Show CHILDS CHILD'S FEAR SHOULD I NOT BE E EMPHASIZED I S YET r NOT t SUPPRESSED Parent Should Find Means of- of Own for Minimizing in ing g Terror Bring your problems about diet general care and management to Mrs 1 Eld Eldred ed in care of the Your Baby Biby and Mine lInc department of ibis this newspaper Your questions will vill be answered promptly If you will a self addressed 3 cent stamped envelope with your letter Jetter By MYRTLE 1 MEYER l ELDRED 1 Usually Us it is comparatively easy to trace irace the fount from which a a childs child's fears spring Loud sounds dist disturb rb all small babies and b because their these thes' are marked they arc are Inclined to be afraid of ot vacuum sweepers riveting machines thunder thun jhun- hun der and other loud noises nokes when they get older In addition to this natural fear of loud sounds the child mirrors very accurately those accurately those t fears ars which the parent parent par par- ent harbors however clever she thinks think herself at concealing them The child feels that there must be something to fear when his mother calls to him anxiously Hurry Huny home its it's going to storm He feels his mothers mother's tenseness when she threatens to put him in alights a al l lights light gh when it is growing dark or When she to put him in a adark adark dark closet or tells him not to be afraid of a dark room Th There re is certain tain lain then to be an assumption ass that in some way the storm can hurt him or the darkness has terrors though unexplained Excessive conversation about those fears which the child displays display is an effective way of increasing them The child knows there io is importance in those things to which his mother pays pas unusual attention He is not adverse to continuing his exhibitions of naked terror when it is storming when he has heard over and over again how terribly afraid he is of storms One of or my own memories is of a girl companion who always ran into the bedroom and put her head under a pillow when it thundered And there she stayed until un un- un til convinced that the storm was over Not Ion foi worlds would she have foregone foregone foregone fore fore- gone doing what we all expected her to do when a storm broke This fear of storms is commonplace and parents might do better belter betterin in some cases to accept it and ignore it than to try to argue or laugh the child out of it a course which usually in his response to it Better to let Jet him act as he feels he wants to act and pretend not to notice it and certainly do not discuss it later no matter what he docs does When the lightn lightning ng streaks bril brio across the dark sky and the thunder crashes say rather make the flowers lowers spring up or when the rain falls in torrents say How badly the earth needs this Stories about storms will have to b be made up by the ingenious mother it would seem for the life of me I 1 cant can't think of one to suggest But mother can if she puts her mind to it and such stories give the child a growing understanding of of- the phenomena phenomena phe which are a part of daily living liv liv- ing Let him express his fears until he overcomes them naturally Suppressed Suppressed Sup Sup- pressed fears take strange forms and andare arc are sometimes accountable for lor behavior be havior baylor seemingly unrelated to them I with a flat circle of black sequins The muff is made of alternate strips S Sor o of or velvet and sequin bands and the tin set is designed for smart informal I wear |