Show J i lr f. t t I M t g T. T th Jot t 1 r i r t I v t 1 t j r f t. t j 1 r I to J I 1 c. c I f t 1 t t L t 4 t Y G CLIN G E j i I GING IN L Lr LI I N. N t. t r j iI li of C t 4 i I. I ti t yf 0 j 5 lt t. t J J. J tf M Melt en M I r R hem hemr rn r rot po 1 Fr U f rg Many tr r L s- s r r iZ 1 v f lidl 1 ANY M-ANY ANY Y ANYa a Man Has as Risen to Success 4 if r LIr J Ji s rr fr 7 1 L t the S i r. r J Because o Spiritual N Nourishment u i j J 1 l Spouse a Spineless t H fI Has Given Says y S D Dr r. r I IraIS Ira ra t. t t r Lo f I S I 1 I A ALo J r t V l' l W S IS- IS WI Wile e the Psychiatrist an and anden 4 1 t 1 l 0 t 1 Often f ten Its It's B Because s H Her er H Helplessness l 4 en t s e r r. r t X 1 r v Jj frt y t p h 7 r 1 In Inflates sits His Ego j o an and Makes j v J I. tr 1 E s t l x t h a Him Jn F Feel l lm Important 1 1 P r ic 1 t i 4 I f J i C Y J fr r I r r tT t 1 t J w. w f c r i E f t tP P LI k r y 0 t A J. 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W they hey t. t J simply didn't use their r Intelligence e r 1 1 r Dr Ira Inv 8 S. Wile well psychia J I t i f. f tract trist educator tor and author b believes lM s that i l while these marriages are re contracted for tor or 4 1 an any number ol of reasons in la the majority of 01 J- J Jt t 1 cases these people didn't know what the they 4 were getting when the all Important all 4 I 4 tion w was S asked it 1 of all he said aId when the li person persons marries be hennas Chas bas not as S yet set manifested all the qualities ez of his Pr- Pr fe I character chae er whether r it jt is great is great grea energy and anda nd a intuitive Initiative or spinelessness These traits n are are not ot evident until lat later r when when they devel develop p as as' s' s the result of Hof changed hangea condl- condl o dl- dl r 1 r in living The Tho woman may therefore therefore there there- f ij fore not fiat know now until after her marriage t that thit well whoN who who- she has bas married a do well do N L will be tio nothing i but buL an ornament round around d s 's the house grouse She begins begin's to realize e th that t If U f ri the aha js M to get get- anywhere the she wi will have to carry carri the he load for tor or both of them arid and she s ie starts to take the Initiative Gradually r. r i i ri h site arie develops such such- ch qualities e as as' as self reliance Industry an and l will power which y i the she he rhay th Y not 1 t nave have possessed essed before Conversely el the m man ri who finds s that t h he has h married Irl a a. clinging v. v vine who Y who g. g lends lends' him 1 no o su P or t w whatever gr grits grits grits' ts his c teeth teeth and and buckles down t to work an u Q energy energy- ero tl that t. t h he has hitherto r o p never cr dess des dis d s' s played playe M Many any fa Ii man has bas r risen en to success m f tx be use of thc spiritual nourishment I I which ahle hl J sA in eles wife i c i i h haj has given gl him Had s he be had a f. f 3 more c capable p cud rud efficient partner he probably would not have adan ad ad- Y an a v far On the other r hand 1 I have hav inq frequently seen n ns cas s s where a a mans man's t essl And wealth al b lave Have c metamorphosed m i s1 A f 5 a woman ID into a w t ie f and D A selfish Sh crea w Qt Ol course coune 5 smiled Dr Vl Wile e wb we we all aft i ii i I i Arnow tn t that there are re men c W who Q deliberately it seek leek seeka leeka a clinging clinging- vine vino type I of pI woman because be- be 4 1 cause a c She inflates their ego eo a and d makes make l th them ti t reel strong a and d important n The y t i-t helpless ti bi of oI femininity cm ri who wha always u need needs man g to revive lve her and toh t er t. t f ii to irM r frequently glorified Ir It novels hovels and plays s 4 q as u the 4 that b t gentlemen e 1 marry i 1 Today with I b the modern woman proving proy- proy 1 tag ing Bhe e every bit the tl c equal of 01 man in n nc c intellect t and tn in e arp P and even in n If ft at strength weare like to throw a epithets tithe r i cr likely at t tI I s the thc clinging vine and to disparage her ber as s 1 much as we But it seems to m mx me that x e i this is b unfair because whet when you you cou con 1 4 1 1 r it It she has been iD th the e ideal deal of wan man J t. C f. f l r I 1 r il f r f. f fi q i if L Yf l 1 t r A Why f R Romance Fades Fade FadeL r F FUNDAMENTAL L reason why so man many ny marA mar mar- ar- ar 4 A faili ail says says r pr i Wile is Is be because ause pur our our a ideals eals of nia matrimony rimo y are ie entirely t too o high I. I 4 E f Happiness in marriage depends depends' on the ability to live and to grow side sid by side with each rf other cither and to recognize the p ts differs nee I that are essen essential t to individuality f. f 1 I Instead of f a I lawyer wyer a referee should be r consulted in M c in many c cases ses Many ny difficulties i t t. I r 1 0 d t J t that h at lead ea d. d to divorce r I I 1 S fr f- f r r I II I I for man many ages Woman was encouraged to to be bey weak c and and nd helpless est and arid r to to r vely lY on mans man's strength Now when we find Ond a continuity of that type why why Insult her or condemn het After all al ts n no Judge of what a a wife brings a man a-man man n In her marriage H Her r very spinelessness n 5 may tay awaken k powers In the man man W which h ne e dreamed cd he possessed essed and may stimulate till a achievement She may may provide pro provide pro pro- vide b him m with Just the inc Incentive that he be needs But far be It from rom me mc to say that every ma man can n get along with a clinging vine There are are many and man many and i-and and I do not refer refer- to masculine weaklings to to whom such sucha a 3 woman is a detriment Instead of being stimulated the husband finds that his bis energy Is being sapped He He Hebe becomes be becomes be be- comes so sc exhausted from cat catering ring to her whims' whims and fancies that he Is Is unable able to accomplish anything hg in his tivo If a woman woma wants to o be A she must make sure that she gets gets' the right person eIon to io Un to otherwise her m marriage arriage may end In disaster f r The difficulty is though that tt it until after marriage that one begins to Ito know wh what f sort of a person one has has has- chosen chose lor tor r r a a mate Only one one side or ot l a ap p personality U is In evidence e during court court- ship What Is more the lovers try tty t to magnify their theu- virtues and to minimize their f faults as much as as possible Each plays plays' a 3 role which h will be be pleasing to theother the 9 other beI Of course o it isn't t only d during rl l j courtship that w ae we play playa a part but bait butin l in l o relationships our r rel with other people e as aswell s swell well For F i instance we act acV one ilC way way wayt t to to our paren parents another way vay to our sisters sisters sisters' and brothers Whether we we arc are in in tn inthe the house or or o outside ol oT it al u. u makes ak s' s sa a Dif dif dU Terence ference To our o our r business associates O our our l friends and our employers ers w we show bow 5 iu different dl erent sides pi of our our per t ct BUT UT in marriage we must most ni st cam foth Q P iO forth forthwith h O with every sI must be eso so o many different to the other We r must play parts that we never nc assumed assume assumed before and we we must l learn arn how to c cope pc with varying mo moods moods' Thus in the business o of t i l ving t together getner in the little tU intimacies pt of t daily life our true selves arc are bound tobe to tobe be revealed revealed- However ever It la- la lanot not only our our Inability to know every side of ones one's personality per per- personality b before f r marriage e that 1 makes it t so 59 much of a a. a al gamble camble but the feet fact too that that marriage marriage- itself brings about about- pr profound foUnd changes hanges in to character in traits and in opinions Hence an entirely new per pcr- cr may be created Fortunately the e e e eare are many any nays ways V l which one can can- eliminate considerable considerably guesswork so liO thit one nc can select a par partner er with some degree of Intern intelli- j t J I i r I L r t O 4 t J r could thus e s be s sol solved olye ved d. d I I There ere is Is too much I P Pa prosperity ty we If-we we had hada d a great industrial co cor collapse col r r lapse and nd people N r r were re f for forced 0 r d to struggle I V again the divorce rate would d decrease u r j H ft y Dr Dr Ira ra S. S Wile w well well- JI- JI y known ps psychiatrist s r t educator and author i w. w J. J y r J. J 1 nc and understanding A planned education for marriage would give our oury y young ung people a ke keener estimate of values value and teach them t that at there Ulue must be other foundations for happiness beside the emo- emo response response This ThIs' course would also l Include chide the ithe study tudy of ot physical end psycho psychological o- o logical problems that c come up in to mar mar- difficulties that one must race face face the thc qu question o ol or laws In the care and aad discipline of children and and a 8 discussion of or the outside factors that tend to disrupt file dis r rupt lt marriage In n addition they t ey would woula b be advisee to consult to-consult r consult a p physician y or a psychiatrist before marrying f Moreover I 1 would ask any ons n con coh- contemplating I marriage to consi consider r questions as s Why Wh am I J marrying this person How great reata a likelihood of f cam c com com- is Is there in our cu outlook ook upon upon life In l interests and hobbles In re re- re Does Doe his 1113 e complement com t mine or doe does It clash How bow do dowe dowe we we stand o on m the the- matter of having having- children chil dren Such an an un unemotional Inquiry would would prevent many an n unworthy imar from being being- contracted contracted- One of the he distinct benefits that theman the theman theman man would derive fro from such a cour course c oi of oi education and pre marital consultation would be br an insight Into woman Dwan Dr Wile Wiley believes that tha to tile the average ma man man- she is Ls still sun v very ry much of 8 a mystery because there Is 13 Just Jus more frankness y between the hc sexes today he lie said does pot hot mean mean that man has any keener tn- tn in insight sight Into womans woman's nature Of course coune her mystery has diminished considerably In In re recent e years be because ause she li hat gained tings thIngs that tha t make her more Clore like a man maa SO Sonic Some e of the he prerogatives that s. s she now cow enjoys were regarded only a generation ago to be be U the c sole ole poss possession lon of or man But while woman h has become a a freer individual in individual m- m dual that does docs not necessarily mean meaD that we know mud much more about her tier There Thera are differences Idi that fuaL exist between theman th the m man man n and the woman both physical and psychological that make it difficult for forman forman man l n to o understand u dc ian her ber hert t since man has been the pursuer urs cr woman oman has re realized it itis is rs to her advantage U ft keep him guessing g. g He e rarely ever sees the actuality behind the elaborate feminine defenses that hide tilde h her r from him With economic and soda social conditions practically forcing the w woman man to become a reticent type it virtually has nas been harder for the man to make her o out t. t Woman on the other hand band has a better understanding of man marl First of all aU he hag haa ha always done more talking Then being the pursuer the dc dominant nant one and nd the breadwinner It lt was up to woman to learn Jeam all she he could about him Theis is no not a trait that ma man has t that t woman hasn't hunt but there is b a vast ti's 11 v t f i ih h il Jr I ai f rii A nd r r 7 1 h M f 6 a r Gs rr r 1 n ia I Y m Y rr I z M X v r f yN l' l a t i t e 3 7 i y Q re ref f p Kr y r of r C r fi nR 14 a N t a Nii Jei o LZ j r 2 A F 2 z- z J During courtship days dais a a man or Dr a maid sees only best lJ side dc of the he hec f c. future life partner avers vita Dr Wile Nile as as' as lie ho explains some of the various ar ous for a and d d causes unhappiness disappointment In marriage f dt difference in the psychological approach That is why social psychology the study of ot the ment mental l and em emotional relations relations' m of or human beings to each other should should be bea a apart apart a. a part of our course of education It can Ican cando cano do o much to create reate gre greater tu h harmony be between between between be- be tween mend men and women and to help th them m achieve success In their marriage r rela rela- rela IN N HIS HIS' book Marria Marriage c in th the Modern lod Manner which he he wrote with Hh MaryDay Mary MaryDay MaryDay Day Winn Dr Wile gives practical help and guidance ce for married folk tolk based edon on his years years' of experience e In solving marital mantal difficulties s. s The rhe fact that he shows shows' that marriage can can be saved with a a little un understanding understanding understanding un- un strongly Indicates that happiness hap hap- happiness Ir lr marriage is no idle dream When when this was mentioned to the psychiatrist he said Barring unusual circumstances every marriage can be a happy one providing that thaL the contracting parties know something something some some- thing at 01 It Its te technique and do not hot expect the impossible from the union The fundamental r reason son why so many many of t. t our our marriages fall taU Is because because our ideals of or matrimony are arc entirely too high It ro romantic romantic ro- ro mantic mantle lov love dies as as It IL must if u there are differences 10 of opinion or if ii difficulties arise as they are bound to then it St StIs is thought that the thc marriage Is Is' Isa a mistake No unmarried |