends know it is out of keeping with anth anything ng I Ican Ican Ican can afford for her afterward Do you think I should try to persuade her to have a simple wedding in keeping with my own circumstances circumstances circumstances circum circum- stances Thank you ou LUCKY No Lucky I do not And Ill I'll tell you why The bride be will be married but once we hone haDe It is her wedding her parents p pay py y for it she is entitled to all that their liberality or means can afford And there is no reason reMon in the world why you should be embarrassed It is not your fu You must not consider for tor one moment moment mo mo- ment that anybody expects expects' you to carry on in the grand manner to which she has been accustomed or which the wedding sugg suggests You are merely a figurehead at the the- wedding You wont won't even get your picture in inthe inthe the he paper So stop slop worrying and let the little elect bride-elect satisfy her souls soul's craving for the most mast gorgeous wedding wedding wed wed- ding she can reasonably have before she settles down to happily share your circumstances and arid love TIRESOME CALLER Dear Miss Miss Blair I am am a business woman and am being inflicted with a tiresome c caller who comes in every day makes himself at et home in the chair reserved for business callers callers call call- ers and ke keeps ps me me from my work for at least an hour every day What would be bea a nice way to get rid of him Thank you MRS F. F Rise as if it waiting for him to leave If f this has no effect plead pleada a pressing engagement and Id nd prepare to leave your room oom A re repetition of this once or twice wice should convince him he is wasting wasting wasting wast wast- ing your valuable time Ume SERVING UTENSILS Dear MisS MisS' Blair Is it always necessary to have two silver serving pieces on a dish when it is being passed at ot dinner ORA It is always better to do so as both servIng erving spoon and fork can be used to o greater advantage than the attempt to o use one piece |